Behind the Scenes of Sex Magic

     I’ll be appearing nude on the silver screen in the controversial new Documentary about Baba Dez entitled, “Sex Magic: Manifesting Maya.” Because this film is a brave exploration of sacred sex work, it seems only natural to share my body in the buff...but now that all of my dearest friends, including my mother, agreed to be in the audience, I’m starting to feel a tad vulnerable. Much of the footage was shot in Sedona and Hawaii while I was still nursing, during my sons first year of life.
     My role in the documentary cuts far deeper than physical nakedness. Because Baba Dez is my co-author, friend and lover the story reveals details about my personal life that I hold dear, as well as showing some practices that I don’t necessarily agree with.

     The short summary of the documentary reads: Baba Dez is a polyamorous, sacred sexual healer who’s made love to over a thousand women. When his primary lover (Maya) abandons him due to his “poly” lifestyle, he practices Sex Magic with other women to manifest her back.

     It has recently won the “official selection award” at both Phildelphia and Chicago international film festivals. A reviewer from Philadelphia writes “…Easily the most insane, thought-provoking, balanced, hysterical (although not ALWAYS on purpose) well-crafted doc I’ve seen in years.” Last week on IFC it was ranked # 1 VOD Sales (Video on demand, for documentaries.) Such accolades are unheard of for a documentary that doesn’t revolve around a big name or a current event.

     However, the project has not always been well received. In the 4 years of it’s creation, the doc went through over 15 edits, and unofficial screenings with intense negative reactions.

      I remember when, despite the director’s advice, Dez held a public screening of a rough cut at the Daka-Dakini Conference in Virginia Beach. I am not exaggerating when I say, the audience of 70 sexual healers nearly broke out in a riot! The group pleaded with Dez not to release it. The early versions of this film were criticized for portraying: sex addiction, black magic, rape allegations, breaking traditional family values, objectifying women, and commercializing spiritual work.

      I can only imagine the heat that Dez has taken for making this movie. At recent conferences, I’ve been personally attacked for allowing my son to be shown in an adult content film and had esteemed colleagues judge and condemned me for my decision to collaborate with him.

     I admit, I was not always impressed with the early versions, and I may not agree with all of Dez’s practices, and still may disagree with the some of the director’s choices. However, I maintain unwavering support for innovative art that speaks directly into our cultures darkest taboos. Further, I have witnessed profound growth and healing as a result of this project.

      Last year, I spent the holiday season in Australia with my husband, son, Baba Dez and his lovers Maya and Natasha. We rented a retreat center, worked together, and even took a RV trip through the bush. While down under, we screened a rough-cut of the doc to over 100 people who laughed, cried and had profound revelations. During the various Q & A panel discussions, we deepened our understanding of unconventional family. Maya who's since become like a sister to me, has traveled solo to Bali to continue her deep personal healing and is now writing her own blog and book to release Dez and his enchantment.

      Earlier this year, I held an unofficial screening of a late version of Sex Magic at my home temple with the directors Eric Liebman and Jon Schell. I'm grateful that these sincere documentary-makers gave consideration to the San Diego Tantra community’s feedback before editing the final cut. Just by watching the film, one woman had a full body recall of an early incest experience, and went on to seek peer counseling and expressed deep gratitude to Dez andafterwards.

      As a sexual healer who offers hands-on private sessions, Dez can only touch so many lives. Through writing books and producing movies and traveling internationally, Baba Dez is able to be a more powerful instrument of change on the planet. Dez has also created a broader platform for other sacred sexual healers such as myself, Mare Simone, Kypris Aster Drake, Ariel White, Lawrence Lanoff, Jaiya Ma and Shawn Roop to name just a few in California. I am proud to align with Baba Dez because, though I may not agree with all his teachings, I know he is a powerful visionary who has a clear intention to heal sexual guilt, fear and shame towards sacred sexual liberation on the global level.

I personally can’t wait to see the final cut at the Theaters Dec 3, Dec 4, and Dec 9th at 10pm at the Gaslamp: 701 Fifth Ave.San Diego, CA 92101

If you are not in San Diego you can download it online at:
http://www.ifcfilms.com/films/sex-magic
And tell your friends!

