Thursday, December 22

Sexy Solstice Sutras 2011

The following Sack-Religious aphorisms are from my forthcoming book: Sacred Sex Sutras. All rights reserved by Kamala Devi

*What if: when I'm tired…I sleep. When I'm hungry…I eat. And when I'm horny…
*You know you've got the goddess when a simple 'Namaste' knocks her bindi off.
*I will not worship false idols. And I know they are false if they are too 'holy' to fuck.
*I marvel at the softness of your skin and how it manages to contain your boundless spirit.
*I thank God for the insatiable longing between my legs, for offers depth to all my spiritual seeking.
*I'm not attracted to a certain type or size of any particular body part, but those that embody the whole.
*Being a master lover isn't a function of knowing any particular moves, but a willingness to make them up as you go along.
*Your touch instantly accelerates my heartbeat; but a strangely, a strategically placed kiss can suspend me to something slower than a stop.
*I'm committed to diminishing the gap between how awkwardly we fumble into each-other in the flesh and how effortlessly we merge in my fantasies.
*The wise Priestess does not indulge in sex to compensate for church's perverted repression, but restores prayer to it's rightful place in sexual congress.

*My non-dual directive: Know Shiva. Embody Shakti.
*In opening my awareness to all that is deserving of gratitude, I realize how much I'm still taking for granted.
*It's impossible to understand the dance, unless you're in it, and even then, you may only know what moves you.
*I step outside my temple, after worship, and amongst all the shoes of other seekers, I forget which ones are mine.
*I would rather risk your horrified rejection by revealing my naked core than stay safely bundled in the arms of your uninformed acceptance.
*There is a whole sequence of steps between serving at the foot of the divine, and dancing around in her shoes, which involve a great deal of fumbling around.

*More love, less jealousy.
*I haven't lost a boyfriend, but gained a girlfriend.
*Why yes, I am flirting with you, and your lovely wife too.
*If there was such a thing as cooties, everyone would have gotten them from me by now.
*Is it still called "NRE" (New Relationship Energy), when it's with my husband of 10 years?
*My girlfriend says that if her boyfriend ever broke up with her she would cry between my legs.
*My lover is so poly that she brings a power-strip to a coffee shop when she's going to write on her computer.
*Trying to date a monogamous person, for me, is like trying to stuff my three prong plug into a two prong outlet--it just ain't gonna fit!
*Even the minister said, when he was joining my husband and I in marriage, if your wedding vows involve forsaking all others, I object.
*I didn't give up my security for free love, I just gave up the illusion that my security comes from being the only person who can bring my partner(s) sexual pleasure.
*There is nothing wrong with being straight and monogamous, as long as you inquire deeply and define your own truth as much as those of us who are not in the norm.
*My girlfriend looks me in the eyes and tells me I'm the One, she probably said the exact same thing to her boyfriend just moments ago, but I know she only speaks the truth.
*When my mother first heard about my lifestyle she said: You've such a hog. Do you know how many women can't get a date on a Friday night, and look at you, you have three!?
*Undivided attention on a single lover is a gift indeed! Once mastered, sustaining simultaneous attention on multiple lovers provides deeper degrees of practice in loving as God loves.
*You may deem me deviant for openly sharing my heart and body with as many people as I please, but until you can prove there's pleasure in conforming, deviance works fine for me.
*Oh No! We can't let gays get married. What's next? People will start wanting to marry multiple partners. Annie Sprinkle's response: Or the EArth, or the sea, or the moon! Lets prove them right! Occupy marriage!
*When a monogamous couple suffers a break up, people don't blame monogamy-- they give condolences and are sensitive to a mourning period before saying, "there are other fish in the sea." When a poly person breaks up, (which rarely happens because they usually just include new lovers and/or transition into best friends,) people can't wait to say, "I told you so" and "isn't it time you got serious and settled down?"

*Ever notice how objects come alive when observed?
*If reality is what you make of it, what do you make of reality TV?
*WARNING: Some maps are seductively more real seeming than the territory.
*A writer must live off the page first, if they have any hopes of coming alive on it.
*At some point in the play--every performer gets to play God. The question is whether or not they are acting.
*I have 3 primary spiritual practices: Breathing, loving and Writing. My definition of "primary" is that I'm never not doing it. (By this definition, I also have 3 "primary" lovers.)

*I've been withholding this, for fear it might sound cliche' but the truth is: I LOVE YOU.
*I thought you'd built a wall around your heart until I felt around a bit and discovered a doorknob.
*Those of us who are on the planet to teach LOVE, must first contend with the FEAR that comes up for the healing.
*Elevating the beloved may add exciting new dimensions to the relationship, but after suffering so many falls from the pedestal, I'm afraid of heights.
*Evidently, you've blinded me to the difference between being madly in love and truly in love, but I couldn't have a more legitimate alibi.
*I used to get upset when my lovers didn't automatically know what's on my mind-- until I fell for you--now I'm starting to value the privacy of my own thoughts.

*Our love was once otherworldly, now we're worlds apart.
*You say you still love me, and that's sweet, but I am still IN love with you.
*When our loved ones are hurting, can we find solace, comfort and wonder in mysterious mechanism that allow us to actually feel their hurt?
*Usually when I'm feeling blue, it colors everything. Lips and roses turn a certain shade of purple. But this grief is so pure, it won't even mix with other experiences.

*I haven't died, (at least not in this lifetime) but when I do, I expect the gateway to heaven to looks like your inner thighs.
*If death is anything like sleep, there is nothing to fear. But if first there Is a bardo, made up of mind, our cultural panic is justified.
*Am I sick for contemplating this, or is society sick for putting hairspray and make-up on the dead?

