Saturday, May 29

Schedule Change on Monthly Meetings

This photo was taken after last month's Poly Potluck. We have been doing Poly Potlucks for over 4 years, We are now changing the schedule from Tuesday to the 4th Thursdays each month. ALSO, The Monthly Tantra Talks will now be on the 2nd THURSDAY. Please mark your calendar for June 10th and come and join us for a lively discussion fo Sacred Sex. This month's theme is: Pink Tantra...what is MiddlePath Tantra? By Kamala Devi, Author of Don't Drink the Punch, Sacred Sexual Healing, Tantra Teacher and Sacred Sex and Open Relationship Coach
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Monday, May 24

Garage Sale: Writer's Desk 4 Sale

I've been bit by the feng shui bug and that means...De-clutter. Re-arrange, convert and recycle stuff! We're going to hold a garage sale this Saturday and Sunday with Mostly useless junk, (kids toys, old clothes, and clutter.) but I'm also selling my precious desk, So I'm making a declaration to the universe: Are there are any creative writers out there looking for an inspired new space to sit and create?
It's a beautiful mahogany desk of japanese style design.
It features a fold down desk, with central drawer and removable files dividers. Designed low to the ground, this desk is not designed for a computer but with a cushion to provide good posture. It is both functional and a decorative work station acts as a desk as well as a shelving unit for letters and stamps. It has a a couple of coffee cup stains on the wood which give it character. It has great creative energy and the two previous owners are published authors. Asking price $597 or best offer. .
Call or write ASAP if your interested, Someoene's sure to fall in love with it soon. 619-871-2828 or 858-272-2254. P.S. we're also looking for an electric stove, organic twin matres and or solid wood bunk bed for Devin.

Tantra Theater in Black and White

 The following fun photos are from the Tantra Theater show in downtown San Diego on May 15th. Featuring: Shawn Roop, Joy, Michael McClure, Rita Mooney and Me: Kamala Devi (I'm the one holding my etheric lingam.) Every show is completely new and unique but this show was especially unique for two distinct reasons, it was our first strictly improvisational show (we usually mix scripted personal narrative with improv.) and it was a graduation for Joy (who is one of the tantra theater pioneers) All of the players in these photos are visionaries who've been developing their craft for almost two years now.

For this show, we took audience suggestions and personal stories about taboos such as: Stranger Sex, Moon Time, Shamanic Journeying and lingam lore. We then put audience stories onstage and watched it unfold in unlikely and empowering circumstances. For example, here is a picture of Rita and Kamala celebrating their "moon time" by bleeding into mamma Earth.

This new type of drama is transformative for the players, the audience, and collective consciousness. The best part is that everyone is laughing so hard, the personal growth becomes (mostly) painless!

Mark your calendar for June 19th at 7:30pm. Our next show is going to be another hilarious, historic and transformative healing event. For erotic edu-tainment go to:
Love, Kamala Devi or call 858-272-2254
May 25th Tues. 6:45pm Poly Potluck. Poly 101
June 5th Sacred Snuggle Party
June 15th Tantra Talk 6:45pm
June 19th Tantra Theater Event Downtown

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Thursday, May 20

Spotlight on Healing: Soul Memory

     I've tried a plethera of holistic/spiritual healing modalities in my life. I talk to crystals, I get high off reiki, I orgasm during shamanic trances, I even enjoy being a pin cushin at my weekly acupuncture sessions. But I recently discovered a unique healing modality that totally takes the cake. It's called, Soul Memory Discovery Process.
      Ellen is a wise and pleasant Jewish elder that was recommended to me by one of my tantra theater players. She sat me down in her little office in La Costa and used a Quartz pendulum to read me like a book. The session left me physically transformed, intellectually intrigued, emotionally expressed and spiritually high. It's too soon to see the long term results, as it's only been a few days, but I thought you'd get a kick out of hearing her story: 

Ellen's Story

My name is Ellen Kaufman Dosick, and let me assure you that I am a relatively normal, traditionally-trained professional person. I am a social worker with undergraduate and graduate degrees from the University of Chicago, and have been a psychotherapist for over 30 years. I have held very "mainline" jobs throughout my career, serving on the faculty of the USC Graduate School of Social Work, and directing programs and offices of social service agencies. My husband is a rabbi and well-known author, and teaches on the faculty of the University of San Diego.

