Monday, June 29

Yoni Wisdom

My eager hand presses between my legs warming my Yoni. I'm curled on my side in a nest of pillows at a weekend tantra retreat. My randomly selected partner is spooning me from behind. In this "yoni speak" exercise, his role is to ask my vagina what she wants, then listen, without jugdement to the deep wisdom of my womb.
We follow the teachers instructions:
I guide his free hand to rest on top of mine, flowing additional attention to my yoni. Then he asks:
"What does your yoni want?"
"I want Time & Patience."
"What does your yoni really want?
"I want adoration and respect."
After several rounds of these standard answers, my yoni begins to really speak:
"I want your full attention. I want to go away for the get a break from the kids and computers, ringing phones, and even our spouses.
I want you to undress me...slow and lovingly. Strip my clothing off with intention, and watch as gravity takes each garment to the ground.
I want to dance naked for you. Sit down, listen to the percussion music and I'll show you how my body is designed to move. Undulating my hips and breasts and curves to arouse your animal desire.
I want to exhale my hot breath in your mouth, then hold you down and tear off your clothes.
I want to trace my teeth across your neck while scratching your shoulders.
I want you to roll me over and ravish me. Let your body do what it is designed to do. Pausing only briefly to get condoms and lube, perhaps an occasional check-in, but with the sunlight through the hotel window, you'll see the fire in my eyes. The YES burning in my soul. And after our hot animal climax. We'll float down to the mattress and slip between the sheets, entangle our limbs and undress eachother again... this time, emotionally.
I want to get to know you, and all the things that really matter. We could bear our souls. Talking not about politics, philosophy or even religion, but the raw, real truth as it occurs under our skin. We can laugh and be silly at the same time. I want to feed you cut mango and organic berries from Trader Joes. We would take turns listening and speaking until we forget who's turn it is.
I want to smell and taste and tickle you and when the urge arises again, we would follow our desire. This time from the heart.
I want to open and invite you into my soft pink inner sanctum.
I want NOT to care what happens next, just move into each moment, without agenda.
And at the end of the weekend, after three full days of this, I want to be so satisfied that I can go home and concentrate on my career and my son. And when my husband asks, how did it go? I'll say, "Come here, let me show you..." And he'll be grateful to you. Thank you."
I say, slipping into silent revelry.
"Thank you." My random partner says with no judgment.
"Namaste." The teacher says completing the exercise.

TantraNova Man in San Diego

This Clip is an segment from Zental's famed "TantraNova Man" Show when it was performed at the Emerald Temple in 2009. To purchase the full show please go to!

Thursday, June 25

Breaking up is hard to do... (compassionatly)

28 Tantra and Poly peeps showed up for Last nights Pot-luck and Talk, including three Emerald temple virgins! We shared a wonderful feast, then went into the meditation room to dance barefoot before the tantra talk.
The topic was "Compassionate Break ups," something I've been wrestling with alot lately. I was nervous and excited, not only because of the personal nature of the talk, but because it was the first time I would video tape an event for my new online university. It's fascinating to see how my ego got activated by the thought of being watched by unknown people in the nebulous future. Perhaps with more experience in front of the camera, I'll lean to relax and be myself, but for now, I put on a tight black dress, my best face (make up too) and moved through a fair amount of self-consciousness.
I opened the conversation with a story about how my parents had a ruthless and bloody divorce, that involved knives and red nail polish, but it is a hell of a lot more compassionate than if these two people stayed together for the rest of their lives!

Here are some thought provoking notes and questions from the talk itself:
Icebreaker: Who are you in relation to breaking up?
Are there any mainstream examples of mature spiritual and compassionate breakups?
What is the distinction between mongomous breakups and polyamorous "transitions"?
Why does breaking up affect our energy and our personal power?
What is the tantric perspective on relationship? On breaking up?
Why do we welcome change?
How to handle it if our partners are intersted in homosexuality, sensual exploration, BDSM and other new experiences?
Why wanting change does not necessarily mean that you're partner is not enough?
How can we love without owning eachother?
Why the goal is not staying together for ever?
How to create an exit strategy in partnership?
What are some strategies for dealing with painful breakups?
How might we be able to release our past lovers?
Closing circle.