*DEVIN (4): Jesus Christ is just like Bob the Builder because they both make cabinets.
*DEVIN (4): Ouch. Mom, Next time I feed you something can you wait until I pull my fingers out of your mouth before you bite down?
*I'm grateful to have this bright young being temporarily in my custody, but I have no illusions that he belongs to anyone but the Universe.
*Upon hearing that a vampires used to be normal people who were bit by vampires, Devin naturally wants to know who the first vampire was.
*Devin (4) got fruit from his Trick-or-Treat bag and says: "Sometimes red apples have yellow in them, and it makes them look like an explosion!"
*My blinding impulse towards parenthood is motivated as much by my need to compensate for a dysfunctional childhood as it is curiosity of how God must feel.
*DEVIN(4): The neighbors must be crazy, they have their pumpkin out and it's already December.
ME: So do we honey.
DEVIN: Mom, next month is my birthday and I want you to bake me a cake. This time I want you to make the outside brown so it looks like the earth and we can put animals on it like worms and snails and other bugs.
ME: where did you get that idea?
Devin: I thought it up myself. It's a great idea, I've been thinking about it for a whole year, since my last birthday.

*When somebody wants the same thing I want-- and is better at attaining it-- I can chose to see them as competition, or as my teacher.
*Processing is like sex; it can be passionate, vulnerable, addictive and depending on your skill the outcome is either satisfying or frustrating.
*I'm cultivating compassion for the ego's compulsive need to compare, for deep in our lizard brain, we still think our survival depends on being the fittest.
*I am hereby quitting my bad habit of not asking for fear that you'll say no, or worse yet, that you'll say yes, but really mean no. Can I trust you to take care of yourself?

*This Thanksgiving: Save a turkey; eat a beaver!
*As an American Citizen, I live in a constant state of culture shock.
*If the earth, trees and animals could 'occupy' what would their signs say?
*If my sole power depended on persuading people they are not capable of a direct connection with the divine, could I too be corrupted enough to raid the goddess temples and put priestesses in prison?
*Most radical free thinking visionaries are such contrarians that they typically wont align with any massive social movements, but the unifying rally cry of
Occupy suggests that those who oppose their stance are conforming with the greedy 1%.

Sunday, December 11

Sack-Religious Show Cliff Notes

     We had over 200 participants gather to experience Tantra Theater's holiday show on Dec 8 and 9th at Queen Bee's Art and Culture Center in Northpark.
1) Sister Superior warmed up the audience with an invocation and short sexy sermon.

2) Father Michael inspired "Confessions" by the entire ensemble of writer/performers: Adam, Chris, Coby, Jenn, Nate, Katie and Monique.
3) Michael played an original Song about creation: "Brahma the great creator."
4) Monique shares a deep personal narrative about her tantric awakening and how she become a tantric facilitator after growing up in conservative Utah.
5) Michael offers a dramatic interpretation of "Jesus was way Cool" by King Missile.
6) Adam does Stand up comedy as "Jesus Christ" doing hands on healing and teaching us not only to love one another, but to make love to one another.
7) In this spectacular song and dance number Chris shares about how hard (or not hard) it is to get an erection at his first tantric play party.
INTERMISSION We announce the VIP after party with Naked Butlers!
Special Thanks to Sabrina, Cheri, Bodhi, Manx, Roxanne and Ellen for your Sexy Service!

8) Katie shows us how she fell in love with a foul mouth innocent (played by Jenn) who dared to ask the question: Why did Jesus have to die? Why can't god forgive our sins without a blood sacrifice?
9) Nate rewrites his relationship to self pleasuring using rope as a metaphor for how he's been trapped in his own prison, he untangles himself from his programming and redefines sexual sin as Shame.
10) Coby explores a dark fantasy based on the question: what kind of a twisted perverted bitch hires a prostitute in Vegas on Christmas eve? Or worse yet, IS a prostitute?

11) Michael plays "Satan was way cool" by Beck and then introduces the audience to our version of Hell.

12) Jenn leads the cast in a sensual lap dance to "Devil Inside" by Inxs.

13) Kamala Devi presents Adam with the Golden Lingam award, well deserved recognition for a brilliant performance and for his ongoing support and devotion to other tantra theater players.

We did a Question and Answer panel with the cast at the VIP party with the artist's after the show! We explored the rewards and challenges of the three month personal growth course. Auditions for the next Tantra Theater course will be held again in January.
For more pictures and video go to: www.TantraTheater.TV

Most photos were shot by cast photographer: Julie Kondor Thanks to Rob at Namaste Media, Ankah Desh and Electric Rick!

***This holiday season you can get yourself or your loved ones the gift of a photo shoot. Tantra Theater audience members get a 10% discount.  A personal on location photo shoot with Julie Kondor for the special rate of only $300 a session which usually takes 2-3 hours. She is magic to work with and Kamala Devi personally recommends her for the tantra community.

Saturday, December 3

Inspiration for Sack-Religious Afterparty!

After the Sack-Religious Show, this Thurs & Fri...we're throwing an naughty little VIP after-party with Naked Butlers (only $10) and a Q & A with the Cast. We're extending the invitatation to more people because the space is being renovated! We're excited to announce: Cheri, Roxanne, Manx, Sabrina, Bodhi and Ellen are our Sexy Servers!

Get Tickets Today!
Hope to see you there!

Thursday, December 1

The Sack-Relgious Show is on Thursday & Friday!!

 Cum all ye who are Religious in the Sack! Photo ©AnkhaDesh

Why I hate the Holidays: 

   After Black Friday, every year, I pack up for a holiday retreat...which usually involves leaving the civilized western world to get the hell away from the comercial temptation to shop for stupid stocking stuffers and sugar cookies.  Having been raised by wrathful and guilt-ridden Jewish & Catholic parents, I have a double dose of disdain for the overblown religiosity of the season.  