By Kamala Devi, co-author of Sacred Sexual Healing: The Shaman Method of Sex Magic. www.BlissCoach.com

Devin and the Triple Goddess

Devin LOVES growing up in a poly household! And I LOVE being surrounded by my sister-lover-goddess-aunties. Here's Viraja, Cheri, me and Devin after the Poly Potluck with Taj. I'm proud to have made it into two chapters of her new book!
On Page 23 of "Polyamory in the 21st Century" Anapol writes:

"Kamala's been accused of trying to convert others to
nonmonogamy, trying to prove something to the religious right and taking
advantage of the free publicity to market her books and DVDs. Kamala retorts, "I
have no idea what difference it will make in the long run. What I know is that I
love my life." Kamala says she's motivated by a strong desire to be a voice for
freedom and love in the world. I'm willing to be misunderstood, misquoted or
misrepresented, whateve it takes to makes the world a better place."
www.Lovewithoutlimits.com & www.blisscoach.com

Deborah Taj Anapol at our monthly Poly Potluck

With over 50 friends and lovers at at the Emerald Temple, this was our Largest Poly Potluck in over 5 years! Thank you Taj for reading from your new book: Polyamory in the 21st Century. The highlight of the evening was her now famous quote, "Let go of the form, and let love lead." Get your copy of this great new book at: http://lovewithoutlimits.com/

Tierd of Speaking Sweetly by Hafiz

Love wants to reach out and manhandle us,
Break all our teacup talk of God.

If you had the courage and
Could give the Beloved His choice, some nights,
He would just drag you around the room
By your hair,
Ripping from your grip all those toys in the world
That bring you no joy.

Love sometimes gets tired of speaking sweetly
And wants to rip to shreds
All your erroneous notions of truth

That make you fight within yourself, dear one,
And with others,

Causing the world to weep
On too many fine days.

God wants to manhandle us,
Lock us inside of a tiny room with Himself
And practice His dropkick.

The Beloved sometimes wants
To do us a great favor:

Hold us upside down
And shake all the nonsense out.

But when we hear
He is in such a “playful drunken mood”
Most everyone I know
Quickly packs their bags and hightails it
Out of town.

~ Hafiz ~
(The Gift – versions of Hafiz by Daniel Ladinsky)
Special Thanks to Goddess Maya for introducing me to this one.
In perfect timing, after I got more hate mail. I had to laugh. The religious zealot writes "...and when you die, I hope that God almighty has his way with you..." And I'm thinking... me too. ;)

Sacred Sex Show-n-Tell

TJ Bartel & Kamala Devi , Sacred Sexual Healing

My son will be 4 years old this holiday season. I am not only celebrating his birth, but my own humbling rite of passage into motherhood. As a mom, I'm not supposed to be a highly sexualized being. Somehow, it's socially acceptable for me to talk about whether he's circumcised, how long I nursed and when my period to came back.

But it's NOT acceptable to share that my inner labia ripped during my home-birth, and giving birth changed the size and shape of my yoni, the taste of my fluids, the amount of lubrication I produce, the positions I prefer, how long it takes me to orgasm and the type of orgasms I now enjoy.

During my initial postpartum period, I felt broken. I cried to Michael, my midwife, and my mother about my sexual loss. Most women assured me that these were natural changes and that it's normal to have a decrease in sex drive, and they assured me that motherhood had other rewards.

But when my son was 9 months old, I went to see feminist revolutionary Betty Dodson and realized that the cultural messages about my body were... BULLSHIT! For over 30 years Dodson has been holding women empowerment circles and "Genital Show & Tell"events that heal and transform deep wounding that is maintained by a shroud of sexual taboos.

Soon after meeting Betty, I started offering "genital show and tell" groups to my "Sisters in Truth." In the context of sacred circle, we would not only talk about every sexual taboo, but practice yoni gazing, yoni photography and group masturbation.

Recently, I've had many personal revelations in my naked yoga and Quodoshka practices and I am called to offer a these vulnerable teachings within a circle of mixed gender. There are profound sexual healing benefits when we give eachother permission to show and share about our nakedness.

We recently held a profound healing circle at the Advanced Sacred Sexual Healing workshop last month with TJ Bartel. I look forward to collaborating with him more in the near future, and in the meantime, let me know if you want to join us for the next Gential Show & Tell event. .

Love you,
Kamala Devi
www.BlissCoach.com or call 858-272-2254
Nov. 18 Poly Potluck with Guest Speaker: Deborah Taj Anapol 6:45
Nov. 19 Poly Talk at Phoenix Goddess Temple 7-9pm
Nov. 20-21 Tantra Theater Intensive at Phoenix Goddess Temple
Dec. 4 Sacred Snuggle Party 6:45 (Last event of the year)
Jan. 17 Auditions and Open House for Tantra Theater Troupe 2011
March 4-6 Art of Conscious Loving with Leah Alchin & Charles Muir!

Special Inviation: Tantra Theater at the Phoenix Goddess Temple

Dear Temple Priestess,

"What do you want to be when you grow up?"
When I was little, my answer was 'ballerina' or 'nurse.'
That's because I didn't know 'Dakini' was an option.