For approximately 20 years, I suffered from a degenerative auto-immune disorder, that by 1989, had progressed to the point where my doctors told me that I probably had only another 5-10 years to live. Some of my systems were beginning to go into crisis, and I was terribly allergic to most foods.

Feeling desperate for some help, and at the prompting of friends, I went to see a woman who looked at past lives as possible sources of current illness. I didn't believe in past lives, but I figured I didn't have anything to lose.

Roni Reynolds - now of blessed memory - and I sat together for a couple of hours that afternoon. It was an intense session, but at the same time, quite delightful. In my closed-mindedness, I still didn't put too much stock in it, and certainly didn't count on any "results." In fact, I forgot about the session, until...

...Six months later, I returned to my doctor for my semi-annual bloodwork. She looked at the results, and was shocked. She couldn't believe what she saw -- all but one of my blood numbers was in the normal range, and that one was only one point outside of "normal." Somehow, in spite of my dismissal of the session with Roni, I was healing!

The work I did with Roni was the seed process, the infant form, of what has grown into the Soul Memory Discovery process. I decided that I needed to learn how to do this work, and studied with Roni.

Over these past 17 years, the Soul Memory Discovery process has emerged and grown itself, and evolved into a technology that is, in many ways, laser-fine. It will continue to evolve into ever finer forms, as Earth and Humankind evolve.

In 1995, I stopped doing "regular" traditional therapy. Soul Memory Discovery is the only work I do now, because in over 5000 sessions, I have found it to be the most effective change tool I have ever come across.

In 1997, I began teaching the Soul Memory Discovery process to other therapists, healers, clergy, and physicians, and there are now over 350 other Soul Memory Discovery facilitators providing this work around the globe.

This is an awesome process. I am always amazed and humbled by its beauty and power, and I invite you to share it with me!

To Book a Session now! Call Ellen at 760-943-1674 The original source of this article is

How Does a Soul Memory Discovery Session Work?

We know that our bodies hold memories of everything that has ever happened to us in this lifetime. All of our experiences in this lifetime are recorded in our physical bodies -- certainly, in our brains -- and also in various organs, muscles, and cells. We know this when we speak about having a "broken heart," or "shouldering a burden."
Just as our bodies hold memories of everything that has happened for us in this lifetime, so our electro-magnetic fields -- our auras -- hold memories of everything that has ever happened for our souls.
If we think of the soul as that eternal part of us that will go on long after we are done with these bodies, then we can imagine that these souls were doing something before they came into these bodies. Our souls come to us, clothed in their own histories, and we carry the memories of those histories in our auric fields.
In the Soul Memory work, when we do a polarity balance, and create sacred space, we are able to access all those memory banks. And the wonderful thing about this is that we can then find the origins of any issue, or complex of symptoms -- be they physical, emotional, spiritual, patterns in our lives, or even entire belief systems.
And once we find the origins of the issue -- which we can easily do in just a few minutes, there is a very simple release process, which lifts those origins out of the system. This process is swift, gentle and sacred. And once the symptoms are no longer being sourced, they dry up and they go away.
All information is accessed through logical "yes-no" questions. And all of this is accomplished in just one session, that is between 2 and 3 hours in length. The changes that take place through a Soul Memory Discovery session are life-enhancing and permanent.
It is that simple.

Monday, May 17

Magic Wand Wonderings:

My Thoughs on Dick Dialogues
 by Shawn Roop.

Thanks for addressing this topic, not only as the next Tantra Theater Program, but also as a life issue.

I have done much to reclaim personal empowerment around my sex and body. The issue for me is the continued oafish nature many offer to men and their genitals. There has been a social joke that's been ongoing around men and their genitals for lifetimes.

The earlier nickname for the male member is a cock, because of the back and forth movement during intercourse, which is said to resemble a male chicken strutting about. The Arabic word for rooster or male chicken is “deek”. Back in the day, Richard was one of the most common names. Richard got shortened to Rick, and Rick turned into Dick. Dick became a sort of "every man"" thing, and sometime around the 1890s some British Army coined the term dick to mean penis, calling recruits “Dicks” or Dick Heads”.