Hope to see you at the next Tantra Talk and Poly Potluck July 29th 2009
If you're intersted in seeing the talk in it's entirety, enroll as an adept at

Wednesday, June 24

Crystals and Chakras

I confess: I've been slowly but fully seduced into the world of crystals. Despite my skepticism towards spiritual materialism, I can't help but notice how these minerals move me. Without intellectually knowing the properties of various stones I've tried meditated with different rocks and noticed how they resonate with my inner and outer body experience. For me, it's undeniable.
For example: Selinite clears and inspire me, Boji stones ground and energize me, and I have a number of black crystals that immediatly absorb negativity.

So around the beginning of the year, I started bringing crystals into my work, students and clients also to feel the affects but to varying degrees. (And there's no telling what kind of magic is stirring that they can't even feel.)

Now that I'm a full blown convert, my mind is curious about which rocks resonate with which Chakras. (In Sanskrit, the chakras are energy centers within the body through which life force flows.) Here is a basic reference guide I found online and now I'm comparing with my direct experience. Let me know if you're interested in hearing about the more advanced and tantric usage of this wisdom...and my big confession: I sleep with specific crystal wands...and they rock!

Muladhara - Root Chakra
Governs: back, feet, hips spine, legs
Associated with: connection to the Earth, groundedness, survival, physical needs, power, growth
Color: red or black
Stones: black obsidian, black onyx, black tourmaline, bloodstone, brecciated jasper, carnelian, cuprite, red garnet, hematite, leopardskin jasper, red calcite, red coral, red spinel, ruby, ruby aura quartz, thulite, tourmaline (rubellite), red zircon

Svadhisthana - Spleen or Sacral Chakra
Governs: sexual organs, bladder, bowel and lower intestine
Associated with: emotional balance, passion, creativity, abundance, freedom, personal expression, sexuality
Color: orange
Stones: amber, carnelian, crocoite, fire opal, golden beryl (heliodor), honey calcite, orange calcite, orange spinel, paraparadscha sapphire, peach aventurine, sheelite, sunstone

Manipura - Solar Plexus Chakra
Associated with: personal power, strength, sense of self-worth, self-confidence, laughter, humor, joy
Governs: stomach, upper intestines, upper back, upper spine
Color: Yellow
Stones: amber, andalusite, chrysoberyl, citrine, golden tiger eye, honey calcite, rutilated quartz, yellow-brown scapolite, sphalerite, sphene, sulphur, sunstone, topaz, yellow aragonite, yellow calcite, yellow carnelian, yellow jasper, yellow sapphire

Anahata - Heart Chakra
Governs: heart, lungs, blood and circulation
Associated with: love, unconditional love, emotions
Color: green and/or pink
Stones: actinolite, cuprite (balances heart chakra with root chakra), diopside, dioptase, emerald, fluorite, green apatite, green calcite, grossular garnet, euclase, jade, kunzite (spodumene) malachite, moldavite, moss agate, nephrite, pink manganocalcite, peridot, pink optical calcite, prase, rose quartz, rubellite, serpentine (aka New Jade), tourmaline (especially watermelon), variscite, zoisite

Vishuddha - Throat Chakra
Governs: throat, thyroid, mouth, teeth, tongue, jaw.
Associated with: communication, truthfulness, expression of will power and creativity
Color: blue or turquoise
Stones: amazonite, aqua aura, aquamarine, blue calcite, blue lace agate, blue tigers eye, blue topaz, dumortierite (blue quartz), euclase (stimulates), kyanite, lapis, opal, blue smithsonite, sodalite, turquoise

Ajna - Third Eye Chakra
Governs: pituitary gland, pineal gland, skull, eyes, brain, nervous system, the senses
Associated with: coordination, balance, mental clarity, psychic abilities especially clairvoyance, intuition, wisdom
Color: indigo, violet, purple
Stones: amazonite, amethyst, apatite, apophyllite, azurite, chevron amethyst, charoite, indicolite, iolite, lapis, picture rock, purple fluorite, sapphire, scolecite, sodalite, spinel (dark blue), sugilite

Sahasrara - Crown Chakra
Governs: top of spinal cord, brain stem, pain center, nerves
Associated with: spirituality, life force energy, knowingness, higher self, ultimate wisdom
Color: white, purple/violet, gold
Stones: amethyst, apophyllite, chevron amethyst, clear calcite, danburite, diamond, euclase, iolite, clear quartz, herkimer diamond, moonstone, opal, rainbow moonstone, scapolite (purple), scolecite, selenite, spodumene

