Uninhibited Bliss

Afterglow of Conscious Loving weekend with Charles Muir and Leah Alchin

2012-02-07T12:52:00.000-08:00

To celebrate my 10 year tantric marriage, Michael and I hosted and participated in the Conscious Loving Weekend with Charles Muir and Leah Alchin. We are all juiced up and wanting to overflow this richness with the commumity. Especially excited they will be coming back next Month for the intermediate weekend! (Returning students who paid full price on the beginners weekend get $150 off if they register by Feb 13th!)

March 2~4, Charles Muir Intermediate Weekend Seminar
http://muirintermediatemarch.eventbrite.com

We are also hosting a series of juicy events at the Emerald Temple before Charles and Leah return and hope you'll join us!

This Thursday we're offering a Tantra Talk, the Topic is: Solo Practice.
http://feb2012tantratalk.eventbrite.com

There is such a huge emphasis on partner practices, relationship, and
even poly (boy, I am guilty of this!) But what about the primary
relationship to self? I am excited to reveal some powerful
foundational practices that make masterful tantrikas so magnetic!

If your busy this thursday, please mark your calendar for:

Thurs. Feb. 16th Poly Potluck: "Relationship Agreements"
http://feb2012polypotluck.eventbrite.com

Sat. Feb. 18th Goddess Only Sacred Sensual Play Party
http://goddessplayparty.eventbrite.com

Love,
KD
www.BlissCoach.com
Weekly blog updates: www.uninhibitedbliss.blogspot.com
www.TantraTheater.TV

By Kamala Devi, Author of Don't Drink the Punch, Sacred Sexual Healing, Tantra Teacher and Sacred Sex and Open Relationship Coach www.BlissCoach.com

First Sacred Snuggle of 2012

2012-01-22T09:55:00.000-08:00

What a warm and wonderful welcome to the new year! Thank you to approx. 35 friends and lovers that gathered on the 3rd Sat. of January. (Mark your calendar: Our bi-monthly snuggles are now being held at 7:30pm on the 3rd Saturday.)

Who should attend:

singles and couples, beginners and teachers, Open hearted, touch positive people interested in safely exploring sacred sensuality.

Who should NOT attend:

Single men who are not comfortable hugging, holding hands or eye gazing with other men.

Please note:

Space is limited for this popular event, therefore, cut off for RSVP’s will be Thursday, 2 days prior to the event. In addition we are

Our next event is goddess only Play party on Feb. 18th.

Go to our calendar:

http://www.partnerplayshop.com/page/page/8090608.htm

For details write: kalidas@blisscoach.com

SD Poly Does Gay Pride 2012

2012-01-20T21:40:00.000-08:00

Dream with me...

WHO: All our local poly friends and lovers..

WHAT: March and party at the SD Lesbian/Gay/Bi/Trans Parade & Festival

WHEN: July 21st 2012!! starting 11am

WHERE: Up Normal Street to Balboa Park
WHY:

To celebrate the capacity to love more than one person without lying or hurting anyone!!!

Here is a general synopsis of last night's discussion:

Hold a contest to decide on slogan and logo for T-shirts
Find a sponsor and give free T-shirts for volunteers and make more for sale.
Register and reserve space with pride committee
Bid out and secure a flatbed rental truck
Artistic volunteers to make it beautiful.
Oranize who wants to ride and who wants to walk
Brainstorm Give aways for the crowd
aquire and set up;
tables
booth,
tent/anopiesfor snuggle area,
Scheduling volunteers to work booth. (Sign up sheet in 60 minute increments (with extra "on call" people) The sign up sheet included an email address line, an email blast could go out once a week in the couple weeks leading up to the event just to confirm everyone's times, etc.)
Schedule Talks/exercises/events throughout the day Small snuggle parties to draw in people.
Collect Raffle items and buy raffle tickets.
Solicite community locally or nationally that would be willing to donate items in exchange for being mentioned on some signage, etc.
We could also have some shirts that say something edgy or funny about poly that we sell at the booth!

What other ideas do you have?

Wanna roll up your sleeves with me and make this happen!?

Who's in?

WHERE: Up Normal Street to Balboa Park

Reflections on 2011: Re-defining Family

2012-01-01T13:32:00.000-08:00

Pod- noun. A small school or band of marine animals that play together, especially used to describe whales, seals and dolphins. (Not to be confused with an mp3 player, or the modern acronyms: Passed Out Drunk, Print On Demand or Payable On Death.)Dolphins are social creatures that swim with up to a dozen individuals for protection, hunting and mating. Sometimes Pods temporarily join others for a frenzy of food and play, forming a super-Pod.

2011 Kicked off with an orgasm! Our intimate lovers came together to celebrate and we've since been re-defining family, and calling ourselves a Pod.

As it applies to our polyamorous life, a pod is an tight group of friends who spend a lot of time together, sharing dreams, meals, inside jokes, and even lovers. (Sex is not exclusive or required among friends, but it is not frowned upon, either ;o) We gather weekly for brunch and Zegg style forum.

In Feb. we took our sexy social experiment to the Big Island of Hawai'i and co-created a mini-utopia for the release of James's Documentary. Upon returning to Pacific Beach, we had a new temple space converted from our garage, we shot a test pilot for a hollywood reality show and we talked about moving in together. Communal living has been an evolving conversation punctuated by monthly snuggle parties, play parties, naked movie nights, tantra talks, and poly potlucks.

In the Spring we made a magical connection with Modern Tantra Master Charles Muir and enjoyed sharing his pujas, privates and conscious loving weekend workshops. Followed by more romantic memories at Adam's annual trip to Canyon de Guadalupe in March. For my birthday, I took a trip to Cabo with my blood family and survived an electrifying experience in a jacuzzi at a day spa.

Between Tantra Theater's unforgettable production of the "Boho Show," and launching a provocative new holiday tradition called the "Sack-Religious Show," Michael started lessons for blues guitar and I performed at Bawdy Storytelling in LA then poured myself into writing and producing my one woman show. Streaming video now available on www.TantraTheater.TV The "Sacred Slut Series" was my single most important creation, next to giving birth.

Devin, age 4, loves marine biology and is excelling at his French emersion Pre-School and was unafraid to speak new languages on our month long European adventure.

We started off at Zegg, the Free Love commune, outside of Berlin. Staying in a tent, in the woods, in a rain storm. I immersed myself in raw emotional processing, contact dancing and video journaling, which was immensely healing during the loss of a deep love affair. After 10 days at Zegg, we met up with James and Jen in Berlin and went hiking in the picturesque hills of San Leonardo, drove race-cars at Kinder-land in the Italian Riviera and met up with Tahl for the last 10 days to outdo the sex clubs in Paris for Michael's birthday. The sleep, sex and dietary changes challenged the harmony of the pod, we endured some grueling processing, but in the end, Jen and I were sad to say goodbye to our new French Lover.

In the Fall, 3 peaceful tantra temples were raided by the Arizona police at gunpoint and about 30 tantra practitioners were wrongfully accused of prostitution, a number of them went to jail, and were held with unreasonable bails and are still facing felony charges. I threw myself into fundraising, activism and blogging in their support. It was an honor to serve the goddess with this cause, and the case is ongoing and needs our help. Go to www.templelife.tv Jen came with me to New York for the sacred sex round up and Arizona to help raise awareness with my one woman show. Then my grandfather died, though I couldn't be there to put him in the ground, I lead a Dia De Los Muertos ritual in his honor and am still saying goodbye in my own way.

The winter warmed up as my hot new romance with Roxanne developed and we played together with the "SuperPod" at Tantra Palooza on 11-11-11. Despite the rain and plumbing problems, 5 transformative days with 11 teachers re-ignigted my dreams of living in a creative and sustainable sex-positive cooperative. For Thanksgiving, Devin got pole dancing lesson, and a private ski lesson in Big Bear for Christmas. On New Years Eve we installed our new Fu Dogs to energized our intentions for a wildly successful reality show which we plan to start as early as February.

I'm wishing you and abundance of Love, creativity, authentcity and Freedom in 2012!!

Blessed Be.
Kamala Devi
www.BlissCoach.com

Sexy Solstice Sutras 2011

2011-12-22T11:15:00.000-08:00

ON SEX
*What if: when I'm tired…I sleep. When I'm hungry…I eat. And when I'm horny…
*You know you've got the goddess when a simple 'Namaste' knocks her bindi off.
*I will not worship false idols. And I know they are false if they are too 'holy' to fuck.
*I marvel at the softness of your skin and how it manages to contain your boundless spirit.
*I thank God for the insatiable longing between my legs, for offers depth to all my spiritual seeking.
*I'm not attracted to a certain type or size of any particular body part, but those that embody the whole.
*Being a master lover isn't a function of knowing any particular moves, but a willingness to make them up as you go along.
*Your touch instantly accelerates my heartbeat; but a strangely, a strategically placed kiss can suspend me to something slower than a stop.
*I'm committed to diminishing the gap between how awkwardly we fumble into each-other in the flesh and how effortlessly we merge in my fantasies.
*The wise Priestess does not indulge in sex to compensate for church's perverted repression, but restores prayer to it's rightful place in sexual congress.