Today, when I tell people I'm a "Sacred Sexual healer,"
They stare at me blankly and have no clue what I do.
Sometimes when they ask, "What is Tantra?" I feel sad,
Because I know I can TALK about it until I'm blue in the face...
but unless they're ready to experience it, they'll never understand.

I belong to a special tribe of sexy light workers.
Our calling is to heal the worlds deepest wound,
secretly, for years, we did it one session at a time.
But now our collective consciousness is waking up,
it's time we use the temple arts to teach and inspire.

Spoken word, song, dance, comedy...this is language of the muses.
Whereas written word is a tool from the masculine missionaries.
Tantra Theater is an invitation to put down your books,
get out of your mind, stand up and speak your herstory!
Join me this weekend for a deep journey into your full expression.

Nov. 20-21 Tantra Theater Intensive for Phoenix Goddess Temple.
Kamala Devi is working with the Mystic systers to design tantra theater teachings specifically for the Phoenix Goddess Temple. This weekend workshop is specifically designed for goddess practitioners who want to enhance their transpersonal theater skills such as fantasy role play, embodying the archetypes and erotic improvisation. The workshop is open to the public and no theater experience is necessary.
 
Cost is a reduced price at $220 for the entire 18 hour workshop which culminates in an optional performance at the full moon celebration on the 21st. Location: Temple of 1 Contact: School of 1 at 602-956-0651 http://www.tantratheater.tv/ or call Kamala Devi at 858-272-2254.

Love,
Kamala Devi

Weekend Overview:
10am-6pm Sat and Sun.
Tantra Theater is a transformative group process where we delve into personal history and have fun re-scripting the sexual and spiritual stories that have been holding us back. The intensive two day journey involves 18 hours of deep personal growth exercises designed to transform sexual guilt shame and fear into art, healing and liberation. We'll begin to re-script you spiritual or sexual awakening "Story" into a performance that will inspire the people to heal. This unique event is an entertaining and enlightening whether it's for the screen, stage or for an audience of one.
Benefits:
**Stage presence and confidence
**Break through whatever holds you back!
**An expanded sense of intimate and meaningful sharing
**A keen ability to impact others
**Enhanced presenter skills
**The experience of freedom and joy in your life

Most of us have an analytical understanding of our story, meaning that we could tell someone our story. However, in the process of using the expressive arts to craft our stories, our paradigm is irrevocably altered. Old suffering is observed and released. Connection is realized. A new consciousness emerges that allows for humorous self-reflection. Ultimately, we experience a greater acceptance of self and a freedom of being. This workshop is especially for you if:

**You have sacred or sexual wounds you'd like to have witnessed and healed.
**You are a teachers or healer in sacred sexuality.
**You want to expess yourself on camera or stage.
**You have ever dreamed about performing a one man/woman show.
**You are ready to re-script your reality & experience more sexual liberation!

During the intensive we will practice: tantric meditation and breathing practices, theater-based technologies, movement and improvisational dance, vocal exercises, group processes and optional live performance.

The Movie "Sex Magic" is Showing at SD Gaslamp on Dec 9th!

Baba Dez is a polyamorous, sacred sexual healer who’s made love to over a thousand women. When his primary lover abandons him due to his “poly” lifestyle, he practices Sex Magic with other women to manifest her back.

A personal note from directors Jonathan Schell & Eric Liebman:

After 4 years, here it is...
We open NYC's IFC Center (the Waverly theater) this weekend! Midnight screenings this Friday and Saturday, and weekday screenings at 4:45.

The film has been rocking festival audiences. Last week in England, they laughed their asses off. 90% LOVED it, 10% hated it, one guy attacked me! They were stealing our posters.

We also just won awards in Chicago and Philadelphia.
Check IFC's website for screening times and trailer, http://www.ifcfilms.com/films/sex-magic
http://www.ifccenter.com/#day_fri
Here's our website for future dates and cities;
SexMagicTheMovie.com

Facebook,
http://www.facebook.com/pages/Sex-Magic-Manifesting-Maya/162540689657

And if you can't make the theater, it's now On Demand at IFC.