All Chakras
Activation/Stimulation: garnet, quartz
Alignment/Balancing: bloodstone, blue kyanite, calcite, dolomite
General Strengthening/Stimulating: bloodstone, boji stone, botswana agate, chrysoberyl, chrysocolla, crocoite, cuprite, danburite, fluorite, kunzite, kyanite, obsidian, quartz
For more metaphysical info on Crystal lore go to

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Friday, June 19

Siddhartha's Lover

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Tuesday, June 16

Audio Postcard with Tantra Master Shawn Roop

Tantra Master Shawn Roop shares about his tantric awakening and how people sabotage themselves from true tantric experience. In this brief (about 15 minute) recording, you can learn a basic technique for listening to your own inner guru!

Advanced Tantra Intensive
26 - 28 July 2009
Shawn Roop and Kamala Devi are co-creating this truly transformative weekend that will involve Chakra Integration, Asana, Meditation, Advanced Pranayama, Sound Healing, Sex Magic, Self Inquiry, and Whatever else are you willing to co-create!? Space is limited The pre-requisit is not about what you know, but your willingness to unlearn the cultural hyptnosis and experience your own mastery. Call for an intake interview: 619-481-8036
If you sign up for this event, the one time tuition of $497 includes:
  • Free admission to 9/9/09 TANTRA-PALOOZA a five day festival (Regularly $397)
  • One Private Bliss Coaching tele-session with Kamala Devi (Regularly $108)

6 months Unlimited:

  • Playshops on various Tantric Topics for three to five hours monthly (Regularly $49)
  • Monthly Sacred Snuggle Parties, first Saturday of the month (Regularly $20-30)
  • Tantra Talk and Poly potlucks on the last Wednesday of the month (Regularly $10)
  • Tantra Theater Performance Art and Comedy Improvisation Shows (Regularly $5-15)
  • A live monthly tele-class on a variety of tantric topics by a variety of teachers
  • Private access to the members only page with past recorded classes
    To sign up go to:

Friday, June 12

Penguin Dreams

In my dream last night, I was hired to be a high school administrator for an all girls school in Alaska.
First day on the job, I am arranging my office when a bunch of rowdy students come in to taunt me.
"Hey, so your our new principal?"
"I heard you used to direct Tantra theater?"
"That sounds like a bunch of freaks!"
"So now you think you can direct us?"
"Need some help setting up your office?"
Then they gather around my desk and pull it away from me. At first I try holding it in place, but they out-number me and pulled it out of my hands. So I sit there calmly in my chair watching as my desk is dragged across the room. I simply cross my legs and looked at them like..."you don't intimidate me."
When they are done. I stand up, walk across the room and single-handedly pull my desk back to it's proper place.
"You're not going to turn this school into a freak show" the leader of the pack says, she's wearing a black lace top.
I had the impulse to reach across and tweak her nipple to make her squeal, but I thought better of it.
Instead I say, "I'm taking candidates for student body presidents. Please put your name on this list." I hand her a yellow legal pad. "Infact, why don't you all write your names down."
As they huddle around my desk busily writing their names, I pick up the phone and push intercom:
"As your new principal one of the first changes I'm making is to the school mascot. We are no longer going to be the Alaskan Crabs..."
As if on office door opens and in walks an animal trainer with a penguin on a leash...
"This is Goddess Grey our new mascot."
The girls all cheered for the irresistible bird in a tux.
I put on my sun glasses and confidently step out into the white Alaskan landscape.
The dream ended like one of those Hollywood- Stand and Deliver -movies where in the end...the teacher wins and education is considered cool.
I'm not totally clear what it all means, but I'm sure it's related to my new Bliss Coach University:

Thursday, June 11

Poly in the Media...London Producers seeking FMF Vee

Hi Kamala,
My name is Barnaby and I work for ITN Factual, a documentary production company based in the UK that produces high quality factual programming for all of the major international networks including the BBC, Discovery and TLC.
I am currently researching a documentary on Polyandry, and more specifically I am looking to find one or several polyandrous V triads where one woman is living with two or more heterosexual men. I wondered if you were in a similar configuration or knew people who were, and if so would be happy to contribute to our research by having a quick chat either by phone or email? Also, if you have any questions about the production I would be delighted to answer them.