I understand most every man has a penis. So Dick Dialogs could translate to “The Common Man or Everyman Dialog” and cock’s original meaning was "a male bird".

The term was later applied to aggressive people because of the similarity of behavior to the fighting birds. This is where the word "cocky" comes from. Another characteristic of the birds was the upright posture. Because of this, the word came to mean "something that sticks up". This is where we get the expression "cocked ear".

I feel these names are outdated, non-conscious and don’t speak to me as a man. For the show, to raise awareness beyond the old…

Penis Passion Passages

Magic Wand Wonderings

Here is a great article you may enjoy, I did…

I love you and wanted you to understand my reasons. Rather than making right and wrong, I just wanted to share my feelings so you could know me better! Thank you for your strength, beauty and passion!
Be well!

Saturday, May 15

Now Auditioning: Tantra Theater Summer 2010

During last night's rehearsal, one of my troupe members had the courage to share that he was triggered by the language and images that I've been using to promote our next round of Tantra Theater. I admit, I'm not the best graphic designer, and I respect his perspective and know that he is voicing his concerns for the sake of collective healing. Infact, the small but powerful attendance at the last audition suggests that there may have been many people scared off by the topic. As controversial as it may sound, I feel strongly that this work be done.

Why did I choose "Dick Dialogues" when thre are many beautiful terms to describe the penis, lingam, vajra or wand of light...
Well, the title was first suggested to me 8 years ago at a sacred Mexican Hotsprings by author and spiritual teacher, Kelly Bryson. The idea has been alive inside me ever since. Just as Eve Ensler reclaimed the term "Cunt" in Vagina Monologues, I believe there are many new age and tantric men who would benifit from reclaiming the power of their "Dick." I feel strongly about this title, but we need synergy of at least 6 players to create this show. I'm excited we still have one more audition and will go back to the drawing board to better promote the idea. I'm sorry if the condom costume offended anyone, but let me know what you think of this new collage. I hope the above poster expresses the reverence I feel towards the sacred rod.
The mission of Tantra Theater is to create performance art that transmutes sexual guilt, shame and/or fear into wholeness and liberation; we celebrate the presence of spirit in every aspect of life's drama. We aim to educate, entertain and enlighten. If you are interested in furthering the "cock conversation" Join us for the free audition/open house in Pacific Beach at 6:45pm on Thursday May 20th. No experience in Tantra or theater necessary. www.TantraTheater.TV
By Kamala Devi, Author of Don't Drink the Punch, Sacred Sexual Healing, Tantra Teacher and Sacred Sex and Open Relationship Coach
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Friday, May 14

Photos from Dick Dialogue Auditon

Julie Kondor took a number of fabulous and casual photos last night at Tantra Theater audition. If your interested in collaborated in this big summertime show, please join us for the free open house on Thursday May 20th at 6:45pm. Contact kamala(at) for details.

By Kamala Devi, Author of Don't Drink the Punch, Sacred Sexual Healing, Tantra Teacher and Sacred Sex and Open Relationship Coach
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Thursday, May 13