       Recently, as the mother of a bright eyed 4 year old boy, who's birthday falls in the midst of all the holiday madness...I've come to realize that it's not all about me. (Imagine that!)  Perhaps there's something more. Something even deeper for me to explore...?

But how can I bear to wear ugly sweaters drink egg-nog and maintain my  Ba-humbug-I'm too sexy for the Grinch like attitude?  I'm curious. Really. I want to know what a true tantric christmas looks like. 

This year, instead of running away, I'm staying in San Diego to face my demons.  Better yet, I'm going to cover myself in plum pudding and wrestle the dreaded Santa Beast myself. (Ho! Ho! Ho!) Who wants to watch?

     Tantra Theater is producing a spectacularly naughty little production called "The Sack-Religious Show"  with 9 talented performance artists who are willing to get emotionally naked onstage. We each have a diverse degree of religious damage that we are willing to divulge for your entertainment and enlightenment.  Add spice to your holiday season with this radical variety show we celebrate our religious freedom and right to free speech with music, dance, song, and comedy about sex and spirit. 

Writer / Performers:
Katie, Adam, Chris, Coby, Jenn, Michael, Monique and Nate. AND DID I MENTION KATIE? Directed by Kamala Devi 

VIP After-Party:
Register early so that you can attend this exciting extra event.
After the Show a select group of audience members will be ushered to an intimate back room where they will snuggle and play and enjoy  holiday hors d'oeuvres served by naked butlers. The Cast and Crew will also make an appearance and engage in a lively Q & A.  Register early so you can get intimate with the cast in this private setting. Space is limited to the FIRST 30  people, only $10 extra.

$25 Early Bird Online
$30 at the Door
$50 Both Nights + free VIP party!
Contact or buy online at

Wednesday, November 30

Sack-Religious Show is Just Around the Corner

      Tantra Theater is having a Christmas parade, but instead flaunting bloated santa blimps and slaughtering trees for the shopping season we're proudly showing off our respective religious damage.
For discount tickets go to:
Photo by Ankha Desh.
Go to www.TantraTheater.TV

Saturday, November 19

Set Design inspiration for Tantra Theater's Sack-Religious Show

Cum all Ye Who are Religious in the Sack!

Thurs. Dec. 8th and Fri Dec. 9th at Queen Bees in North Park. 
Tantra Theater Presents: The Sack-Religious show

Attention: Cast and Crew:
We need naked butlers,
Live Musical performers
and ushers!

Saturday, October 22

This has nothing to do with me:

....I think the biggest crime
is just to throw up your hands and say
this has nothing to do with me
I just want to live as comfortably as I can....

I got friends all over this country
I got friends in other countries too
I got friends I haven't met yet
I got friends I never knew
I got lovers whose eyes
I've only seen at a glance
I got strangers for great grandchildren
I got strangers for ancestors've got your whole life
to do something
and that's not very long
so why don't you give me a call
when you're willing to fight
for what you think is real
for what you think is right

--Ani DiFranco
This is a relevant excerpt from: Willing to Fight song.

Thursday, October 20

Save the Date for Tantra Theater's Holiday Show

Orignal Performance Art by Coby, Adam, Jen, Michael Katie, Chris, Nate and Monique Directed by Kamala Devi
For details go to:
Photo by Ankha Desh
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Thursday, October 13

SAVE THE DATE for the Tantra Theater's Holiday Show

SAVE THE DATE: 7pm Dec. 8th & Dec. 9th 2011
Tantra Theater's Sack-Religious Show
(For all ye who are Religious in the Sack)
 Queen Bee's in NorthPark
Players include: Adam, Chris, Coby, Jen, Nate, Michael, Monique and Nate, directed by Kamala Devi
Tickets$25 or $30 at the door.
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Thursday, October 6

"Strange Sex" with Mare Simone

We did a special Screening at this month's Tantra Talk of Mare Simone's TLC special with clients and community members: Monique and Nathan Darling. What a wonderful insight to the world of the Darlings, and to Mare's work as a certified Sex Surrogate. After a juicy Q and A we created an "activation chamber" to sound, move, breath and feel into a world without sexual guilt or shame. There were approx 40 people present and over half the room was New. They came away with a new mantra: Say YES to pleasure!
Mare will be one of the 11 teachers at Tantra-Palooza and invites you to experience this powerful healing experienceis on 11-11-11.
She will also be on the Panel for the Save the Tantra Temple Fundraiser this Saturday in Pacific Beach.
And she will be creating a costume party puja for her Birthday on Oct. a fundraiser for the Tantra Temples! For more info go to: www.Templelife.TV
She is also offering a personalized apprenticeship/assistant program in trade for administrative help.
She can be reached at:
Mare 760-271-7118

By Kamala Devi, Author of Don't Drink the Punch, Sacred Sexual Healing, Tantra Teacher and Sacred Sex and Open Relationship Coach
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"Pre-Palooza Party and Matching FUNraiser to Save the Tantra temples"

Dear Ones,
One month ago on Sept. 7th, in Arizona, the police raided three peaceful Tantra Temples, "automatic weapons drawn, throwing women to the ground, smashing altars and sending over a dozen priests and priestess to prison.", These temple members are now wrongfully accused of prostitution and facing felony charges for practicing sacred sexuality.
Church founder Tracy Elise is still in jail. The judge will be hearing the motion to Reduce her UNREASONABLE bail (1 Million Dollars!) this WED. Let's pray that this amount gets drastically reduced so she can come home.

In order to raise awareness and funds for their legal defense, we are hosting a big FREE PARTY in San Diego THIS Saturday the 8th: "Pre-Palooza Party and Matching FUNraiser to Save the Tantra temples."