Sacred Snuggle & Kali Das's Birthday

This picture was taken shortly after Kali Das's Birthday Spanking Ritual and is just a handful of friends and lovers that attended the Nov. Sacred Snuggle. There was a particularly powerful healing vortex at this month's event because it started immediately after the advanced Sexual healing Playshop and Genital Show and Tell with Kamala Devi & TJ Bartel. Next month will be the last Snuggle Party of the year and will have a holiday theme! Look forward to seeing you there.
Kamala Devi www.BlissCoach.com or call 858-272-2254
Nov. 13th Naked Yoga (Intermediate Level) 4:30pm
Nov. 18 Poly Potluck with Guest Speaker: Deborah Taj Anapol 6:45
Nov. 19 Poly Talk at Phoenix Goddess Temple 7-9pm
Nov. 20-21 Tantra Theater Intensive at Phoenix Goddess Temple
Dec. 4 Sacred Snuggle Party 6:45 (Last event of the year)
Jan. 17 Auditions and Open House for Tantra Theater Troupe 2011
March 4-6 Art of Conscious Loving with Leah Alchin & Charles Muir!

Are you Envious?

Overcome your Envy with "Genital Show & Tell" This Saturday!
     My son will be 4 years old this holiday season. I am not only celebrating his birth, but my own humbling rite of passage into motherhood.
As a mom, I'm not supposed to be a highly sexualized being. Somehow, it's socially acceptable for me to talk about whether he's circumcised, how long I nursed and when my period to came back.
But it's NOT acceptable to share that my inner labia ripped during my home-birth, and giving birth changed the size and shape of my yoni, the taste of my fluids, the amount of lubrication I produce, the positions I prefer, how long it takes me to orgasm and the type of orgasms I now enjoy.
      During my initial postpartum period, I felt broken. I cried to Michael, my midwife, and my mother about my sexual loss. Most women assured me that these were natural changes and that it's normal to have a decrease in sex drive, and they assured me that motherhood had other rewards.
But when my son was 9 months old, I went to see feminist revolutionary Betty Dodson and realized that the cultural messages about my body were... BULLSHIT! For over 30 years Dodson has been holding women empowerment circles and "Genital Show & Tell"events that heal and transform deep wounding that is maintained by a shroud of sexual taboos.
     Soon after meeting Betty, I started offering "genital show and tell" groups to my "Sisters in Truth." In the context of sacred circle, we would not only talk about every sexual taboo, but practice yoni gazing, yoni photography and group masturbation.
     Recently, I've had many personal revelations in my naked yoga and Quodoshka practices and I am called to offer a these vulnerable teachings within a circle of mixed gender. There are profound sexual healing benefits when we give eachother permission to show and share about our nakedness.
You'll be suprised by how much there is to learn about yourself in witnessing others if you join me for this sacred sexual ritual this Saturday, Nov. 6th from 10am-6pm at the Advanced Sexual Healing Playshop with guest teacher TJ Bartel. Scroll down for details.
     Love you,
Kamala Devi
www.BlissCoach.com or call 858-272-2254
Nov. 4 Tantra Talk with Guest Speaker: Daka TJ Bartel 6:45
Nov. 6 Advanced Sexual healing and Genital Show and Tell with TJ Bartel 10-6pm
Nov. 6 Sacred Snuggle and Potluck Party 6:45
Nov. 13th Naked Yoga (Intermediate Level) 4:30pm
Nov. 18 Poly Potluck with Guest Speaker: Deborah Taj Anapol 6:45
Nov. 19 Taste of Tantra Theater at Phoenix Goddess Temple 7-9pm
Nov. 20-21 Tantra Theater Intensive at Phoenix Goddess Temple
Dec. 4 Sacred Snuggle Party 6:45 (Last event of the year)
Jan. 17 Auditions and Open House for Tantra Theater Troupe 2011
March 4-6 Art of Conscious Loving with Leah Alchin & Charles Muir!

Tantra Theater Weekend at the Phoenix Goddess Temple

    


    











      Teaching Tantra Theater in NYC filled me with a strong sense of Dharma. This photo depicts the divine masculine nature of my hosts Anton Diaz & Reid Mihalko at the Sacred Sex Round up. Michael (AKA Swami G-spot) and I performed to approx. 70 sexy spirits that evening.  We've since inspired a NYC chapter of Tantra Theater.
      Now, I'm inspired to share these transformative theater tools with the mystic sisters at the Phoenix Goddess Temple.  I'm working with Tracy Elise to create a weekend workshop that is specifically designed for goddess practitioners who want to enhance their trans personal theater skills such as fantasy role play, embodying the archetypes and erotic improvisation.  This will be an 18 hour weekend intensive for the School of One practitioners.  It will be held at the Phoenix Goddess Temple and is open to the public.  http://www.phoenixgoddesstemple.org/ No theater experience necessary.

     Friday Nov. 19th- A Taste of Tantra Theater. at Temple Friday Nights Series from 7-9pm, This event is by donations only. You will do guided explorations of  formative sacred sexual experiences with partners and small groups. At the end of the evening, you will have the opportunity, but are not required to "perform" in front of the group. This is a healing practice for both participants and observers.