Auditioning for Tantra Theater's Dick Dialogues

     Below are a few exerpts that were used for cold-readings at tonight's auditions for Tantra Theater's new show: Dick Dialogues. The instructions were to select a piece by just reading the title and do a dramatic interpretation of literature using one prop, but without reading the actual text.
Then Man Who Lost His Penis
by Victoria Hamburger
What happened to John Wayne Bobbitt after he got sliced and diced? It's been a long road for John Wayne since 1993, when his Ecuadorian wife, Lorena, took a Ginsa knife to his manhood in the middle of the night, driving off with his severed penis and chucking it in a field. Police managed to retrieve the thing and surgeons re-attached little John to big John. And then John Wayne 'Frankenpenis' Bobbitt's story really began. This is a tale with many twists: from porn career ('Frankenpenis') to failed stand up comedian); a brief stint as a minister in a Las Vegas church; limo driver for a brothel; a prison sentence and a botched penis enlargement. Even now, as a simple furniture removal man, his life is as dramatic as ever.
I've cum a long way
 by ric
      Like most guys, a friend introduced me to masturbation. In my case, by taking me into the woods. He found a secluded spot. I was clueless as to what he was up to, but he proceeded to pull his pants down, and suggested I do the same. I watched him slowly stroke himself and I did the same with my little hairless cock —to no avail. I obviously wasn’t “of age” to get hard--yet.
      He kept on stroking and to my innocent amazement his penis grew big and red. I didn’t know what he was doing but he was surely enjoying it by the look on his face and his grunting. All of a sudden he stopped stroking, shuddered and this white gooey stuff squirted through the air.
     A year later I was to learn why he enjoyed rubbing himself so much. I began to grow pubic hair and the wet dreams were coming often at night. I learned to arouse myself by rubbing my cock against soft things and eventually squirting small amounts of cum. My sexual awakening had it's awkward sides as my newly awake penis would sometimes get a hard-on even when I rode the bus--it must have been the vibrations. This made for some "interesting" departures from the bus!
"Penis Envy"
Source: wikipedia
     Penis Envy is a common term coined by Freud, it's a real psychological complex, where women grow up and notice that they don't have an "external appendage" like Dad or Brother.
     She desires a penis, and the power that it represents. Commonly young girls wonder when theirs will grow, and are devistated when they find out they wont get one.
She may develop a sexual desire for her father and blame her mother for her apparent castration.
Often women display signs of "penis envy" with a Garden Hose, by Spraying and Spraying, or by becoming obsessively attracted to large penises, or by feeling angry at men and in the most extreme case wanting to castrate them. Penis envy has been said to motivate women to seek men’s jobs, becoming firefighters, Marines, truck drivers, and boxers.
     Feminist psychoanalist Karen Horney decided to turn it around and develop the concept of "womb envy" to describe the condition of men who wish they could be life giving goddesses.
The Procedure
      We are pleased to announce that we are now offering the newest procedure in cosmetic surgery for men. This is a penile shaft enhancement procedure that is simple, safe and designed to increase both the LENGTH and CIRCUMFERENCE of the penile shaft.
     In the lengthening procedure, the doctor releases the suspensory ligaments safely with a laser and results generally range from 1-1/2" to 2." There is no way to predict what that length gain will be prior to surgery. Post-operative stretching is essential to success.
      The enlargement procedure involves a simple transfer of the patient's own fat cells. Because the penile shaft is narrower than the maximum diameter of the head, the doctor usually fills out the shaft slightly beyond head's maximum diameter.
      The risks are not high, but there are instances where patients do experience bleeding and bruising as well as swelling, but these are all temporary conditions. Other times there is a keloid scar that develops at the surgical site or a decrease in the upward position during erection. And in some instances the incisions on the skin separate and an infection develops. I suppose the greatest risk is that the patient will find that their penis is lacking in sensation and they develop erectile dysfunction.
       But overall, Penis enhancement surgery is a relatively safe, simple and performed on an outpatient basis under general anesthesia.
Afterward the playful cold readings we settled into a deeper dialogue about our relationship to the Penis, borrowed from Betty Dodson and Carlin Ross:

"How to Celebrate your cock"
    In the interest of healing men’s attitude toward the appearance and size of their genitals, we offer a view of men’s sex organs generated by men who speak in their own words about how they feel about their adorable dicks.
1.How do you feel about the general appearance of your genitals; the color, texture, size, the shape of the glans, foreskin (if any), testicles, etc?
2. Do you talk to your dick? What did you call your sex organ as a child? Have you given him a pet name? Does he have ideas of his own?
3. How does he like to be lubricated, touched, and stroked?
4. Is your pubic hair natural, trimmed, or shaved?
5. What is your favorite method of masturbation?
6. How and when did you have your first orgasm?
7. Have you ever shared masturbation with another person? Where and when?
8. What kind of fantasies do you have?
9. What do you like best about the orgasms you have with yourself?
10. What else do you want to share about your relationship to your dick?
If your interested in co-creating a show entitled: Dick Dialogues, come to our Free Audition on  May 20th Free Open House for Tantra Theater 90 day Journey. No experience necessary. The journey involves at least 9 weekly rehearsals and a private session that culminate in a public showcase on Aug. 21st. And a video recording of 5-10 minutes of a polished performance which you can show your friends and lovers. If you're interested we invite you to join our Free Open House. The Theme is: Dick Dialogues. Both Men and women are invited to explore the sacred relationship to the lingam, penis or dick. This first gathering is an audition where Kamala Devi will access your willingness and you can see if you resonate with Kamala's directing style. Course runs: 6:45pm on Thursdays Jan. 21st; Feb 4th,11th,18th; March 4th,11th,18th; and April 1st, 8th and 15th. Course fee of $397 includes 2 hours of private coaching, DVD of your performance, graduation party and optional attendance to an additional 6 comedy improv classes.