Festivities will go from 4pm to 11pm, here's the agenda:

4pm Tantra Theater: Songs and Performances by Kamala Devi, Michael McClure, Brande Faris, Rae Newoman Kali Das, and our new guy: Coby.

5pm Panal Discussion with Tracey Elises Children, Mare Simon, Ariel White and numerous other Tantra Teachers!

6pm Auction. The community is pooling it's resources and offering :
Tantra Theater Tickets
Sacred Sexual Healing
voice lessons,
Crystal necklaces,
Session with teachers such as Scott Catamas, Mare Simone, Ariel White, Rhada Bast, Keli Lalita and MUCH MORE!
Do you have a product or service to offer at the auction? Please write:

7:30pm POTLUCK
SNUGGLE PARTY goes until 11pm!
We will send our sacred sensual energy to FREE the GODDESS!

All proceeds from the auction and fundraiser will go to the Legal defense for the Tantra temples in Arizona. For insider details about this current event go to:
We are supporting the Oklevueha Native American Church (ONAC) Legal defense fund as well as Our goal is to raise $10K and help FREE 18 brothers and sisters who are on trial.

P.S. Since space is limited PLEASE RSVP Now...

and we'll send directions.

If you are NOT available you can donate at: or
If you don't have the funds, please light a candle and say a prayer for FREEDOM wherever you are.

Wednesday, September 21

Sweet Nothings (Fall Equinox status updates 2011)

I am collecting little slivers of wisdom. These lines are crystallizations of my mediation, lovemaking and irreverent conversations with lovers. They show up like thorns in my fingertip that insist on being plucked out and passed around.  I intend to publish them in a bed-side book with the working title: Tantra Sutras by Kamala Devi

  • After a long dry journey, this droplet of water is returning to mamma ocean.
  • When I close my eyes, I see God; when I open my eyes, she's still there, just in disguise.
  • Most all of human challenges stem from squishing this infinite unconditional love into this limited mortal flesh and form.
  • Somewhere behind those sleepy eyes, there's a spark of something sublime, to which I am eternally in service.
  • The devil took one hard look at me, and then put his tail between his legs. ;o)
  • God is my enemy. And, as with most statements about the absolute, the converse is equally and simultaneously true.
  • It's no longer a surprise that I can fall deeply, truly, madly in LOVE in just one night--I just wonder why I don't do it every day.
  • For as much as I romanticize following the unreasonable path of the heart, my most devastating mistakes usually result from allowing my head and heart travel too far from each other.
  • I recognize myself in you, not just in the field of fusion where we are all connected, but in your unique way towards it.
  • Making love doesn't just happen between the sheets, but when you stop what you're doing to greet your beloved at the door, speak into the uncomfortable, call them for no reason, and thoughtfully put the toothpaste cap back on the tube.

  • My love does not wash away, no matter how many tears I shed, it just glistens more when wet.
  • When your heart feels like it's ripping into tiny pieces--Look at it this way, you now have more surface space to spread around.
  • The trouble with being a transpersonal channel is that you love with all the hearts that ever loved, but you may also hurt that way.
  • He kissed me goodbye and before my train pulls away from the platform he said: we may never see each other again, but we may never leave each other, either.
  • Our relationship is deeply personal and widely transpersonal. Now the trick to breaking up is simply untangling the personal.
  • My bod functions like an antenna, sensitive to the love of all those within my frequency. Missing you has expanded my range of receptivity.
  • What does my wounded little girl need to heal in order to show up full and savor the truth of where we meet?
  • Rebound is the act of rubbing the sensitive new pieces of your heart against someone who cares.
  • In truth, I never left you. My body may be somewhere else, most likely with somebody else, but ultimately parting is not possible.
  • To withhold love-- for fear of hurt is as absurd as choosing not to live-- because inevitably we all die.

  • Stop teasing me with love, to get sex, and I'll stop teasing you with sex, to get love.
  • There is music under your skin, I can hear it with my tongue.
  • Beyond all words and concepts, our bodies know how to further the conversation.
  • I Just had the most profound orgasm…too bad no one was around to witness it.
  • Celebrate sex as if it were your cause-- in fact, it is the cause of everybody.
  • Make love to me: together we'll shape-shift, gender-bend, time-travel and be.
  • Fingernails are fun for tickling and scratching, but I prefer short nails for penetration purposes.
  • Sex with you is like dessert, our connection is so full and complete, that it is unnecessary, but still irresistible.
  • What did you say? I can't hear the subtle expression of your body language with all those clothes on.
  • I am an artist. My medium is love. And like most creative genius's my art is misunderstood.
  • I'm having life experiences that go beyond any frame of reference I've ever known, yet they're still worth framing.
  • At the beginning of each rehearsal, I pray to step aside and let myself come through.
  • I'm supposed to be finishing my script, but ended up making love all day. It's funny how some forms of procrastination are easier to forgive than others.
  • Art imitates nature. My creativity moves like the ocean. I'm retreating and gathering inspiration before surging forth with another powerful creation.
  • I found buying a vinyl blow-up doll as a prop for tantra theater offensive, until I had to find a metal speculum for my Sacred Slut Show.
  • Is this monkey mind, or is the muse whispering instructions into my ear for my next book?
  • In the crystal moments when you see me without projection, that is when I see myself most clearly.
  • I'm most myself when I'm making love, otherwise I'm just faking it, the good news is that I'm making love most all of the time, now.
  • I know. I know, I'm not as beautiful, wise, sexy or even as vain as I think I am.
  • I am a perpetual mystery to myself.
  • I'm officially done being self indulgent, now I'm up in everyone else's business.
  • Sacred sex is a great way to start the day, although, by the time we get out of bed, it's already evening.
  • Why is it acceptable to drop to my knees in prayer, but all other positions I use to worship the divine are not allowed in polite society?
  • There is a mountain top where ascendant masters hang out, laugh and make love. I used to think it was a myth or a metaphor, but after being with you, I know, it's real.
  • In Alchemy, fire is the agent of change, but the adept is warned never to let the flame get too hot. There is a parallel principle in sacred sexuality, thus the insistence on slow foreplay.
  • Your devotion arouses my desire.
  • Waking reality is extended worship. Every interaction is a puja station. Starting with solo practice in the shower, feeding the inner child breakfast, dancing with Shakti in the office to meeting Shiva in the bedroom.
  • There's enough of me to go around.
  • Relationship is my religion. (and I'm polytheistic.)
  • Polyamory is the new gay.
  • Mono/poly relationship is a game of risk.
  • 'I'm Not Polyamorous But All Of My Lovers Are.'
  • The love between us is inherently unique, and made even more special by sharing it with others.
  • The programming and explosion of nuclear households in modern society has caused farther reaching toxic devastation than any bomb.
  • One of the rarely celebrated benefits of being poly is that when your suffering from a tender heartbreak, one (or two) of your other lovers can listen, hold you, and love you through it.
  • Polyamory has lead me nowhere near the path of least resistance.
  • I am stripping you down of all my projections and loving you, naked (and your girlfriend too.)
  • Happiness in polyamory hinges on ones ability to add and multiply their love instead of dividing and subtracting.
  • Monogamy is a conspicuous and crumbling conspiracy.
  • In essence, Free Love is the spiritual practice of loving the One through the many. 