 
Saturday Nov. 20th & Sunday Nov. 21st   Full day of Tantra Theater Technology from 10am-7pm This event is normally $497, but for the School of one it is being offered at Half price only $247 per person.
 
     Tantra Theater is a tansformative group process where we delve into personal history and have fun re-scripting the sexual and spiritual stories that have been holding us back. The intensive two day journey involves 18 hours of deep personal growth exercises designed to transform sexual guilt shame and fear into art, healing and liberation.  We'll begin to re-script you spiritual or sexual awakening "Story" into a performance that will inspire the people to heal. This unique event is an entertaining and enlightening whether it's for the screen, stage or for an audience of one.
Benefits:

**Stage presence and confidence
**Break through whatever holds you back!
**An expanded sense of intimate and meaningful sharing
**A keen ability to impact others
**Enhanced presenter skills
**The experience of freedom and joy in your life

     Most of us have an analytical understanding of our story, meaning that we could tell someone our story. However, in the process of using the expressive arts to craft our stories, our paradigm is irrevocably altered. Old suffering is observed and released. Connection is realized. A new consciousness emerges that allows for humorous self-reflection. Ultimately, we experience a greater acceptance of self and a freedom of being. This workshop is especially for you if:

**You have sacred or sexual wounds you'd like to have witnessed and healed.
**You are a teachers or healer in sacred sexuality.
**You want to express yourself on camera or stage.
**You have ever dreamed about performing a one man/woman show.
**You are ready to re-script your reality & experience more sexual liberation!

During the intensive we will practice: tantric meditation and breathing practices, theater-based technologies, movement and improvisational dance, vocal exercises, group processes and live performance. http://www.tantratheater.tv/
Kamala Devi is the author of Don't Drink the Punch, Sacred Sexual Healing Coach www.BlissCoach.com

Advanced Sexual Helaing with TJ Bartel & Kamala Devi

 Happy Dia De Los Muertos!

When people hear that Daka TJ is coming to town, they are excited to work with him, but wonder how they can go deeper, if they're not tantra teachers in training...

This morning I woke up with a HOT idea and have been working with TJ bartel to create an exciting NEW Playshop. Join us before the sacred snuggle for....

Advanced Sacred Sexual Healing Techniques
Now Only $129 per person.
INCLUDES ADMISSON TO SACRED SNUGGLE PARTY!

Experience hands on techniques to shift and transform sexual guilt, shame and fear. We will model live session work and teach practices to shift and transform. TJ and Kamala will address your personal questions and each participant will leave with a specific practice designed for increasing your unique sexual expression. Experience the support, inspiration, and wisdom of a master dakini and dakni in a small group setting.

Kamala will be leading a sacred genital show and tell ritual that is safe, and totally life changing! Open to single men, women and couples, no beginners.

WHAT TO BRING:
Wear comfortable clothes, dress in layers.
A sarong, beautiful wrap or robe.
Blanket,
towel,
massage oil.
A Journal and a pen.
Bottled water.
Optional socks or slippers since I have a no shoe policy in my meditation room.
We provide pillows but you are welcome to bring your own or a back-jack for sitting.
Please Bring a vegetarian dish to share with the community at the sacred snuggle party.

Tj Bartel, ACTE, relationship expert, tantra master, and advanced certified tantric educator, has helped thousands of individuals learn sacred sexual healing techniques to become more empowered and alive. Together with renowned neuroscientist Daniel Amen, he is author of the CD set Create More Passion Tonight: Uniting Ancient Wisdom and Modern Brain Science. http://www.dakalove.com/


Space is limited.
Register here or write: tantrikakalidas@gmail.com for details.
Kamala Devi
www.BlissCoach.com or call 858-272-2254
Nov. 4 Tantra Talk with Guest Speaker: Daka TJ Bartel 6:45
Nov. 6 Advanced Sexual Healing Playshop with TJ Bartel 10-6pm
Nov. 6 Sacred Snuggle and Potluck Party 6:45
Nov. 13th Naked Yoga (Intermediate Level) 4:30pm
Nov. 18 Poly Potluck with Guest Speaker: Deborah Taj Anapol 6:45
Dec. 4 Sacred Snuggle Party 6:45 (Last event of the year)
Jan. 17 Auditions and Open House for Tantra Theater Troupe 2011
March 4-6 Art of Conscious Loving with Leah Alchin & Charles Muir!
Weekly blog updates: www.uninhibitedbliss.blogspot.com
www.TantraTheater.TV