ON LIFE & SPIRIT
*My non-dual directive: Know Shiva. Embody Shakti.
*In opening my awareness to all that is deserving of gratitude, I realize how much I'm still taking for granted.
*It's impossible to understand the dance, unless you're in it, and even then, you may only know what moves you.
*I step outside my temple, after worship, and amongst all the shoes of other seekers, I forget which ones are mine.
*I would rather risk your horrified rejection by revealing my naked core than stay safely bundled in the arms of your uninformed acceptance.
*There is a whole sequence of steps between serving at the foot of the divine, and dancing around in her shoes, which involve a great deal of fumbling around.

ON POLY
*More love, less jealousy.
*I haven't lost a boyfriend, but gained a girlfriend.
*Why yes, I am flirting with you, and your lovely wife too.
*If there was such a thing as cooties, everyone would have gotten them from me by now.
*Is it still called "NRE" (New Relationship Energy), when it's with my husband of 10 years?
*My girlfriend says that if her boyfriend ever broke up with her she would cry between my legs.
*My lover is so poly that she brings a power-strip to a coffee shop when she's going to write on her computer.
*Trying to date a monogamous person, for me, is like trying to stuff my three prong plug into a two prong outlet--it just ain't gonna fit!
*Even the minister said, when he was joining my husband and I in marriage, if your wedding vows involve forsaking all others, I object.
*I didn't give up my security for free love, I just gave up the illusion that my security comes from being the only person who can bring my partner(s) sexual pleasure.
*There is nothing wrong with being straight and monogamous, as long as you inquire deeply and define your own truth as much as those of us who are not in the norm.
*My girlfriend looks me in the eyes and tells me I'm the One, she probably said the exact same thing to her boyfriend just moments ago, but I know she only speaks the truth.
*When my mother first heard about my lifestyle she said: You've such a hog. Do you know how many women can't get a date on a Friday night, and look at you, you have three!?
*Undivided attention on a single lover is a gift indeed! Once mastered, sustaining simultaneous attention on multiple lovers provides deeper degrees of practice in loving as God loves.
*You may deem me deviant for openly sharing my heart and body with as many people as I please, but until you can prove there's pleasure in conforming, deviance works fine for me.
*Oh No! We can't let gays get married. What's next? People will start wanting to marry multiple partners. Annie Sprinkle's response: Or the EArth, or the sea, or the moon! Lets prove them right! Occupy marriage!
*When a monogamous couple suffers a break up, people don't blame monogamy-- they give condolences and are sensitive to a mourning period before saying, "there are other fish in the sea." When a poly person breaks up, (which rarely happens because they usually just include new lovers and/or transition into best friends,) people can't wait to say, "I told you so" and "isn't it time you got serious and settled down?"

ON ART
*Ever notice how objects come alive when observed?
*If reality is what you make of it, what do you make of reality TV?
*WARNING: Some maps are seductively more real seeming than the territory.
*A writer must live off the page first, if they have any hopes of coming alive on it.
*At some point in the play--every performer gets to play God. The question is whether or not they are acting.
*I have 3 primary spiritual practices: Breathing, loving and Writing. My definition of "primary" is that I'm never not doing it. (By this definition, I also have 3 "primary" lovers.)

ON LOVE
*I've been withholding this, for fear it might sound cliche' but the truth is: I LOVE YOU.
*I thought you'd built a wall around your heart until I felt around a bit and discovered a doorknob.
*Those of us who are on the planet to teach LOVE, must first contend with the FEAR that comes up for the healing.
*Elevating the beloved may add exciting new dimensions to the relationship, but after suffering so many falls from the pedestal, I'm afraid of heights.
*Evidently, you've blinded me to the difference between being madly in love and truly in love, but I couldn't have a more legitimate alibi.
*I used to get upset when my lovers didn't automatically know what's on my mind-- until I fell for you--now I'm starting to value the privacy of my own thoughts.

HEARTBREAK
*Our love was once otherworldly, now we're worlds apart.
*You say you still love me, and that's sweet, but I am still IN love with you.
*When our loved ones are hurting, can we find solace, comfort and wonder in mysterious mechanism that allow us to actually feel their hurt?
*Usually when I'm feeling blue, it colors everything. Lips and roses turn a certain shade of purple. But this grief is so pure, it won't even mix with other experiences.

ON DEATH
*I haven't died, (at least not in this lifetime) but when I do, I expect the gateway to heaven to looks like your inner thighs.
*If death is anything like sleep, there is nothing to fear. But if first there Is a bardo, made up of mind, our cultural panic is justified.
*Am I sick for contemplating this, or is society sick for putting hairspray and make-up on the dead?

ON MOTHERHOOD
*DEVIN (4): Jesus Christ is just like Bob the Builder because they both make cabinets.
*DEVIN (4): Ouch. Mom, Next time I feed you something can you wait until I pull my fingers out of your mouth before you bite down?
*I'm grateful to have this bright young being temporarily in my custody, but I have no illusions that he belongs to anyone but the Universe.
*Upon hearing that a vampires used to be normal people who were bit by vampires, Devin naturally wants to know who the first vampire was.
*Devin (4) got fruit from his Trick-or-Treat bag and says: "Sometimes red apples have yellow in them, and it makes them look like an explosion!"
*My blinding impulse towards parenthood is motivated as much by my need to compensate for a dysfunctional childhood as it is curiosity of how God must feel.
*DEVIN(4): The neighbors must be crazy, they have their pumpkin out and it's already December.
ME: So do we honey.
DEVIN: Mom, next month is my birthday and I want you to bake me a cake. This time I want you to make the outside brown so it looks like the earth and we can put animals on it like worms and snails and other bugs.
ME: where did you get that idea?
Devin: I thought it up myself. It's a great idea, I've been thinking about it for a whole year, since my last birthday.

ON PROCESSING/COMPETITION/LACK
*When somebody wants the same thing I want-- and is better at attaining it-- I can chose to see them as competition, or as my teacher.
*Processing is like sex; it can be passionate, vulnerable, addictive and depending on your skill the outcome is either satisfying or frustrating.
*I'm cultivating compassion for the ego's compulsive need to compare, for deep in our lizard brain, we still think our survival depends on being the fittest.
*I am hereby quitting my bad habit of not asking for fear that you'll say no, or worse yet, that you'll say yes, but really mean no. Can I trust you to take care of yourself?

ON REVOLUTION
*This Thanksgiving: Save a turkey; eat a beaver!
*As an American Citizen, I live in a constant state of culture shock.
*If the earth, trees and animals could 'occupy' what would their signs say?
*If my sole power depended on persuading people they are not capable of a direct connection with the divine, could I too be corrupted enough to raid the goddess temples and put priestesses in prison?
*Most radical free thinking visionaries are such contrarians that they typically wont align with any massive social movements, but the unifying rally cry of
Occupy suggests that those who oppose their stance are conforming with the greedy 1%.

Sack-Religious Show Cliff Notes

2011-12-11T16:21:00.000-08:00

We had over 200 participants gather to experience Tantra Theater's holiday show on Dec 8 and 9th at Queen Bee's Art and Culture Center in Northpark.

1) Sister Superior warmed up the audience with an invocation and short sexy sermon.

2) Father Michael inspired "Confessions" by the entire ensemble of writer/performers: Adam, Chris, Coby, Jenn, Nate, Katie and Monique.

3) Michael played an original Song about creation: "Brahma the great creator."

4) Monique shares a deep personal narrative about her tantric awakening and how she become a tantric facilitator after growing up in conservative Utah.

5) Michael offers a dramatic interpretation of "Jesus was way Cool" by King Missile.

6) Adam does Stand up comedy as "Jesus Christ" doing hands on healing and teaching us not only to love one another, but to make love to one another.

7) In this spectacular song and dance number Chris shares about how hard (or not hard) it is to get an erection at his first tantric play party.

INTERMISSION We announce the VIP after party with Naked Butlers!

Special Thanks to Sabrina, Cheri, Bodhi, Manx, Roxanne and Ellen for your Sexy Service!

8) Katie shows us how she fell in love with a foul mouth innocent (played by Jenn) who dared to ask the question: Why did Jesus have to die? Why can't god forgive our sins without a blood sacrifice?

9) Nate rewrites his relationship to self pleasuring using rope as a metaphor for how he's been trapped in his own prison, he untangles himself from his programming and redefines sexual sin as Shame.

10) Coby explores a dark fantasy based on the question: what kind of a twisted perverted bitch hires a prostitute in Vegas on Christmas eve? Or worse yet, IS a prostitute?

11) Michael plays "Satan was way cool" by Beck and then introduces the audience to our version of Hell.

12) Jenn leads the cast in a sensual lap dance to "Devil Inside" by Inxs.

13) Kamala Devi presents Adam with the Golden Lingam award, well deserved recognition for a brilliant performance and for his ongoing support and devotion to other tantra theater players.

We did a Question and Answer panel with the cast at the VIP party with the artist's after the show! We explored the rewards and challenges of the three month personal growth course. Auditions for the next Tantra Theater course will be held again in January.

For more pictures and video go to: www.TantraTheater.TV

Most photos were shot by cast photographer: Julie Kondor KondorImaging.com Thanks to Rob at Namaste Media, Ankah Desh and Electric Rick!