  • Why don't you just ask me about my love life to begin with, because all other conversations we try to start are going to end up there, anyway.
  • By definition, "process' is always incomplete.
  • There's a fine line between practicing transparency and not having the ability to censor yourself, but real friends don't mind when you cross that line.
  • Am I one of those people who talks about "no drama" in relationship, while indulging in a inordinate amounts of it?  

  • Hey, who do I have to fuck around here to get some world peace? I mean, Sheesh.
  • Conditioned in a culture of violence, I've become so intent on stopping the suffering, that I've lost site of my ability to befriend it.
  • For most people, sexual liberation is going to take a revolution. For the rest us, it requires a revelation.
  • When offered a pleasurable growth opportunity, the natural impulse to pull away from pain becomes obvious. Liberation lies not in leaning towards or away from this impulse, but in knowing we're always at choice.
  • What magic is possible, if at the time of the hunt, instead scattering and denying our craft, we witches ban together and practice with all of our heart?
  • My prison walls may be constructed by conditioned cognitive misperceptions, but the doorway is clearly made of something beyond mind-stuff.
  • I am an activist. It's my mission to activate the security and freedom inscribed within our bodies, from a time before our sensual and religious practices were separated or persecuted. Who wants to activate with me?
On Life
  • Reality is squishy, isn't it?
  • I'm finally starting to appreciate the wisdom of the long lingering goodbye. Why rush it, when in fact, it is what we've all been doing since our arrival on earth?
  • Stillness in the manifest world is an illusion. We exist on a planet that is revolving around a sun which is also moving. Thus I center myself in the flow of my emotions. Who I am is in constant flux.

  • Travel is a prescription to break us of our habits, get perspective on our problems and turn the foreign into family.
  • I went to several Salavador Dali Museums and came away thinking: "The only difference between me and a madman is that I'm not a man."
  • In Germany I'm told, Tantra is Pointless. (Perhaps something is lost in Translation.)
  • In Paris men walk around swinging their baguettes so shamelessly by their hips, it's a wonder they don't get baguette envy.
  • The walls around my heart are crumbling down-- East Germany having this affect on me.
  • Leisure is big secret weapon that the European have over Americans

  • She brings me flowers, she bears me fruit, she massages my feet, and holds me tirelessly in her arms of gravity.
  • When I have excess sexual energy amping in my body the only remedy is to hug a tree.  
  • We are pimps for pumping her full of plastic, covering her skin with concrete, bulldozing down her pulmonary branches and  are selling her blood for $4 a gallon.
  • Hugging a tree is similar to hugging a human, you can give love, receive love or simply make love.
  • In the beginning, night fell on top of daylight and made such passionate love that colors soaked the sky. Twilight was so good that they agree to do it again, every day, at sunrise and sunset, for eternity.

All Rights Reserved. Copyright Kamala Devi, Author of Don't Drink the Punch, Sacred Sexual Healing, Tantra Teacher and Sacred Sex and Open Relationship Coach

Shedding light on the Tantra Temple Raid

By Kamala Devi, Author of Don't Drink the Punch, Sacred Sexual Healing, Tantra Teacher and Sacred Sex and Open Relationship Coach

Tuesday, September 20

Save the Tantra Temples

Here's an update on The recent tantra temple raids in Phoenix and Sedona. Tracy Elises bail has been raised to 1 million dollars. Let's put the Fun back into "fun"draising! Kamala Devi invites you to a Pre party for Tantra Palooza and a Matching Fundraiser on Sat Oct. 8th at 4pm. For details or to donate go to

Let's put the FUN back in Fundraising with this outrageous community party and snuggle. We will gather at 4pm and do Tantra Theater Improv. Followed by a brief talk and fundraising drive for the Tantra Temples (if you can't contribute funds at this time, come anyway to help raise the vibration!) Then we'll go into community Potluck and Sacred Snuggle Party.
No Pressure, No Charge at the door, No strings, just bring your check-book for the Fundraiser.

The intention of this Pre-Party:

1) Raise money for the Tantric Temples legal defense in Phoenix. Kamala Devi is offering matching funds for up to $2K.

2) To gather and start the foreplay with Tantra-Palooza alumni and get registration rolling. (Hold your space for only $111)

3) To do what we do best, Love, Laugh and Live!