We are excited about this project, which, if it gets commissioned (fingers crossed), will focus on several amazing characters who are all in MFM vee relationships where the woman is the pivot. We think this is a very interesting contrast to polygyny, and to the misinterpreted concept of polygamy, which is what the general public often confuse with any form of alternative, non-monogamous relationships. We are hoping to look into the financial advantages, especially in the current climate, of having two men in the family and how that works.
P: 0044 207 430 4083
Many thanks for your time,

T +44 (0)20 7430 4083
F +44 (0)20 7430 4506

Sample Teaching by Kamala Devi & Baba Dez Sedona '08

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Wednesday, June 10

I need a Videographer to Document for Bliss Coach University

With all my recent Media exposure: MTV, Tyra, Fox...It seems I've gotten the bug to be on cameara. I filmed for nearly a week in Sedona and am crossing my fingers for the reality TV Show that REiD Mihalko is pitching to VH1...It has the same title as our book in progress: Free Love, can you really afford it? If all the negotiates go as originally intended, I would be on a panel of experts with REiD, and Diana Adams. But I've come to the conclusion that I need to have more creative control. That I would like to produce my own instructional videos.

Besides, I've announced to the world that I'll be offering my workshops online as videos and recordings... time to build a team and start generating more material.
I started this morning off sharing a cup of tea with Wes Wolcott (an very professional and tantric videographer, who I aspire to work with in the near future, but who's services may be more than I need.)

So I put the following add on Craigslist:
I am looking for low cost or even trade services on an ongoing basis. I feel my situation is unique and I'd like to work with someone who has a sensitivity to subjects that are both spiritual and sexual. I am a tantra teacher and recently founded an online university to help people integrate sexuality and spirituality. I currently work in San Diego offering books, classes, sessions, parties and playshops which I'd like to have recorded so that I can start to offer them nationwide.
As a community leader I have access to a number of volunteers who can work cameras, and some who even own cameras but I need creative direction and editing.

The current goal is to:
Film at least one event per month and edit it with music and minimal graphics at beginning and end.
Digitize it and upload it to a server so that I can:
1) Stream it on my new membership site.
2) Sell it on my online store.

So I'm looking for someone with at least one professional camera, and specific experience in shooting and editing sales and educational video who is prompt and professional in meeting agreed upon deadlines.

Thanks in advance for your time and thought.Please go to my site for details:

Thank you,
Kamala Devi

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Monday, June 8

Bad Pick Up Lines

I was sitting at the local coffee shoppe mindlessly flipping through the pages of one of the free monthly magazine when a well intended atheltic-type guy makes his way over to my booth and says: "I heard that the most beautiful woman in the room is usually the lonliest because everyone's too intimidated to approach her. Is that true?"

Flattered, I smiled, and then I felt sort of embarrassed...for him. I thanked him but assured him that I was not lonely. In fact, I'm married and it's an open marriage so I we have several other lovers, but I am not looking for more. Then I wished him Good Luck.

On my way home, I got to to thinking about whether pick up lines ever really work. So I had some fun on the web and decided to post some old classics as well as creative new ones that make my stomach churn. Hope you had as much fun with these as I did:

What's your sign? (response: Stop!)
Your place or mine?
Read any good books lately?
Seen any good movies lately?
Nice dress. Can I talk you out of it?
That dress would look great - on my bedroom floor.
I am a magical being, take off your bra.
Hi, I'm not trying to pressure you, I don't want to have sex without mutual consent; and by the way, you have my consent.
I feel like Richard Gere because I'm standing next to the Pretty Woman.
Let's play gynecologist.
Let's go to my place and do the things! I'll tell everyone we did anyway.
I'm gonna have sex with you tonight so, you might as well be there.
I'm here. What are your other two wishes?
Hi, do you want to have my children? If not, can we just practice?
I'm an American Express Lover! Don't go home without me!
Do you believe in love at first sight or should I walk by again?
The only thing your eyes haven't told me is your name.
You with all those curves and me with no brakes!
Did the sun just come out or did you smile at me?
Oh no, I'm choking! I need mouth to mouth, quick!
How do you like your eggs in the morning?
What is a beautiful girl like you doing in a place like this?
Sex is a killer... want to die happy?
Of all the bars in the world I could have walked into, here you are...
I seem to have lost my telephone number, may I borrow yours?
Here's a quarter. Call your mum and tell her you won't be home tonight.
Does God know you've escaped from heaven?
Can I see your tan lines?
I miss my teddy bear. Would you sleep with me?
Congratulations! You've been voted "Most Beautiful Girl in This Room" and the grand prize is a night with me!
Wanna get lucky?
Do you know, your hair and my pillow are perfectly color coordinated?
Help the homeless. Take me home with you!
You know what'd look good on you? Me.
I think I could fall madly in bed with you.
Bond. James Bond.
If I said you had a beautiful body would you hold it against me?
Smile if you want to sleep with me.
Can I get your name? (response: Why don't you have one?)
Smile if you want to sleep with me
If I said you had a great body, would you hold it against me?
Is it hot in here or is it just you?
Baby, you must be a broom, cause you just swept me off my feet.
May I have the pleasure of dancing with you?
Didn't I see you on the cover of Glamour magazine?
Aren't you a famous model?
If I could arrange the alphabet I would put U and I together.
There's something wrong with my eyes - I can't take them off you.
I'd really like to see how you look when I'm naked.
Do you sleep on your stomach or can I?
I'll cook you dinner if you cook me breakfast.
Is your father a theif? It seems he stole the stars from the sky and put them in your eyes.
"If you stood in front of a mirror and held up 11 roses, you would see 12 of the most beautiful things in the world."

Personally, I prefer the more conversational approach:

What's your name?
So what do you do?
Are you married?
Do you come here often?

Let me know about your approach? I'm curious to hear if any of these actually work!

The Energetic Art of Erotic Striptease

Fabuliz and I co-created this revolutionary new workshop on June 6th! What a fun-filled time. The afternoon included erituc trance, belly dance, burlesque, and an Erotic Dance Re-Naming ritual! Look out world...Here we come!
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Sunday, June 7

Here's comes the Online Tantra Revolution

Beloved Readers,

The Sedona Daka-Dakini Conference was a meeting place for a lot of movers and shakers in the Tantra Industry. Here's a picture of me with Caroline Muir, Shawn Roop, Joan Heartfield and Thomas Heartfield.

One of the hottest new developments in Tantra is that all the modern western teachers are coming together under one big umbrella to create a social/community site...OneTantra is like a sacred sexual facebook!
As one of the teachers for this site, I'm able to get you the first month free so you could try it out. Also, you'll get the One Tantra Manifesto for free! Check it out and let me know what you think!Just use my link here:

Blessings, Kamala Devi

Once again, go to:

Saturday, June 6

Celebrating Change as the Only Constant

My Beloved resigned from his job yesterday. After one full year of abunance and learning, he's moving on to new things.

This is also the week in which I restructured my business and announced the launch of Bliss Coach University. I sent out my initial letter entitled, Shift Happens, and I was flooded with dozens of supportive letters from erotic educators, tantra teachers and students from across the globe. Already 20 beta Members have enroll in the online university, including Canada and Austria!

Today is the first "open house" where I will officially announce my re-structure. Goddess FabuLiz is going to lead a women's only gathering in which we practice the "Energetic Art of Erotic Strip Tease"....yum! And afterwards we'll do our monthly potluck, tantra theater improv and sacred snuggle party. We've been running similar events for years, yet something about the launch of this new university feels big, new, even scary.

What am I afraid of? Change. The only constant.
In recognizing the paradox of my situation, I consulted some of my favorite quotes on the subject... Its a good reminder to my ego: I'm not the only one who's ever been through radical change. Here are a few of my favorite words from the wise. (If there is no author sited it is either anonymous or unknown)
  • “When you're finished changing, you're finished.” Benjamin Franklin
  • “People are always telling me that change is good. But all that means is that something you didn't want to happen has happened.” Meg Ryan
  • “There is never a right time to do a difficult thing. Do it now.”
  • “We are not the same persons this year as last; nor are those we love. It is a happy chance if we, changing, continue to love a changed person.” William Somerset Maugham
  • “Be the change you want to see in the world.” Mahatma Gandhi
  • “Every time I find the meaning of life, they change it”

  • “Be willing to surrender what you are for what you could become.” mirela

  • “Change is inevitable - except from a vending machine.” Robert C. Gallagher
  • “Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.” Maria Robinson
  • “What you leave behind is not what is engraved in stone monuments, but what is woven into the lives of others.” Pericles

  • “There is nothing wrong with change, if it is in the right direction” Winston Churchill

  • “Life can either be accepted or changed. If it is not accepted, it must be changed. If it cannot be changed, then it must be accepted.”
    Bat Man.