***This holiday season you can get yourself or your loved ones the gift of a photo shoot. Tantra Theater audience members get a 10% discount. A personal on location photo shoot with Julie Kondor for the special rate of only $300 a session which usually takes 2-3 hours. She is magic to work with and Kamala Devi personally recommends her for the tantra community. www.Kondorimaging.com

Inspiration for Sack-Religious Afterparty!

2011-12-03T09:27:00.000-08:00

After the Sack-Religious Show, this Thurs & Fri...we're throwing an naughty little VIP after-party with Naked Butlers (only $10) and a Q & A with the Cast. We're extending the invitatation to more people because the space is being renovated! We're excited to announce: Cheri, Roxanne, Manx, Sabrina, Bodhi and Ellen are our Sexy Servers!

Get Tickets Today!

http://sackreligiousshow-esearch.eventbrite.com/?srnk=1
Hope to see you there!

The Sack-Relgious Show is on Thursday & Friday!!

2011-12-01T08:54:00.000-08:00

Cum all ye who are Religious in the Sack! Photo ©AnkhaDesh

Why I hate the Holidays:

After Black Friday, every year, I pack up for a holiday retreat...which usually involves leaving the civilized western world to get the hell away from the comercial temptation to shop for stupid stocking stuffers and sugar cookies. Having been raised by wrathful and guilt-ridden Jewish & Catholic parents, I have a double dose of disdain for the overblown religiosity of the season.

Recently, as the mother of a bright eyed 4 year old boy, who's birthday falls in the midst of all the holiday madness...I've come to realize that it's not all about me. (Imagine that!) Perhaps there's something more. Something even deeper for me to explore...?

But how can I bear to wear ugly sweaters drink egg-nog and maintain my Ba-humbug-I'm too sexy for the Grinch like attitude? I'm curious. Really. I want to know what a true tantric christmas looks like.

This year, instead of running away, I'm staying in San Diego to face my demons. Better yet, I'm going to cover myself in plum pudding and wrestle the dreaded Santa Beast myself. (Ho! Ho! Ho!) Who wants to watch?

Tantra Theater is producing a spectacularly naughty little production called "The Sack-Religious Show" with 9 talented performance artists who are willing to get emotionally naked onstage. We each have a diverse degree of religious damage that we are willing to divulge for your entertainment and enlightenment. Add spice to your holiday season with this radical variety show we celebrate our religious freedom and right to free speech with music, dance, song, and comedy about sex and spirit.

Writer / Performers:

Katie, Adam, Chris, Coby, Jenn, Michael, Monique and Nate. AND DID I MENTION KATIE? Directed by Kamala Devi

VIP After-Party:

After the Show a select group of audience members will be ushered to an intimate back room where they will snuggle and play and enjoy holiday hors d'oeuvres served by naked butlers. The Cast and Crew will also make an appearance and engage in a lively Q & A. Register early so you can get intimate with the cast in this private setting. Space is limited to the FIRST 30 people, only $10 extra.

Tickets:

$25 Early Bird Online

$30 at the Door

$50 Both Nights + free VIP party!

Contact Kalidas@blisscoach.com or buy online at

http://www.SackReligiousShow.Eventbrite.com

Sack-Religious Show is Just Around the Corner

2011-11-30T21:48:00.000-08:00

Tantra Theater is having a Christmas parade, but instead flaunting bloated santa blimps and slaughtering trees for the shopping season we're proudly showing off our respective religious damage.
For discount tickets go to:
http://sackreligiousshow-esearch.eventbrite.com/?srnk=1
Photo by Ankha Desh.
Go to www.TantraTheater.TV

Intro To Kamala in the Media

2011-11-20T11:36:00.000-08:00

Set Design inspiration for Tantra Theater's Sack-Religious Show

2011-11-19T14:17:00.000-08:00

Cum all Ye Who are Religious in the Sack!

Thurs. Dec. 8th and Fri Dec. 9th at Queen Bees in North Park.

Tantra Theater Presents: The Sack-Religious show
http://sackreligiousshow.eventbrite.com/

Attention: Cast and Crew:
We need naked butlers,
Live Musical performers
and ushers!
Contact: tantrikakalidas@gmail.com
Gratitude!

http://sackreligiousshow.eventbrite.com/

This has nothing to do with me:

2011-10-22T16:14:00.000-07:00

....I think the biggest crime
is just to throw up your hands and say
this has nothing to do with me
I just want to live as comfortably as I can....

I got friends all over this country
I got friends in other countries too
I got friends I haven't met yet
I got friends I never knew
I got lovers whose eyes
I've only seen at a glance
I got strangers for great grandchildren
I got strangers for ancestors

...you've got your whole life
to do something
and that's not very long
so why don't you give me a call
when you're willing to fight
for what you think is real
for what you think is right

--Ani DiFranco
This is a relevant excerpt from: Willing to Fight song.

Save the Date for Tantra Theater's Holiday Show

2011-10-20T16:09:00.000-07:00

Orignal Performance Art by Coby, Adam, Jen, Michael Katie, Chris, Nate and Monique Directed by Kamala Devi

For details go to: www.tantratheater.tv

Photo by Ankha Desh

SAVE THE DATE for the Tantra Theater's Holiday Show

2011-10-13T09:43:00.000-07:00

SAVE THE DATE: 7pm Dec. 8th & Dec. 9th 2011
Tantra Theater's Sack-Religious Show
(For all ye who are Religious in the Sack)
Queen Bee's in NorthPark
Players include: Adam, Chris, Coby, Jen, Nate, Michael, Monique and Nate, directed by Kamala Devi
Tickets$25 or $30 at the door.
www.TantraTheater.TV

"Strange Sex" with Mare Simone

2011-10-06T22:00:00.000-07:00

We did a special Screening at this month's Tantra Talk of Mare Simone's TLC special with clients and community members: Monique and Nathan Darling. What a wonderful insight to the world of the Darlings, and to Mare's work as a certified Sex Surrogate. After a juicy Q and A we created an "activation chamber" to sound, move, breath and feel into a world without sexual guilt or shame. There were approx 40 people present and over half the room was New. They came away with a new mantra: Say YES to pleasure!

Mare will be one of the 11 teachers at Tantra-Palooza and invites you to experience this powerful healing experienceis on 11-11-11.

She will also be on the Panel for the Save the Tantra Temple Fundraiser this Saturday in Pacific Beach.

And she will be creating a costume party puja for her Birthday on Oct. 29th...as a fundraiser for the Tantra Temples! For more info go to: www.Templelife.TV

She is also offering a personalized apprenticeship/assistant program in trade for administrative help.

She can be reached at:

Mare 760-271-7118

Mare@mareSimone.com

www.maresimone.com

By Kamala Devi, Author of Don't Drink the Punch, Sacred Sexual Healing, Tantra Teacher and Sacred Sex and Open Relationship Coach www.BlissCoach.com

"Pre-Palooza Party and Matching FUNraiser to Save the Tantra temples"

2011-10-06T13:32:00.000-07:00

Dear Ones,
One month ago on Sept. 7th, in Arizona, the police raided three peaceful Tantra Temples, "automatic weapons drawn, throwing women to the ground, smashing altars and sending over a dozen priests and priestess to prison.", These temple members are now wrongfully accused of prostitution and facing felony charges for practicing sacred sexuality.
Church founder Tracy Elise is still in jail. The judge will be hearing the motion to Reduce her UNREASONABLE bail (1 Million Dollars!) this WED. Let's pray that this amount gets drastically reduced so she can come home.

In order to raise awareness and funds for their legal defense, we are hosting a big FREE PARTY in San Diego THIS Saturday the 8th: "Pre-Palooza Party and Matching FUNraiser to Save the Tantra temples."

YOU ARE INVITED...
Festivities will go from 4pm to 11pm, here's the agenda:

4pm Tantra Theater: Songs and Performances by Kamala Devi, Michael McClure, Brande Faris, Rae Newoman Kali Das, and our new guy: Coby.

5pm Panal Discussion with Tracey Elises Children, Mare Simon, Ariel White and numerous other Tantra Teachers!

6pm Auction. The community is pooling it's resources and offering :
Tantra Theater Tickets
Sacred Sexual Healing
Books
Pujas,
Massage,
Toys,
voice lessons,
Crystal necklaces,
Session with teachers such as Scott Catamas, Mare Simone, Ariel White, Rhada Bast, Keli Lalita and MUCH MORE!
Do you have a product or service to offer at the auction? Please write: kalidas@blisscoach.com

7:30pm POTLUCK
SNUGGLE PARTY goes until 11pm!
We will send our sacred sensual energy to FREE the GODDESS!

All proceeds from the auction and fundraiser will go to the Legal defense for the Tantra temples in Arizona. For insider details about this current event go to: http://templelife.tv/save-the-tantra-temples
We are supporting the Oklevueha Native American Church (ONAC) Legal defense fund as well as Goddessbless.org Our goal is to raise $10K and help FREE 18 brothers and sisters who are on trial.

P.S. Since space is limited PLEASE RSVP Now...
kalidas@blisscoach.com

and we'll send directions.

If you are NOT available you can donate at: http://www.goddessbless.org/ or http://templelife.tv/donate-for-legal-defense
If you don't have the funds, please light a candle and say a prayer for FREEDOM wherever you are.