Bring on the Dick Debates!

   In preparation for Tantra Theater's big scripted summertime show entitled: Dick Dialogues, I've been praying, meditating and exploring my own practice of penis worship. When I went on tantric pilgrimage to mother India, nearly every temple contained a huge beautiful phallus which was decorated and celebrated on an hourly basis. However, most temples and teachers insisted the interpretation of the Shiva Lingam as a phallic symbol was a mistake, misnomer or even an act of blasphemy. Even wikpedia hosts a hot debate to disprove that the Shiva lingam is related to a deities dick.

As a middle path tantrika, I aim to practice beyond duality, and so the act of lingam worship is a celebration of BOTH the formless and the form. I've synthesized teachings from ancient tantric scriptures and took artistic lisence to dramatically interpret the following:

God is eternal, omnipresent, and formless.
Since it is hard to grasp abstract consciousness,
God gave us the form of shiva lingam for the benefit
of the tantric, hindu and shiva devotees,
he became this symbol so that we could practice
intimate devotion with the senses of our body.
The Sanskrit term Linga translates to symbol or sign.
Hence the Lingam or penis is a symbol of the all-auspicious universe.
It is a place where consciousness and form are both created and dissolved.
Since, according to Hinduism, it is the same god that creates, sustains and destroys the
universe, the Shiva Linga, represents both the material realm and the indivisible Supreme
Reality. Lingam worship is considered to be the highest form of worship.
It connects a devotee with the supreme consciousness of lord shiva.
Merging with the lingam in it's highest form is merging with the entire universe.
As such, sex is the most sacred form of worship, whether it's sensual or symbolic,
Thus, I say: do it, do it often, and do it with devotion.

If your interested in Auditioning we will be hosting a 2 hour free open house in Pacific Beach tonight and Thursday May 20th at 6:45pm. For details contact:
By Kamala Devi, Author of Don't Drink the Punch, Sacred Sexual Healing, Tantra Teacher and Sacred Sex and Open Relationship Coach

Tuesday, May 4

MTV does Poly Online

The full episode of MTV's True Life: I'm Polyamorus is now posted online. Check it out. It may not have been the story I chose to tell, but remember, the target audience is 12 million teenagers! So, I hopet this drama opens viewers to consider some new possibilities that they don't normally see. Personally, I was thrilled to go onto National TV and to teach poly/tantra to this sexy quad...regardless of all the Drama, drama drama that got stirred up. There are about 50 comments from the viewers on this page. See for yourself.
By Kamala Devi, Author of Don't Drink the Punch, Sacred Sexual Healing, Tantra Teacher and Sacred Sex and Open Relationship Coach
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Monday, May 3

Beltaine Birthday Goddess

This is me, after 35 B-day spankings on Beltane.
We had a juicy gathering with about 40 people at our monthly Sacred Snuggle Party. After a yummy vegetarian potluck we called in the 4 directions and lit a Beltane Fire to burn off the old and welcome in our new intentions for the more fertile Spring/summer months. Beltane is a tantric holiday in that it celebrates death and birth and sex and fertility. Traditionally this would be the time of the year when couples would pick their partners and renew their vows. They might jump over the fire to arouse fertility and go off into the corn fields to make love. This is a perfect evening to perform the great rite or Maithuna.
      On this night, my beloved of 8 years presented me with a crown of flowers (Hand picked from Janos & Sarah's garden.) After I was crowned the May Goddess, we practiced the Great Snuggle...which evolved into the great spanking lead by Mistress LN and Bodhi.