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Saturday, September 10

Native American Church Blesses the Phoenix Goddess Temple

Tantra Temples Needs our Support

n response to Goddess Temple arrests. Kamala Devi speaks up in support Mother Priestess Tracy Elise. Here is a link to raise funds for her legal defense.

Tuesday, September 6

Song of the Reed by Rumi

Listen to the story told by the reed,
of being separated.

"Since I was cut from the reedbed,
I have made this crying sound.

Anyone apart from someone he loves
understands what I say.

Anyone pulled from a source
longs to go back.

At any gathering I am there,
mingling in the laughing and grieving,

a friend to each, but few
will hear the secrets hidden

within the notes. No ears for that.
Body flowing out of spirit,

spirit up from body: no concealing
that mixing. But it's not given us

to see the soul. The reed flute
is fire, not wind. Be that empty."

Hear the love fire tangled
in the reed notes, as bewilderment

melts into wine. The reed is a friend
to all who want the fabric torn

and drawn away. The reed is hurt
and salve combining. Intimacy

and longing for intimacy, one
song. A disastrous surrender

and a fine love, together. The one
who secretly hears this is senseless.

A tongue has one customer, the ear.
A sugarcane flute has such effect

because it was able to make sugar
in the reedbed. The sound it makes

is for everyone. Days full of wanting,
let them go by without worrying

that they do. Stay where you are
inside such a pure, hollow note.

Every thirst gets satisfied except
that of these fish, the mystics,

who swim a vast ocean of grace
still somehow longing for it!

No one lives in that without
being nourished every day.

But if someone doesn't want to hear
the song of the reed flute,

it's best to cut conversation
short, say good-bye, and leave.

translated by Coleman Barks

Wednesday, August 31

Like This by Rumi

If anyone asks you how the perfect satisfaction of all our sexual wanting will look, lift your face and say,
Like this.
When someone mentions the gracefulness of the nightsky, climb up on the roof and dance and say,
Like this.
If anyone wants to know what "spirit" is, or what "God’s fragrance" means, lean your head toward him or her. Keep your face there close.
Like this.
When someone quotes the old poetic image about clouds gradually uncovering the moon, slowly loosen knot by knot the strings of your robe.
Like this.
If anyone wonders how Jesus raised the dead, don’t try to explain the miracle. Kiss me on the lips.
Like this. Like this.
When someone asks what it means to "die for love," point here.
If someone asks how tall I am, frown and measure with your fingers the space between the creases on your forehead.
This tall.
The soul sometimes leaves the body, the returns.
When someone doesn’t believe that,
walk back into my house.
Like this.
When lovers moan,
they’re telling our story.
Like this.
I am a sky where spirits live.
Stare into this deepening blue,
while the breeze says a secret.
Like this.
When someone asks what there is to do,
light the candle in his hand.
Like this.
How did Joseph’s scent come to Jacob?
How did Jacob’s sight return?
A little wind cleans the eyes.
Like this.
When Shams comes back from Tabriz,
he’ll put just his head around the edge
of the door to surprise us 
Like this.

Tantra Theater Call-Back Auditions!

Sack-Religious Holiday Show
"Come all ye who are religious in the sack!" 
We'll be starting the next Course on TUESDAYS at 6:30 in September, October and November.
We are planning a spectacular performance showcase in December!
I suggest you put the following dates on your calendar, and LIGHTEN UP your work and social calendar so that you can dive deeply into rehearsals and have time for emotional process and/or homework.
Open house and Auditions on Sept 6th. The first rehearsal begins on Sept. 13th. Please wear comfy clothes, bring pen, journal, inspiration and an open mind.

Must be available to rehearse weekly on Tuesdays at 6:45pm.

September: 13, 20, 27

October: 4, 11, 18, 25

November: 1, 8, 15 22, 29

December: 6, *7, *8, *9, *10 (*possible show dates)
other rehearsals during Tech week TBA
Wrap party: December 13th or following week if we do a later show. It is required that you miss no more than 3 classes AND dress rehearsal is mandatory.
San Diego TT has (3) three levels of participation: Personal, Transpersonal & Crew.

1) PERSONAL: We're seeking open-minded individuals who are interested in radical personal growth, no performance experience necessary. The Tantra Theater training provides a safe, challenging, non-judgmental space for spiritual seekers to experience their full expression. The training is a 90-day course that culminates in a showcase.
2) TRANSPERSONAL: We're also seeking Performance artists with improvisational skills, who are also empathic listeners who love serving the community. The San Diego Tantra Theater Troupe is a collective of spiritual artists who explore and empower sacred sexuality on stage. We collaborate to create performances that promote a greater understanding of sacred sexual issues in conscious communities within and beyond San Diego. Our personal, vulnerable and sometimes controversial presentations inspire learning, open discussion and spiritual awakening. During performance, both artists and audience have an opportunity to realize the creative power within their sex center. Using comedy, drama, and dance, we aim to educate, entertain and enlighten. (Prerequisite: Two or more 90-day courses or equivalent experience are necessary to become a member of the troupe.)

3) CREW: We can always use helping hands with lights, camera, sound, costume, props, concessions, ushering and fluffing. Experience, availability and positive attitude are appreciated! Our budget is limited but experienced Stage Management and video work may be compensated. Most other work is volunteer or trade for free attendance. We currently have a small, overworked team of groupies who are excited to expand the team.
MISSION STATEMENT: SD Tantra Theater Troupe combines ritual and performance to transmute sexual guilt, shame and fear into art, healing and liberation. We celebrate that every aspect of life's drama is sacred.
TANTRA THEATER TROUPE is a collective of artist, healers and teachers that produce performances, workshops and events for personal growth. Created in 2009 under the direction of author and Tantra Teacher, Kamala Devi, Tantra Theatre has performed locally as well as at national sacred sex conferences and festivals.