Sweet Nothings (Fall Equinox status updates 2011)

2011-09-21T22:04:00.000-07:00

I am collecting little slivers of wisdom. These lines are crystallizations of my mediation, lovemaking and irreverent conversations with lovers. They show up like thorns in my fingertip that insist on being plucked out and passed around. I intend to publish them in a bed-side book with the working title: Tantra Sutras by Kamala Devi

ON GOD/GODDESS

After a long dry journey, this droplet of water is returning to mamma ocean.
When I close my eyes, I see God; when I open my eyes, she's still there, just in disguise.
Most all of human challenges stem from squishing this infinite unconditional love into this limited mortal flesh and form.
Somewhere behind those sleepy eyes, there's a spark of something sublime, to which I am eternally in service.
The devil took one hard look at me, and then put his tail between his legs. ;o)
God is my enemy. And, as with most statements about the absolute, the converse is equally and simultaneously true.

ON LOVE

It's no longer a surprise that I can fall deeply, truly, madly in LOVE in just one night--I just wonder why I don't do it every day.
For as much as I romanticize following the unreasonable path of the heart, my most devastating mistakes usually result from allowing my head and heart travel too far from each other.
I recognize myself in you, not just in the field of fusion where we are all connected, but in your unique way towards it.
Making love doesn't just happen between the sheets, but when you stop what you're doing to greet your beloved at the door, speak into the uncomfortable, call them for no reason, and thoughtfully put the toothpaste cap back on the tube.

ON HEARTBREAK

My love does not wash away, no matter how many tears I shed, it just glistens more when wet.
When your heart feels like it's ripping into tiny pieces--Look at it this way, you now have more surface space to spread around.
The trouble with being a transpersonal channel is that you love with all the hearts that ever loved, but you may also hurt that way.
He kissed me goodbye and before my train pulls away from the platform he said: we may never see each other again, but we may never leave each other, either.
Our relationship is deeply personal and widely transpersonal. Now the trick to breaking up is simply untangling the personal.
My bod functions like an antenna, sensitive to the love of all those within my frequency. Missing you has expanded my range of receptivity.
What does my wounded little girl need to heal in order to show up full and savor the truth of where we meet?
Rebound is the act of rubbing the sensitive new pieces of your heart against someone who cares.
In truth, I never left you. My body may be somewhere else, most likely with somebody else, but ultimately parting is not possible.
To withhold love-- for fear of hurt is as absurd as choosing not to live-- because inevitably we all die.

ON SEX

Stop teasing me with love, to get sex, and I'll stop teasing you with sex, to get love.
There is music under your skin, I can hear it with my tongue.
Beyond all words and concepts, our bodies know how to further the conversation.
I Just had the most profound orgasm…too bad no one was around to witness it.
Celebrate sex as if it were your cause-- in fact, it is the cause of everybody.
Make love to me: together we'll shape-shift, gender-bend, time-travel and be.
Fingernails are fun for tickling and scratching, but I prefer short nails for penetration purposes.
Sex with you is like dessert, our connection is so full and complete, that it is unnecessary, but still irresistible.
What did you say? I can't hear the subtle expression of your body language with all those clothes on.

ON ART

I am an artist. My medium is love. And like most creative genius's my art is misunderstood.
I'm having life experiences that go beyond any frame of reference I've ever known, yet they're still worth framing.
At the beginning of each rehearsal, I pray to step aside and let myself come through.
I'm supposed to be finishing my script, but ended up making love all day. It's funny how some forms of procrastination are easier to forgive than others.
Art imitates nature. My creativity moves like the ocean. I'm retreating and gathering inspiration before surging forth with another powerful creation.
I found buying a vinyl blow-up doll as a prop for tantra theater offensive, until I had to find a metal speculum for my Sacred Slut Show.
Is this monkey mind, or is the muse whispering instructions into my ear for my next book?

ON SELF INQUIRY

In the crystal moments when you see me without projection, that is when I see myself most clearly.
I'm most myself when I'm making love, otherwise I'm just faking it, the good news is that I'm making love most all of the time, now.
I know. I know, I'm not as beautiful, wise, sexy or even as vain as I think I am.
I am a perpetual mystery to myself.
I'm officially done being self indulgent, now I'm up in everyone else's business.

ON TANTRA

Sacred sex is a great way to start the day, although, by the time we get out of bed, it's already evening.
Why is it acceptable to drop to my knees in prayer, but all other positions I use to worship the divine are not allowed in polite society?
There is a mountain top where ascendant masters hang out, laugh and make love. I used to think it was a myth or a metaphor, but after being with you, I know, it's real.
In Alchemy, fire is the agent of change, but the adept is warned never to let the flame get too hot. There is a parallel principle in sacred sexuality, thus the insistence on slow foreplay.
Your devotion arouses my desire.
Waking reality is extended worship. Every interaction is a puja station. Starting with solo practice in the shower, feeding the inner child breakfast, dancing with Shakti in the office to meeting Shiva in the bedroom.

ON POLY

There's enough of me to go around.
Relationship is my religion. (and I'm polytheistic.)
Polyamory is the new gay.
Mono/poly relationship is a game of risk.
'I'm Not Polyamorous But All Of My Lovers Are.'
The love between us is inherently unique, and made even more special by sharing it with others.
The programming and explosion of nuclear households in modern society has caused farther reaching toxic devastation than any bomb.
One of the rarely celebrated benefits of being poly is that when your suffering from a tender heartbreak, one (or two) of your other lovers can listen, hold you, and love you through it.
Polyamory has lead me nowhere near the path of least resistance.
I am stripping you down of all my projections and loving you, naked (and your girlfriend too.)
Happiness in polyamory hinges on ones ability to add and multiply their love instead of dividing and subtracting.
Monogamy is a conspicuous and crumbling conspiracy.
In essence, Free Love is the spiritual practice of loving the One through the many.

ON COMMUNICATION

Why don't you just ask me about my love life to begin with, because all other conversations we try to start are going to end up there, anyway.
By definition, "process' is always incomplete.
There's a fine line between practicing transparency and not having the ability to censor yourself, but real friends don't mind when you cross that line.
Am I one of those people who talks about "no drama" in relationship, while indulging in a inordinate amounts of it?

ON REVOLUTION

Hey, who do I have to fuck around here to get some world peace? I mean, Sheesh.
Conditioned in a culture of violence, I've become so intent on stopping the suffering, that I've lost site of my ability to befriend it.
For most people, sexual liberation is going to take a revolution. For the rest us, it requires a revelation.
When offered a pleasurable growth opportunity, the natural impulse to pull away from pain becomes obvious. Liberation lies not in leaning towards or away from this impulse, but in knowing we're always at choice.
What magic is possible, if at the time of the hunt, instead scattering and denying our craft, we witches ban together and practice with all of our heart?
My prison walls may be constructed by conditioned cognitive misperceptions, but the doorway is clearly made of something beyond mind-stuff.
I am an activist. It's my mission to activate the security and freedom inscribed within our bodies, from a time before our sensual and religious practices were separated or persecuted. Who wants to activate with me?

On Life

Reality is squishy, isn't it?
I'm finally starting to appreciate the wisdom of the long lingering goodbye. Why rush it, when in fact, it is what we've all been doing since our arrival on earth?
Stillness in the manifest world is an illusion. We exist on a planet that is revolving around a sun which is also moving. Thus I center myself in the flow of my emotions. Who I am is in constant flux.

ON TRAVEL

Travel is a prescription to break us of our habits, get perspective on our problems and turn the foreign into family.
I went to several Salavador Dali Museums and came away thinking: "The only difference between me and a madman is that I'm not a man."
In Germany I'm told, Tantra is Pointless. (Perhaps something is lost in Translation.)
In Paris men walk around swinging their baguettes so shamelessly by their hips, it's a wonder they don't get baguette envy.
The walls around my heart are crumbling down-- East Germany having this affect on me.
Leisure is big secret weapon that the European have over Americans

ECO-SEXUALITY

She brings me flowers, she bears me fruit, she massages my feet, and holds me tirelessly in her arms of gravity.
When I have excess sexual energy amping in my body the only remedy is to hug a tree.
We are pimps for pumping her full of plastic, covering her skin with concrete, bulldozing down her pulmonary branches and are selling her blood for $4 a gallon.
Hugging a tree is similar to hugging a human, you can give love, receive love or simply make love.
In the beginning, night fell on top of daylight and made such passionate love that colors soaked the sky. Twilight was so good that they agree to do it again, every day, at sunrise and sunset, for eternity.

Shedding light on the Tantra Temple Raid

2011-09-21T12:06:00.001-07:00

By Kamala Devi, Author of Don't Drink the Punch, Sacred Sexual Healing, Tantra Teacher and Sacred Sex and Open Relationship Coach www.BlissCoach.com

Save the Tantra Temples

2011-09-20T22:23:00.001-07:00

Here's an update on The recent tantra temple raids in Phoenix and Sedona. Tracy Elises bail has been raised to 1 million dollars. Let's put the Fun back into "fun"draising! Kamala Devi invites you to a Pre party for Tantra Palooza and a Matching Fundraiser on Sat Oct. 8th at 4pm. For details or to donate go to http://templelife.tv/donate-for-legal-defense

YOUR INVITED!!!
Let's put the FUN back in Fundraising with this outrageous community party and snuggle. We will gather at 4pm and do Tantra Theater Improv. Followed by a brief talk and fundraising drive for the Tantra Temples (if you can't contribute funds at this time, come anyway to help raise the vibration!) Then we'll go into community Potluck and Sacred Snuggle Party.
No Pressure, No Charge at the door, No strings, just bring your check-book for the Fundraiser.