To learn more about my Bliss Coach University please go to: xoxo KD

Thursday, June 4

About the Author

. Kamala Devi is a bisexual Latin woman of Jewish descent who was raised in conservative Orange County, California. During school she worked as an event coordinator for her family's publishing and consulting company. As an undergraduate Kamala produced a handful of lesbian and feminist-themed plays, and graduated with a double emphasis on Women's Studies and Performance art.
. After about seven year’s involvement in the lesbian scene, Kamala fell in love with a man and followed him to Hawaii to practice partner yoga, polyamory, and politics. They lived on Wimanalo Beach, in a crazy drumming commune in a pegboard shack with their pet chicken, Stu. Kamala lead botanical garden tours by day, and by night she directed Gay Pride of Honolulu and the Honolulu Gay and lesbian film festival '97. Hawaii is where she experienced her first Tantric awakening.
. It was during a regular Tuesday night drumming practice. The Tahitian neighbors always roasted a pig and everyone drummed and danced under the stars. Kamala remembers dissolving into the dance, laughing on the inhale, crying on the exhale, until she wiped the tears from her eyes to see who was laughing. After every ounce of being had been spent, she crawled home to make love. She melted from her earth-suit and merged with the force that animates her. Within the next two years she furthered her sacred sexual exploration through role playing, gift giving, foot washing, ritual sex, sensual feasting, anal sex, cross dressing, performance art, massage, meditation, bondage, dreamscape and gender bending. It was a spontaneous sexual awakening that unfolded without a curriculum or a guru.
. After a painful loss of the Gay and Lesbian Marriage Campaign, Kamala returned to California defeated and depressed. The International Sivananda Yoga Vedanta Center offered her great solace as she retreated to their ashrams, attained her yoga teachers certificate and changed her name. When given the name Kamala Devi, her Guru warned that it was a tantric name that is understood to mean: She who worships the divine with her body. But Sivinanda was not a tantric order, so Kamala set out again in search of her true self. She backpacked alone through Western Europe for six months. After another run-in with depression, she returned home and continued questing through Southeast Asia, and China. Her great sojourn landed her in San Diego in the arms of her beloved named Michael.
. Kamala first met Michael on Valentines at a Tantra puja led by Francoise Ginsberg. He was volunteering at the door, greeting people with hugs and nametags. He drew a little red heart on her nametag and later got her number. Kamala also connected with a strawberry blond she met in the bathroom. It turns out that Michael had gotten the same woman’s phone number and after a first date with both Michael and this woman, their second date was as a traid on a camping trip to Mexico.
. Michael is an inborn Shaman who’s taught Kamala much about Sexual Healing. Together they traveled to South India to study goddess worship from a Guru who channels Kali. During their pilgrammage, Kamala remembers sitting at the base of Maharshi’s Mountain in Tiravanamli, contemplating the question. Who am I? Coming up with nothing. She continued to sit in the void until her butt got tired from sitting. She stood up, brushed herself off and decided to entertain her desires and take a role in the drama of life. Which is to say, she put her costume back on and danced between the roles of lover, teacher and scribe.
went home.
. The 2004 Sumatran Tsunami struck while she was in the airplane on her way home. Kamala was thus inspired to write a novel. Or more accurately, to channel it. It took exactly one year from when she wrote the first line to when she had the published book in hand. This novel is called"Don't Drink the Punch: An Adventure in Tantra" and it came just in time, because Kamala was pregnant at her book release party.
. Kamala and Michael now live in an eco-friendly temple by the beach. From the outside it seems that Kamala and Michael are living the American dream: they are educated, successful, have a healthy baby boy. And yet, they're also living the American Fantasy: they practice tantra, and have been living in a successful open marriage. As such, she has been recieveing national attention. She recently appeared on MTV, Discovery Channel, Morning Show Live, Inside Edition, several independent documentaries and the Tyra Banks Show. She is the co-author of "Sacred Sexual Healing: The SHAMAN Method of Sex Magic" with Baba Dez Nichols and is currently working on a book and a reality TV show with REiD Mihalko entitled, Free-Love, Can You Really Afford it?
. Kamala recently founded Bliss Coach University. She specializes in working with artists, healers and visionaries. Her sessions and events are designed to activate the second chakra, which is not only the sex center but the source of creativity. She helps couples manifest fulfilling relationships, artists to realize their full expression, writers to publish their first books, and Erotic Entrepreneurs to build spiritually grounded business. Are you ready to take a quantum leap toward your full expression? If so, please check out or contact 858-272-2254