We are looking for creative, open minded, intuitive, vulnerable and honest storytellers with a good sense of humor, and a love for learning. What we look for:

· Empathic listening skills

· Available to rehearse weekly
· Comfortable with personal growth and movement-based work
· Community orientation: personality that plays well with others
· Strong stage presence: both as an ensemble player and as a solo performer

· Optional artistic skills: Music, dance, poetry all other tantric arts welcome!


· Deep heart connections with cast and crew
· Opportunity to grow as a person and performer
· The ability to safely perform to audience of over 100 people
· Commemorative DVD of your performance
· Visibility through video clips on on http
· Performing for many different circumstances in a broad range of venues
· Opportunity to affect Social change
· Rehearse 6:30-9:30pm once per week for 9 weeks (Plus longer later hours during tech-week, on the week before the showcase.)
· 1.5 hour Private coaching to develop your personal narrative.
· 10 hours of personal homework, writing, rehearsing and at least 1-2 hours/month of volunteer work.
· Upon first joining, you'll be invited to take part in an 9-week deep personal growth group to get your skills up to performance level. The financial commitment for this course is only $497. Returning students receive $100 discount.


· Email Kamala Devi, Director, to tell us you are interested in auditioning, and get directions.
· Come to the next scheduled audition. You needn’t prepare anything.
· If we like each other and feel creative synergy, you will either be asked come to a callback audition or be invited to join the next 90-day journey and be a part of the Holiday show!

Sunday, August 28

It sounds like wish list or an unrealistic fantasy from a personals ad.
but they are the romantic lyrics from one of my favorite songs.
Ani DiFranco wants to know if she's asking too much.
To which I say:

As long as your not asking it all of just ONE person, then
you can't possibly ask for too much.

Asking too much
I want somebody 
who sees the pointlessness
and still keeps their purpose in mind
I want somebody 
who has a tortured soul
some of the time
I want somebody 
who will either put out for me
or put me out of misery
or maybe
just put it all to words
and make me say, you know
I never heard it put that way
make me say, what did you just say?
I want somebody 
who can hold my interest
hold it and never let it fall
someone who can flatten me 
with a kiss that hits like a fist
or a sentence, that stops me 
like a brick wall
because if you hear me talking
listen to what I'm not saying 
if you hear me playing guitar
listen to what I'm not playing
and don't ask
me to put words
to all the spaces between notes
in fact if you have to ask, forget it
do and you'll regret it
I'm tired of being the interesting one
I'm tired of heving fun for two
just lay yourself on the line
and I might lay myself down by you
but don't sit behind your eyes
and wait for me to surprise you
I want somebody 
who can make me scream 
until it's funny
give me a run for my money
I want someone who can
twist me up in knots
tell me, for the woman who has everything
what have you got?
I want someone 
who's not afraid of me
or anyone else
in other words 
I want someone
who's not afraid of themself
do you think I'm asking too much?

No way.
Make up a list as long as your wildest fantasy
and see it get fulfilled by your community.
Kamala Devi

Friday, August 19

What is a Tantric MatchMaker???

Too Shy to ask someone for a sacred sensual encounter? We are going to have several Tantra Yentas (Matchmakers) at Tantra-Palooza. Here are some ideas of messages you can send to the object of your desire: 1) I have a crush on you. 2) want to go on a speed date (15 minute walk or share a meal. 3) Or would you like to share some sacred sensual practices? Kamala Devi tells the story of how she was first introduced to the idea of 'il postino' at Zegg and she is actively looking for someone who wants to be a designated messanger at Tantra-Palooza.

Monday, August 15

Boundaries at Sex Clubs (take 2)

Kamala Devi tells the story of her first Sex club in a foreign country and some best practices for setting clear boundaries when you can't speak the language. She describes the intimate details of her recent experience in Paris with her poly pod of lovers.