The intention of this Pre-Party:

1) Raise money for the Tantric Temples legal defense in Phoenix. Kamala Devi is offering matching funds for up to $2K.

2) To gather and start the foreplay with Tantra-Palooza alumni and get registration rolling. (Hold your space for only $111)

3) To do what we do best, Love, Laugh and Live!

For details contact: For details go to: http://www.partnerplayshop.com/page/page/8090608.htm
For Questions write: kalidas@blisscoach.com
619-279-7641

Good News: Aquiring an Attorney to Defend the Tantra Temples

2011-09-12T14:30:00.000-07:00

Native American Church Blesses the Phoenix Goddess Temple

2011-09-10T20:06:00.000-07:00

Tantra Temples Needs our Support

2011-09-10T19:42:00.001-07:00

n response to Goddess Temple arrests. Kamala Devi speaks up in support Mother Priestess Tracy Elise. Here is a link to raise funds for her legal defense. http://templeoftantra.org/

Song of the Reed by Rumi

2011-09-06T05:41:00.000-07:00

Listen to the story told by the reed,
of being separated.

"Since I was cut from the reedbed,
I have made this crying sound.

Anyone apart from someone he loves
understands what I say.

Anyone pulled from a source
longs to go back.

At any gathering I am there,
mingling in the laughing and grieving,

a friend to each, but few
will hear the secrets hidden

within the notes. No ears for that.
Body flowing out of spirit,

spirit up from body: no concealing
that mixing. But it's not given us

to see the soul. The reed flute
is fire, not wind. Be that empty."

Hear the love fire tangled
in the reed notes, as bewilderment

melts into wine. The reed is a friend
to all who want the fabric torn

and drawn away. The reed is hurt
and salve combining. Intimacy

and longing for intimacy, one
song. A disastrous surrender

and a fine love, together. The one
who secretly hears this is senseless.

A tongue has one customer, the ear.
A sugarcane flute has such effect

because it was able to make sugar
in the reedbed. The sound it makes

is for everyone. Days full of wanting,
let them go by without worrying

that they do. Stay where you are
inside such a pure, hollow note.

Every thirst gets satisfied except
that of these fish, the mystics,

who swim a vast ocean of grace
still somehow longing for it!

No one lives in that without
being nourished every day.

But if someone doesn't want to hear
the song of the reed flute,

it's best to cut conversation
short, say good-bye, and leave.

Rumi
translated by Coleman Barks

Like This by Rumi

2011-08-31T16:33:00.000-07:00

If anyone asks you how the perfect satisfaction of all our sexual wanting will look, lift your face and say,
Like this.

When someone mentions the gracefulness of the nightsky, climb up on the roof and dance and say,
Like this.

If anyone wants to know what "spirit" is, or what "God’s fragrance" means, lean your head toward him or her. Keep your face there close.
Like this.

When someone quotes the old poetic image about clouds gradually uncovering the moon, slowly loosen knot by knot the strings of your robe.
Like this.

If anyone wonders how Jesus raised the dead, don’t try to explain the miracle. Kiss me on the lips.
Like this. Like this.

When someone asks what it means to "die for love," point here.

If someone asks how tall I am, frown and measure with your fingers the space between the creases on your forehead.
This tall.

The soul sometimes leaves the body, the returns.

When someone doesn’t believe that,
walk back into my house.
Like this.

When lovers moan,
they’re telling our story.
Like this.

I am a sky where spirits live.
Stare into this deepening blue,
while the breeze says a secret.
Like this.

When someone asks what there is to do,
light the candle in his hand.
Like this.

How did Joseph’s scent come to Jacob?
Huuuuu.

How did Jacob’s sight return?
Huuuu.

A little wind cleans the eyes.
Like this.

When Shams comes back from Tabriz,
he’ll put just his head around the edge
of the door to surprise us
Like this.

Rumi

Tantra Theater Call-Back Auditions!

2011-08-31T16:04:00.000-07:00

Sack-Religious Holiday Show

"Come all ye who are religious in the sack!"

We'll be starting the next Course on TUESDAYS at 6:30 in September, October and November.

We are planning a spectacular performance showcase in December!
I suggest you put the following dates on your calendar, and LIGHTEN UP your work and social calendar so that you can dive deeply into rehearsals and have time for emotional process and/or homework.
Open house and Auditions on Sept 6th. The first rehearsal begins on Sept. 13th. Please wear comfy clothes, bring pen, journal, inspiration and an open mind.

Must be available to rehearse weekly on Tuesdays at 6:45pm.
REHEARSAL SCHEDULE: 
September: 13, 20, 27 
October: 4, 11, 18, 25 
November: 1, 8, 15 22, 29 
December: 6, *7, *8, *9, *10 (*possible show dates) other rehearsals during Tech week TBA
Wrap party: December 13th or following week if we do a later show. It is required that you miss no more than 3 classes AND dress rehearsal is mandatory.
San Diego TT has (3) three levels of participation: Personal, Transpersonal & Crew.

1) PERSONAL: We're seeking open-minded individuals who are interested in radical personal growth, no performance experience necessary. The Tantra Theater training provides a safe, challenging, non-judgmental space for spiritual seekers to experience their full expression. The training is a 90-day course that culminates in a showcase.
2) TRANSPERSONAL: We're also seeking Performance artists with improvisational skills, who are also empathic listeners who love serving the community. The San Diego Tantra Theater Troupe is a collective of spiritual artists who explore and empower sacred sexuality on stage. We collaborate to create performances that promote a greater understanding of sacred sexual issues in conscious communities within and beyond San Diego. Our personal, vulnerable and sometimes controversial presentations inspire learning, open discussion and spiritual awakening. During performance, both artists and audience have an opportunity to realize the creative power within their sex center. Using comedy, drama, and dance, we aim to educate, entertain and enlighten. (Prerequisite: Two or more 90-day courses or equivalent experience are necessary to become a member of the troupe.)

3) CREW: We can always use helping hands with lights, camera, sound, costume, props, concessions, ushering and fluffing. Experience, availability and positive attitude are appreciated! Our budget is limited but experienced Stage Management and video work may be compensated. Most other work is volunteer or trade for free attendance. We currently have a small, overworked team of groupies who are excited to expand the team.
MISSION STATEMENT: SD Tantra Theater Troupe combines ritual and performance to transmute sexual guilt, shame and fear into art, healing and liberation. We celebrate that every aspect of life's drama is sacred.
TANTRA THEATER TROUPE is a collective of artist, healers and teachers that produce performances, workshops and events for personal growth. Created in 2009 under the direction of author and Tantra Teacher, Kamala Devi, Tantra Theatre has performed locally as well as at national sacred sex conferences and festivals.

WHAT’S REQUIRED
We are looking for creative, open minded, intuitive, vulnerable and honest storytellers with a good sense of humor, and a love for learning. What we look for:

· Empathic listening skills

· Available to rehearse weekly
· Comfortable with personal growth and movement-based work
· Community orientation: personality that plays well with others
· Strong stage presence: both as an ensemble player and as a solo performer

· Optional artistic skills: Music, dance, poetry all other tantric arts welcome!

WHAT WE OFFER:

· Deep heart connections with cast and crew
· Opportunity to grow as a person and performer
· The ability to safely perform to audience of over 100 people
· Commemorative DVD of your performance
· Visibility through video clips on on http
· Performing for many different circumstances in a broad range of venues
· Opportunity to affect Social change
COMMITMENT:
· Rehearse 6:30-9:30pm once per week for 9 weeks (Plus longer later hours during tech-week, on the week before the showcase.)
· 1.5 hour Private coaching to develop your personal narrative.
· 10 hours of personal homework, writing, rehearsing and at least 1-2 hours/month of volunteer work.
· Upon first joining, you'll be invited to take part in an 9-week deep personal growth group to get your skills up to performance level. The financial commitment for this course is only $497. Returning students receive $100 discount.

INTERESTED?

· Email Kamala Devi, Director, to tell us you are interested in auditioning, and get directions.
· Come to the next scheduled audition. You needn’t prepare anything.
· If we like each other and feel creative synergy, you will either be asked come to a callback audition or be invited to join the next 90-day journey and be a part of the Holiday show!

2011-08-28T04:43:00.000-07:00

It sounds like wish list or an unrealistic fantasy from a personals ad.
but they are the romantic lyrics from one of my favorite songs.
Ani DiFranco wants to know if she's asking too much.
To which I say:

HELL NO!
As long as your not asking it all of just ONE person, then
you can't possibly ask for too much.

Asking too much

I want somebody

who sees the pointlessness

and still keeps their purpose in mind

I want somebody

who has a tortured soul

some of the time

I want somebody

who will either put out for me

or put me out of misery

or maybe

just put it all to words

and make me say, you know

I never heard it put that way

make me say, what did you just say?