Tuesday, June 2

Shift Happens

An Open Letter announcing:
An inspector from the City came to my house last week. My husband Michael asked her to take off her shoes at the door and then walked her from room to room so she could take pictures of the Emerald Temple. A few days before, we were issued a notice from the City, kindly asking for voluntary compliance of code violation. Apparently the complaint began because I posted my street address online on my Tantra MeetUp page. The fact that my website advertises sex education and sensual parties temporarily caught the attention of the San Diego vice squad. Additionally, the city reports that at least one neighbor complained that parking was an issue and they overheard someone in front of our house saying, Quote: "you better bring condoms."

Michael spoke with the female vice squad detective who specializes in narcotics, prostitution, pornography and gambling. She looked over my website and said she could clearly see that I am not a prostitute and didn't want to waste her time coming over to our home. The parking complaint is typical in this neighborhood since we live 2 blocks from the bars and 4 blocks from the beach, and the condom comment could have been made by any college student on the streets of PB. Still, the city would have to investigate for zoning violations.

The inspector was a nice woman, but I had mixed feelings about her taking pictures of the sacred objects in my temple. Initially it felt like an invasion of privacy, so I had a pre-emptive consultation with a lawyer friend who suggested I say, "you have permission to enter my home, but you do not have my permission to take photos." I considered this option, but ultimately decided: I have nothing to hide. Michael asked the city official exactly what she was looking for. She specifically said she wanted to see the bedrooms and bathrooms and if there were locks on the doors and or too many beds. In short, they wanted to see if my home looked like a sex club or a brothel. Further Michael asked what we needed to do to comply with the city and she said:

1) Get a business license for any work you do at home.

2) Stop using your home address on your online advertising.

And so it is.
It is done.
Although the case may not be officially closed for several more weeks, I've gone into deep prayer and meditation about my role as a temple priestess. And what about my role as a wife and mother of a 2 year old? Or an erotic entrepreneur running a coaching practice? And ultimately, as a tantra teacher? How can I gracefully dance between these roles and still have integrity with my students, seekers and neighbors?

After much meditation, I hear Spirit calling me to move my work more towards a tantric school, with private entrollment. Like many, my heart longs for greater depth and commitment from the tantra community. As an active community leader, I've seen many seekers come and go; connections made and broken. I know how deep this work is, and how easy it is to run when the resistance comes up. I also see how hard it is to establish trust and safety if we don't know the others who show up to walk the same path. I now see the complaint from the city as a call to step up my integrity, commitment and service to the community.

Thus, I'm shifting my focus from running tantric events to running a Virtual School. I'm hereby announcing the birth of a new membership site: Bliss Coach University. We will no longer be charging or asking for donations for any of the events at my home. I've uploaded over ten hours of tantric teachings online and continue to offer more telephone, online and video resources. All members are invited to commit to a minimum of 6 months and will receive a combination of online and in-person coaching. I feel this shift not only supports my local students in creating deeper community, but my national and international students who don't have access to the teachings that are so abundant in San Diego.

If you want to continue to grow with me, and support our tantra school, please go to Bliss Coach University and be one of the first students to enroll. As a "Beta Member" you get a radically deep discount for your classes and lots of fun goodies like a Shiva lingam amulet. Legally, as a San Diego homeowner, I'm still are allowed to host private parties (as long as I don't charge, post my address on the web, or obstruct parking.) Thus, until we secure a regular commercial space, we will be celebrating sacred sexual freedom this summer, by hosting free, invitation only events. My parties, playshops and tantra theater shows are private gatherings, open to my closest friends, lovers and students. So if you're available this month, scroll down for a variety of FRE'E events and/or write me for a personal invitation. This Saturday, we will be celebrating the launch of Bliss Coach University with a FRE'E Community Potluck, Tantra Theater Improv. and Sacred Snuggle Party right after the goddess gathering. In conclusion, please visit Bliss Coach University to become a Beta Member. Thanks for your support.