 Spanking can be a very sensual, vulnerable and even spiritual experience. One side effect I experienced was a focused mind and expanded heart. And though my eyes were often closed, I could actually tell who was spanking me, by their touch!
Personally, it was an deep and emotional ceremony for not only because of the scorpion full moon, but I am in the midst of a personal healing crisis. I usually take this month to get clear on my goals and priorities for the year. Let me take this opportunity to share my top three goals for the summer season:

1) WELL-BEING: I am vibrant and healthy as I enjoy my daily practice of movement, morning pages and prayer for at least 30 minutes. I am eating at least three fresh vegetarian meals per day, drinking my vitaminerals and taking regular breaks between each hour of work.

2) RELATIONSHIPS: I'm passionately in love with my husband and spending hot weekly date nights with him and other lovers while taking time to bond with my son and enjoy motherhood. My love overflows to share with the community at weekly classes, monthly potlucks, shows and special events.

3) CREATIVITY: I am having a blast directing a bonded collective of healers and performance artists in a monthly downtown show. Over 75 people show up monthly for entertainment and through their active participation, they come away with healing and enlightenment. The experience is valuable and transformative for all involved. Tantra Theater continues to grow online in videos, temples, conferences and festivals nationwide.
Thank you for aligning with my Birthday intentions. I look forward to sharing the love.

By Kamala Devi, Author of Don't Drink the Punch, Sacred Sexual Healing, Tantra Teacher and Sacred Sex and Open Relationship Coach
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Sedona Sex & Consciousness Conference

Just a few days left before the Annual gathering of sacred sexual healers in Sedona. Here is a video clip from one of my talks last year. This year Charles Muir is the Keynote speaker for the Sex and Consciousness Conference, May 7-9, 2010. Shawn Roop is one of the Emcees and there will be over 28 others teachers! go to to register Now! Enjoy this clip. For the full video go to

Thank you to this intimate mastermind with Shawn Roop, David Cates, Crystal Dawn, Janine McDonald, Todd Kamensky and Destin Gerick. Wes Wolcott and his team for the videography and Baba Dez Nichols for Holding space at the Sedona Temple for this conversation to happen.

Saturday, May 1

Beautiful Beltane Invocation

Beltane Ritual
(Adapted from the "Crafted Cup")

Invocation of the Goddess by the Priestess:

Hallowed Lady of the Hawthorn,
Godddess of the greenwood groves,
we call upon Thee in the season of Thy Sensuality,
as Thy blossom opens to the amorous advances of our Lord, Thy Lover.
In Thy union is the fertility of Spring,
and the beckoning whisper of young desire.

Touch us with the breath of Thy passion,
that we might seek for the ectasy of life!
Inflame us with the fever of Thine inmost longings
that we not be satisfied until our oneness
with the God is consummated!

Capture us with the fragrances of Thine allurement,
that we may be overwhelmed with an obsession for Thy presence!
Bright Maiden of May, be here among us as we celebrate
the Beltane blessings of Thy bridal-bed!
Blessed Be!

The preistess and the priest will go to the kindling prepared for the fire (if the rite is held outdoors) located near the Southern quarter of the circle. Otherwise, a candle within the cauldron is substituted. The priest will light the balefire as the following incantation is recited by the priestess:


Strike the fire and let it rise,
Beltane flames 'neath Spring-night skies!
Ancient customs we now renew,
'Tween dusky dark and evening dew!
Fire with warmth of Summer shine,
Invoking Gods from Older Times
For fertile crops with Sun-fed rays,
Gardens of plenty and golden days!

At this point, the priest (or acting Satyr Lord) shall go to the altar and take up the garland-crown of flowers. He will then stand facing the priestess (or acting Maiden), lifting the crown above her head as he speaks the words of her coronation as the May Queen.

Crowning of the May Queen OR Floral Offering to The Goddess. The Satyr Lord:

I give priase to Thee,
vibrant Goddess of youth and sensuality;
Lady of Spring, exuberant Earth maiden,
dancing in joyous abandon across hillside and field
in vivacious hues of brightness,
exuding the wondrous essence of waving wildflowers.
Wherefore I offer unto Thee
this floral crown of Thy creation,
laid now upon Thy daughter's head
as the woven splendor of Nature's art;
the many-colored Crown of May,
scented with the mystery and majesty
that is the Maiden!
All Hail, Lady Fair,
with flowered garlands for Thy hair!


All Hail, Lady Fair,
with flowered garlands for Thy hair!