I want somebody

who can hold my interest

hold it and never let it fall

someone who can flatten me

with a kiss that hits like a fist

or a sentence, that stops me

like a brick wall

because if you hear me talking

listen to what I'm not saying

if you hear me playing guitar

listen to what I'm not playing

and don't ask

me to put words

to all the spaces between notes

in fact if you have to ask, forget it

do and you'll regret it

I'm tired of being the interesting one

I'm tired of heving fun for two

just lay yourself on the line

and I might lay myself down by you

but don't sit behind your eyes

and wait for me to surprise you

I want somebody

who can make me scream

until it's funny

give me a run for my money

I want someone who can

twist me up in knots

tell me, for the woman who has everything

what have you got?

I want someone

who's not afraid of me

or anyone else

in other words

I want someone

who's not afraid of themself

do you think I'm asking too much?

No way.
Make up a list as long as your wildest fantasy
and see it get fulfilled by your community.
Love
Kamala Devi
www.BlissCoach.com

What is a Tantric MatchMaker???

2011-08-19T09:47:00.001-07:00

Too Shy to ask someone for a sacred sensual encounter? We are going to have several Tantra Yentas (Matchmakers) at Tantra-Palooza. Here are some ideas of messages you can send to the object of your desire: 1) I have a crush on you. 2) want to go on a speed date (15 minute walk or share a meal. 3) Or would you like to share some sacred sensual practices? Kamala Devi tells the story of how she was first introduced to the idea of 'il postino' at Zegg and she is actively looking for someone who wants to be a designated messanger at Tantra-Palooza. www.BlissCoach.com

Boundaries at Sex Clubs (take 2)

2011-08-15T11:26:00.000-07:00

Kamala Devi tells the story of her first Sex club in a foreign country and some best practices for setting clear boundaries when you can't speak the language. She describes the intimate details of her recent experience in Paris with her poly pod of lovers. www.BlissCoach.com

Problems in Poly Paradise

2011-08-14T03:56:00.000-07:00

You may imagine that I'm having group sex all the time as I'm traveling with my husband and three (give or take) polyamorous lovers through Europe. In fact we'd like to imagine that we're having more sex than we are. But even the best laid plans are still just plans to get laid. The reality of navigating through 3 foreign speaking countries with dietary restrictions, jealousy issues, relationships in transition, and a 4 year old boy can take a toll on how sexy one feels by the end of the day.

Even though we've let our "love levels" run down at times, we still have had an impeccable practice of openness and honesty. Each one of us has been willing to speak their truth as it arises. And so it is in that spirit that I write this blog about some of the challenges of our non-residential poly living experiment.

Since I have already posted 10 mini video blogs about our life-changing time at Zegg Sommercamp, I will start this story in Berlin, when Michael, Devin (age 4), Adam, our New York Shawna and I stayed in a beautiful custom built home with a sexy and playful photographer who warmly welcomed our jet-lagged lovers Jennifer and James by creating a huge homemade vegetarian feast. During those 4 nights we toured the city, visited art exhibits, drank espresso, danced barefoot, hiked by moonlight, and modeled nude for photos. There was much flirtation and sensual play, but we were too tired on most nights to make love. The emotional undercurrent was that Michael was exhausted from watching Devin, Jenn had a argument about poly with her husband on the way to the airport, and James was insecure that his sexual attraction was unrequited by me as I was emotionally untangling from a year-long relationship with his brother. All this process was contained by the household of our hosts who are actively undergoing divorce.

Michael and Devin left a day early for the Italian Alps. Jennifer, James and I said goodbye to our beloved lovers from Zegg and frantically fled the city nearly missing our plane to Milano. A 4 hour drive to the Mountains turned into a fiasco because of a broken GPS system. The cruel British accent continuously sent us into corn fields and we were not able to find a local map. When we finally reached the our Bed and Breakfast in the breathtaking cliffs of the Alps near Austria, our hostess was kind enough to cater to our gluten free and/or vegan diets.

During the days we explored castles, cafes, pastures and vistas. The challenge was always traveling in group, and wanting to squeeze in so much activity into each day. Each night at dinner we share from our heart, both our highlights and our challenges while continuously interrupted by questions about rockets and race cars. One highlight was when we got tipsy on free homemade grappa and enjoyed a spontaneous massage/snuggle party. Our lowlights were wide discrepancies in temperature preferences, sleeping arrangements, driving habits, and limitations in dietary options.

After three nights of magical lighting storms, we were ready to head south for warmer weather in the Italian Riviera. We were struck by the surreal spattering of sexy disco bars and bouncy children's rides throughout the strip. The warm shallow beaches were crawling with speedos and hairy armpits but we were disappointed (and a bit embarrassed) to discover that toplessness had long since gone out of style.

It was on the beach, in the sweltering heat after days of sleepless nights that James revealed the depth of his disappointment for not having a more intimate connection with me. He admitted to having built up expectations of how connected we would be on the trip. He also took responsibility for his pattern of minimizing his process because he didn't want to detract energy from the group. Since we were all operating from extreme sleep depravation with virtually no time to process on our own, he was considering ending his trip early. Of course, we would support whatever he needed to do to take care of himself, I told him, but I was personally devastated by the thought of losing his companionship. In attempts to avoid my own disappointment I offered my famous combination of inappropriate humor and manipulation: "If you leave now you'll cause irreparable psychological damage to my little boy who will need years of therapy to work out his abandonment issues." Through laughter and tears we took an honest look at what wasn't working in our relationship and agreed it was time to transitioning our 'erotic friendship' into a more platonic heart-centered connection.

We gathered for a "family meeting" over vegetarian pizza and salad dinner. James did his best to share his struggles while being continuously interrupted every time Devin wanted a French fry. Collectively, we agreed to do any/everything we could to accommodate his needs for more sleep, protein, and intimacy in hopes of helping him find center and stay on the trip. After a group massage, a restful nap and a supportive Skype conversation with his brother, James seemed to swiftly shift back to center.

Often times when one person in relationship is broke down the other tries to hold it together to support them. So when I felt like he was safely out of crisis, I allowed my own inevitable meltdown. I woke up angry and I spent most the day crying. I judged him for not feeling safe enough to share the intensity of his internal process. I felt betrayed and afraid he wouldn't ask for what he really wanted from me and the relationship because he puts everyone else's needs in front of his own. My heart was further confused by my transference of feelings from my recent break up with his brother. But after deeper inquiry, my greatest fear was losing my best friend.

For the last leg of the trip, we rented a swanky apartment overlooking a canal in Paris. Externally, we were site seeing, holding hands, appreciating art, sipping espressos, and enjoying the public transit system in the world's most romantic city. Internally, Michael was sexually frustrated, Jen was jealous of her husband's sleeping with other lovers in San Diego, and I was still sad about my shifting relationship. James's insecurity and struggles continued to the point where he wanting to leave again.

And then something Magical happened. Jen's bisexual husband arrived with his insatiable libido and alchemized a breakthrough for the entire group. I'll save the next chapter of our Great European Poly Adventure for my next blog, but I'll tease you a bit by saying there is no lack of sex in that story.

The conclusion of James's last 4 days in Paris were bittersweet. We held an urgent family meeting (over pizza and salad again) where many hurt feelings were shared. For greater sustainability James suggested we balance social time with autonomous alone time and more sleep. This is when I insisted that the answer to almost all breakdowns is ritual, magic and better time management. We finally created a schedule for meal times, day care, and especially built in special time for processing. (I also suggested we structure time for sex, but alas the group wanted this to be spontaneous.)

It only took one hour of practicing Zegg Forum per day, we were able to clear lifetimes worth of monogamous programing and cultivate a web of truth, love, and possibility. After more negotiation, James and I arranged to spend the last few nights in bed together sharing sensuality. Our specific boundaries were no deep kissing or sex. Still, our bodies know how to further a conversation, beyond all words and concepts. That night, by the moans and singing bedsprings of our lovers in the next room, James plugged his heart into the negative pole in my yoni and we generated a current that illuminated every shadow that had came up throughout the trip. By the morning light, I could see the shift in his eyes as he procured a beautiful feast for the family. He described the experience as having had his heart crack open. What I see, is a beautiful young man in love and in his power.

Love is all around us

2011-08-10T16:01:00.000-07:00

By Julia Tham
A beautiful, creative, amazing artist who hosted us in Berlin. Thank you Julia for seeing our love so clearly. More pictures coming soon. www.blisscoach.com

As you are

2011-08-08T11:08:00.000-07:00

to know the truth

takes a willingness

to see it naked

and be with it

deeply

as it is

as you are

reality is sloppy

like sex

It's ugly and messy

at times

it hurts but it's

so much more satisfying

than shielding oneself

with mental illusions

you say you want to

accept what is

but I say, fuck it

Or "make love" to it

if you insist

Have your way with it

Let me see you

unveil your raw insecure

uncertain body, for me

so I know I'm not alone

show me, please, that

nobody is

your deep dark inner experience

is interesting to me

fascinating even.

I'm bored by the impulse

to reassure me that everything's

going to be OK

Let yourself be held

for once

Let the tears flow

through that cold mental filter

so i can mourn with you.

And together we can celebrate

That we may never

figure it all out

But we can, at least

get naked with what is

and feel it all

as
we
are.