Sunday, August 14

Problems in Poly Paradise

     You may imagine that I'm having group sex all the time as I'm traveling with my husband and three  (give or take) polyamorous lovers through Europe. In fact we'd like to imagine that we're having more sex than we are. But even the best laid plans are still just plans to get laid. The reality of navigating through 3 foreign speaking countries with dietary restrictions, jealousy issues, relationships in transition, and a 4 year old boy can take a toll on how sexy one feels by the end of the day.  
    Even though we've let our "love levels" run down at times, we still have had an impeccable practice of  openness and honesty. Each one of us has been willing to speak their truth as it arises. And so it is in that spirit that I write this blog about some of the challenges of our non-residential poly living experiment. 
    Since I have already posted 10 mini video blogs about our life-changing time at Zegg Sommercamp, I will start this story in Berlin, when Michael, Devin (age 4), Adam, our New York Shawna and I stayed in a beautiful custom built home with a sexy and playful photographer who warmly welcomed our jet-lagged lovers Jennifer and James by creating a huge homemade vegetarian feast. During those 4 nights we toured the city, visited art exhibits, drank espresso, danced barefoot, hiked by moonlight, and modeled nude for photos.  There was much flirtation and sensual play, but we were too tired on most nights to make love. The emotional undercurrent was that Michael was exhausted from watching Devin, Jenn had a argument about poly with her husband on the way to the airport, and James was insecure that his sexual attraction was unrequited by me as I was emotionally untangling from a year-long relationship with his brother. All this process was contained by the household of our hosts who are actively undergoing divorce.  
     Michael and Devin left a day early for the Italian Alps. Jennifer, James and I said goodbye to our beloved lovers from Zegg and frantically fled the city nearly missing our plane to Milano. A 4 hour drive to the Mountains turned into a fiasco because of a broken GPS system.  The cruel British accent continuously sent us into corn fields and we were not able to find a local map. When we finally reached the our Bed and Breakfast in the breathtaking cliffs of the Alps near Austria, our hostess was kind enough to cater to our gluten free and/or vegan diets. 
     During the days we explored castles, cafes, pastures and vistas. The challenge was always traveling in group, and wanting to squeeze in so much activity into each day.  Each night at dinner we share from our heart, both our highlights and our challenges while continuously interrupted by questions about rockets and race cars.  One highlight was when we got tipsy on free homemade grappa and enjoyed a spontaneous massage/snuggle party. Our lowlights were wide discrepancies in temperature preferences, sleeping arrangements, driving habits, and limitations in dietary options.
     After three nights of magical lighting storms, we were ready to head south for warmer weather in the Italian Riviera. We were struck by the surreal spattering of sexy disco bars and bouncy children's rides throughout the strip. The warm shallow beaches were crawling with speedos and hairy armpits but we were disappointed (and a bit embarrassed) to discover that toplessness had long since gone out of style. 
     It was on the beach, in the sweltering heat after days of sleepless nights that James revealed the depth of his disappointment for not having a more intimate connection with me. He admitted to having built up expectations of how connected we would be on the trip. He also took responsibility for his pattern of minimizing his process because he didn't want to detract energy from the group. Since we were all operating from extreme sleep depravation with virtually no time to process on our own, he was considering ending his trip early. Of course, we would support whatever he needed to do to take care of himself, I told him, but I was personally devastated by the thought of losing his companionship. In attempts to avoid my own disappointment I offered my famous combination of inappropriate humor and manipulation:  "If you leave now you'll cause irreparable psychological damage to my little boy who will need years of therapy to work out his abandonment issues." Through laughter and tears we took an honest look at what wasn't working in our relationship and agreed it was time to transitioning our 'erotic friendship' into a more platonic heart-centered connection.
    We gathered for a "family meeting" over vegetarian pizza and salad dinner. James did his best to share his struggles while being continuously interrupted every time Devin wanted a French fry. Collectively, we agreed to do any/everything we could to accommodate his needs for more sleep, protein, and intimacy in hopes of helping him find center and stay on the trip. After a group massage, a restful nap and a supportive Skype conversation with his brother, James seemed to swiftly shift back to center.
      Often times when one person in relationship is broke down the other tries to hold it together to support them. So when I felt like he was safely out of crisis, I allowed my own inevitable meltdown.  I woke up angry and I spent most the day crying.  I judged him for not feeling safe enough to share the intensity of his internal process.  I felt betrayed and afraid he wouldn't ask for what he really wanted from me and the relationship because he puts everyone else's needs in front of his own. My heart was further confused by my transference of feelings from my recent break up with his brother. But after deeper inquiry, my greatest fear was losing my best friend. 
      For the last leg of the trip, we rented a swanky apartment overlooking a canal in Paris. Externally, we were site seeing, holding hands, appreciating art, sipping espressos, and enjoying the public transit system in the world's most romantic city. Internally, Michael was sexually frustrated, Jen was jealous of her husband's sleeping with other lovers in San Diego, and I was still sad about my shifting relationship. James's insecurity and struggles continued to the point where he wanting to leave again. 
     And then something Magical happened. Jen's bisexual husband arrived with his insatiable libido and alchemized a breakthrough for the entire group. I'll save the next chapter of our Great European Poly Adventure for my next blog, but I'll tease you a bit by saying there is no lack of sex in that story. 
     The conclusion of James's last 4 days in Paris were bittersweet. We held an urgent family meeting (over pizza and salad again) where many hurt feelings were shared. For greater sustainability James suggested we balance social time with autonomous alone time and more sleep. This is when I insisted that the answer to almost all breakdowns is ritual, magic and better time management. We finally created  a schedule for meal times, day care, and especially built in special time for processing. (I also suggested we structure time for sex, but alas the group wanted this to be spontaneous.) 
    It only took one hour of practicing Zegg Forum per day, we were able to clear lifetimes worth of monogamous programing and cultivate a web of truth, love, and possibility.  After more negotiation, James and I arranged to spend the last few nights in bed together sharing sensuality. Our specific boundaries were no deep kissing or sex. Still, our bodies know how to further a conversation, beyond all words and concepts.  That night, by the moans and singing bedsprings of our lovers in the next room, James plugged his heart into the negative pole in my yoni and we generated a current that illuminated every shadow that had came up throughout the trip. By the morning light, I could see the shift in his eyes as he procured a beautiful feast for the family.  He described the experience as having had his heart crack open. What I see, is a beautiful young man in love and in his power. 

Wednesday, August 10

Love is all around us

By Julia Tham
A beautiful, creative, amazing artist who hosted us in Berlin. Thank you Julia for seeing our love so clearly.   More pictures coming soon.

Monday, August 8

As you are

to know the truth
takes a willingness
to see it naked
and be with it
as it is
as you are

reality is sloppy
like sex
It's ugly and messy
at times
it hurts but it's 
so much more satisfying
than shielding oneself 
with mental illusions

you say you want to
accept what is
but I say, fuck it
Or "make love" to it 
if you insist
Have your way with it

Let me see you
unveil your raw insecure 
uncertain body, for me
so I know I'm not alone
show me, please, that 
nobody is

your deep dark inner experience
is interesting to me
fascinating even.
I'm bored by the impulse 
to reassure me that everything's 
going to be OK

Let yourself be held
for once
Let the tears flow 
through that cold mental filter
so i can mourn with you.
And together we can celebrate
That we may never
figure it all out

But we can, at least
get naked with what is 
and feel it all

Kamala Devi
Aug. 2011