Love,
Kamala Devi
Aug. 2011

Cheat sheet for Jealousy 11

2011-08-07T12:19:00.000-07:00

How do you handle jealousy? This is the most common question that people ask me about polyamory. In this brief video blog Kamala Devi suggests a whole list of ways to deal with the green eyed beast. www.blisscoach.com

Labels for Lovers

2011-08-07T12:17:00.000-07:00

Here's a 365 degree view (yes, you get 5 extra degrees!) of the Italian Alps. Kamala explores how she uses labels with her "open" lovers. Primary, pod, friends with Benifits, what do you call your erotic friendships?

Reflections on SummerCamp with Adam

2011-08-02T20:48:00.000-07:00

Day 9: Little Love Shack

2011-08-02T20:46:00.000-07:00

Day 9 Kamala inspired by Zegg's 20 year anniversary and tells some of the highs and lows of her time at summercamp, while relaxing in a little old love shack.

My Personal Growth Work

2011-07-30T05:23:00.000-07:00

Day 7: I'm falling in love with Zegg and share intimate details about my inner process and inviting you to join me and my lovers to SummerCamp in Zegg in 2013.www.BlissCoach.com

Nightlife at Summer Camp

2011-07-29T12:10:00.001-07:00

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Teaching Free Love Day 4

2011-07-26T12:02:00.000-07:00

Day 4 Kamala Devi discusses the climate of Free Love at Zegg, Germany Kamala reports on her workshop "Freie Liebe von California"and compares polyamory in Zegg to the environment and community in San Diego. www.blisscoach.com

Day 3 at Zegg: What's your lovestyle

2011-07-25T07:22:00.000-07:00

Happiness is being able to come and go like a cat.
This is day 3 At Zegg, and many people are asking about my lovestyle and it is not so easy to describe in less than 10 minutes. I talk about how I define my friends and lovers. I try to define my pod of lovers and then ask some heavy questions about group inclusion and exclusion. For more info about Kamala Devi and Polyamory go to: www.blisscoach.com

Video Blog Day 2 at Zegg

2011-07-24T05:41:00.000-07:00

‎My first impressions at Zegg:
1) Listening to the rain makes me wet.
2. Zegg visionary Dolores Richter embodies self realization as well as "community realization." Thanks for joining me in the journey.
www.BlissCoach.com

Practicing transparency on camera.

2011-07-22T22:36:00.000-07:00

Kamala Devi shares her 1st Video From Berlin before she arrives at SommerCamp at Zegg (Free Love commune) in order to study community and bring it back to the San Diego Tantra and Polyamory Community. She intends to get experience in front of the camera for a poly reality show, practice vulnerability by discussing her personal process, and integrate her parenting philosophy with her practice of sacred sexual liberation. This is the first video in a series. Please send any comments or questions if you'd like to engage in the journey. www.blisscoach.com

European Summer Vacation with my Poly Pod

2011-07-19T01:10:00.000-07:00

I'm flying to Europe for a month, I'm taking my son and several poly lovers and we're going on a European adventure. We're starting at the Free Love commune in Germany:

http://www.zegg-forum.org/guidelines.phtml

Next we're off to the Alps to vision a charter for our own commune.

Then off to the Italian Riviera to practice sex magic.

I'll be doing a video blog about my adventures http://uninhibitedbliss.blogspot.com/

I look forward to connecting again at the end of August.

Mark your calendar for these upcoming events when I return to San Diego

Thurs. Aug 25 Poly Potluck 6:45p

Tues. Aug 30 Tantra Theater Auditions and Free open house 6:45pm

Sat. Sept. 3 Sacred Snuggle Party 6:45p

Tues. Sept 13 Tantra Talk 6:45p

Sat. Oct. Advanced Sensual Play Party 6:45p

11/11/11 Tantra Palooza!Weekly blog updates: www.TantraTheater.TV

Dec. 8, 9th "Sack" Religious Holidiay Show 7p

www.Blisscoach.com

Love you,

http://uninhibitedbliss.blogspot.com/

How about SD Poly Pride in 2012?!

2011-07-16T10:58:00.000-07:00

Happy Pride Day San Diego!
I'm sipping my morning tea, and reflecting on the last 20 years worth of pride parades that I've participated in, many of which I've met new lovers, or at least 'gotten lucky.' The most memorable was when I directed the Honolulu pride festival in '98 and met my first dominatrix.
I don't know if I'm going to make it to Balboa park today. I'm packing to go with my poly lovers on a European adventure that includes Zegg, a Free Love commune in Germany. I have a ton of work to catch up on since the Sacred Slut Show closed.
Several Tantra Theater players asked if we could do a float, performance or have some kind of presence at pride, which is a fabulous way to share our art while celebrating sexual diversity. However, since tantra theater has not been pursued or marginalized, I'm more inclined to put my time and energy towards liberation and legitimacy for polyamory.
I've spend so much attention raising awareness for sacred prostitution recently, that one might forget polyamory is my primary cause.
I am out and proud about my pod of over 9 poly lovers. And it's easy for me to take that for granted since I'm surrounded by over 200 poly people in San Diego who embrace and celebrate my alternative lifestyle. However, I am the exception. There are many triads and pods in San Diego who are hiding in shame, and many more across the globe who are facing daily discrimination and social exclusion. I become especially passionate about this cause when I see that Polyamory is part of my spiritual path, and that there are religions like Muslims and Mormons who's religious right to polygamy is being denied.
Today, polygamy is illegal in all fifty states since 1878, the U.S. Supreme Court decided Reynolds v. United States, which upheld the constitutionality of a law banning polygamy. It is estimated that there are 30,000 practitioners in the West. (a figure often thrown around by gay marriage activists.)
In fact one of the big arguments against gay marriage, is if we let the gays get married, what's going to stop us from letting polygamy groups get married? Poly families are denied access to the same rights that same-sex couples are denied. Which is more than 1,138 federal rights, protections and responsibilities that automatically granted to married heterosexual couples. But you don't generally hear poly people complaining. In San Diego we're too busy at potlucks or pool parties. And in my case, I'm busy planning a vacation.
Perhaps, my next poly vacation will be to New York on Oct. 7-9 for the 11th annual Poly Pride Festival. For the last eleven years PolyNYC has been hosting rallies, marches, and symposiums in central park. Perhaps the least we can do here in San Diego is have a Picnic! Next year I resolve to get a a Poly contingent together for pride. Perhaps tantra theater can do some bi and poly related sketches. And I'd love to start Poly Pride in San Diego the following year. (Hell, Pagans have their own little pride.) I know we can get a few hundred people together in the park to model new liberated paradigms for sharing more love.
Here are some possible slogans or tag lines that were gathered by poly-activist lawyer Diana Adams, and Alan at www.polyinthemedia.blogspot.com:

POLYAMORY: We're all in this together.

Open minds. Open hearts. Open love.

The more love you give, the more you have to give.

Polyamory: Love makes the world go 'round, and 'round, and 'round...

There's nothing more beautiful than loving someone... except loving two people.

Polyamory: Free your loves.

Share the love – there's more where that came from!

P.S. Let me know if you'd like to join me and get involved in starting San Diego Poly Pride 2012! Write me at Kamala@blisscoach.com (I'll get back to you in the fall, after my European vacation!)

By Kamala Devi, Author of Don't Drink the Punch, Sacred Sexual Healing, Director of www.TantraTheater.TV and Sacred Sex and Open Relationship Coach www.BlissCoach.com

Video Blogs for Sacred Slut Series

2011-07-15T15:47:00.000-07:00

Kamala Devi shares about her process in the Sacred Slut Show.

Video from the show will be available soon on www.tantratheater.tv or through Namaste Media.

Praise for the Sacred Slut

2011-07-15T11:17:00.000-07:00

♥ Kamala as an artist is original, vulnerable, outrageous, funny and profound. She welcomes you into her personal world and it is a journey you shouldn't miss. This show is the Goddess incarnating, don't miss it.
--Charles Muir,
Director source School of Tantra Yoga

♥ I had the GREAT pleasure of being there! The WAY Kamala self pleasured totally brought the whole place alive in ecstatic shamanic theater and we all bathed together in her glorious, sweet energy. It was indeed a sacred blessing and a celebration of feminine gorgeousness. Annie, I have to say I was touched deeply by Kamalas presentation of you. For me, the expression of her hesitation, doubt, and fear, as well as questioning the sheer zanniness of self pleasuring as a 'spectacle' mirrored my own feelings about the privacy of something so precious and dear. Yet her power to lovingly embrace each and every soul in that audience suspended us in the bliss of her shaking womb. You could feel it. AHO.
--Amara Charles

♥ I've wanted someone to do that piece/ritual for a long time. So great! Congratulations for pushing through your own limits. I have to say, if you keep doing it, it can get to be even deeper and more profound and educational! I'm just over the moon that you DID IT!!! ...I hope you can tour the show!
--Annie Sprinkle

♥P.S Just a thought... I never really saw the experience as masturbating, as it is so much more about the group energy, and getting out of one's own way, even getting out of one's body, and being a channel for the Universal life force energy. Yes, stimulate the genitals, but masturbation implies being alone or doing it yourself. When really, doing this kind of public sex magic ritual, its so much bigger than ones self. Nice to be able to discuss it with someone who has done it! Go Kamala.

♥ What a blessing to witness this expression of sacred sexual yumminess. KD, your energy in this piece is stellar. It was so fun to witness and support your performance piece. Great job! I agree with Annie that when you are loving yourself in the presence of others, we all get to dive into the sea of your bliss energy and everyone is connected in a powerful unifying state. Ego melts into oneness and our true nature cums shining thru!
--Mare Simone

♥ You embody power, wisdom, strength, courage and depth. You have "raised the bar" for authentic expression and self-revelation. I am proud, moved, challenged and empowered by the permission you have given to all of us. Thank you for living your conviction.
--Tes Kempner

♥ Gratitude to you for giving life to the stories of others and your stories of self. Bravo for creating a show rich with raw emotion, edginess and laughter and to the amazing crew and theatre troop in support. And most of all thank you for every day proudly carrying the banner of true empowerment without judgment. You are an embodiment of what is truly sexy: A woman in her clear unapologetic power and self. Kamala, you gift us all not only as a teacher, but by walking through life as a living teaching.
--Eugene Hedlund

♥ You are the embodiment of All things Sacred, All things Profane, and in You, the line between the two blurs and disappears revealing only the truth of wholeness. Thank you.
--Ariel White

♥ Not in my wildest dreams did I imagine that my greatest teacher would appear in the slender body of a young woman. I have found a home in your loving presence. I am in AWE of your work on stage!
--Ellen Faye

♥ Kamala, you are addressing one of the most critical and under-addressed areas for bringing peace and deep change to the planet. I see no possibility for a future free from war that is not also free from sexually repressive values. What you are doing is so important!
Just as the culture at large pathologically separates spirituality and sexuality, much of the counter-culture that has sought to address that still separates "sacred sexuality", which usually involves a lot of obligatory fluff, from the rest of sexuality....as if connection and intimacy in any form could be other than sacred. Your play does so much to heal that division, bring the shadow into the light, and help us embrace in love all that it means to alive and human.
--Daniel Schmachtenberger

♥ You delivered, AND THEN SOME!!!! loved loved loved the show! Thank youuuu! ♥ ♥ ♥ I went all three nights and it was awesome! Thursday was epic-ly juicy, Friday was gushing orgasmic wonderment....cant wait for Saturday (I might have to bring a towel to sit on so I don't ruin the seat)...I love you and yr big ass purple wig.
--Roxanne DePalma

♥ Kamala...I am in awe of the powerful Goddess you are, your passion to bring love, connection, sexual healing to our world and want to say....I received deeper levels of growth on my own sexual healing journey and feel so grateful to have witnessed your openess and ultimate courage last evening. You presented a classy show...xoxo
--Tracy Jordan Wells

♥ Thank you for your brilliant and provocative contribution to this planet. I am deeply moved by your show last night..! as an actress/healer and trailblazer myself.. I am in the process of creating a one woman show myself this year about my spiritual journey .... seeing you and learning from your sharing has added a new depth to what it is I will be sharing and how I will share it you are brilliant bold and inspiring.
--Sacha Rana

♥ Kamala Devi's Sacred Slut Show and the Tantra Theatre Troupe were fantastic! Kamala Devi presented an entertaining, provocative, and insightful insight into the "Sacred Prostitute. She shares from the heart and really takes this work to the EDGE on behalf of all of us. The show was very provocative, I highly recommend this performance art theatre. Don't miss it!
--Ayanna Mojica

‎... if you are challenged with loving, embracing your sexual being, this powerful show is for you... if you have an open mind and are a sexually curious human being, this show is for you... if you want to see a beautiful healing artist reveal herself in the power of vulnerability... come... to... this... show... i love how Kamala Devi heals with such daring love, a heart on fire ~ sets my heart on fire
--Devi Kirn Being

♥ Your show tonight was very healing for me on many levels. Thank you for your courageous work and being who you are; a powerful inspiring woman! :)
--Meadow Faith

♥...and what a offering it was. well done Kamala Devi...tears of Joy and celebration of these Sacred Arts. To all the sisStars and brothers out there. Thank you.
--Kris FireHeart

♥ Kamala Devi is AN ABSOLUTE GEM, her passionate courage and bottomless bravery! She's a LOCAL Lotus Flower, indeed. Thank you again, Kamala Devi, for your Courage to Press Us Up Against our own walls and taboos. & For encouraging us to contemplate other ways of Seeing & Being in this World.
--Cara H. Cadwallader

♥ Kamala Devi and cast, you are phenomenal, talented and brave. So amazing, funny and educational... that I'm back Saturday night. And you make me laugh big time! Love it.
--Rob Armstrong

♥ Mind blowing, earth shattering, heart opening. An unforgettable performance Ms. Kamala Devi. You are changing the world. Your commitment to follow your calling is incredibly inspiring.
--Carri Scuba

♥ What a wonderful show yesterday!!! It was amazingly brave of you to present us with an amazing way to express yourself. Thank you for that!
--Lourdez

♥ What an amazing journey you took us on last night. You integrity and courageousness are an honor to behold and support. Deep bows to you.
--Jodi Ember

♥ Excellent performances last night from you and your troupe, Kamala. I only wish I could go again tonight to meet your heroines! And again on Saturday, to see how the performance evolves. What a brave and generous soul you are!!!
--J Bradley Wadsworth

♥ Courage..meaning from the heart...You share so beautifully... You moved me and touched me deeply... Your performance transformed my mind and wounds... such richness you bring to this world.
--Laura Lee Zrii Thompson

♥ We were just carried away by Kamala's courage and the breadth of her performance. Though performance is perhaps the wrong word - she comes so much from her own heart even when using other's words, that you feel you are seeing her naked soul. Go see this tonight if you can! Kamala, I'm still feeling your beauty, love and courage in my heart from last night's show. You are truly inspiring. More people need to see and feel what you do!
--Greg Young

♥ The Divine feminine shines through you and illuminates us all with its honesty and radiance. I bow down to your courage :)
--Cindy Sitara Lee

♥ Kamala: I am humbled by your grace, professionalism and determination. I feel like I am healing 10 years of silence through your performance. I'm canceling my travel plans to see your show again tonight! This is an intiation!! I haven't been so excited by a show since The Matrix came out! HEY ALL! Ya gotta see this!!! Sacred Slut at the Moxie TONIGHT!!
--Akasha Rose

♥ Sensational!...touched, inspired, moved by authenticity, appreciative of our lineage, --amazing woman Kamala D!
--Alexis Ruby

♥ Wonderful show Kamala ! Profound and sacred , I appreciate your courage and am grateful for your contribution to humanity.
--Cathy Montesi

♥ Power to the peepers. Release for the realizers. Shaking loose for the shamed. Expansion of the ecstatic. Healing for the healers. Blessings to You Goddess ♥
--Heidi Neilson

♥ I saw your show tonight and just wanted to say thank you for having the courage, heart and vision to do what you do. It affected me deeply.
--Bonnie Solomon

♥ Brave, bold & beautiful! Thank you for your selfless performance last night. My husband and I are grateful for the intriguing new world you have navigated us through. You have given us a new perspective on love which makes our bedroom so much more honoring. (And hot too!)
--Stacey

♥ Thank you dearest Kamala D for your courageous, open hearted look into our essential nature. You have created a crucible for us all to explore our deepest recesses, of our fears, our barely illuminated and hardly audible selves, along with our farthest reaches of joy and ecstatic states, with the creation of the Tantra theatre--no small feat! Jai Ma.
--Dave Kennedy

♥ I came down last night for your show with a few girlfriends from L.A. and we were all so very touched by your shameless, vulnerable and inspiring display of what touches you...i look forward to receiving more of what you have to offer in time to come. Thank you for living so Alive.
--Sarah A. Greene

♥ Your experience, insight, wisdom, expression, devotion are timeless and I honor you.
--Renee Airya

♥ Wow Kamala, what a show last night!!
--Sayaka Adachi

♥ You have moved me into another realm of possibilities, it was mind blowing open, juicy Goddess revealing, soul stirringly wonderful! talk about being of service, what you are doing is beyond that, it is stellar! yes, please do take this piece on the road. I have one request though~can I PLEASE be your fluffer??
--Joni Pradetto

♥ The show was incredible! Thank you for creating it and sharing yourself so profoundly! Your North County fans salute you!
--Kenn Frank

♥ Major Undertaking - Good Start!!! Courageous...I adore the goddess... and love to support her... even in myself... The Goddess... the muse... the creative impulse! Thank u both...
--Stuart Schreiber

♥ Kamala - this work that you're doing is very profound, and _so_ needed - as we connect with the power and grace of your womb, it helps us to connect to the Earth; the womb in which many of us will be birthed into full consciousness =)
--Jeremy Mathias Bennett

♥ Fabulous paradigm shifting sister!
--Melissa Weiss Steele

♥ Kamala Devi's impassioned calling and gift to the world is to heal the hurts that limit joy; return people to their innocence and aliveness; and help them learn to love, all that others are, with all that they are, and though that, fall ever deeper in love with the fullness of life itself!
She shows how the deepest currents of life and love that move in us--the sexual and the spiritual impulses--are inextricably intertwined, ultimately coming from and leading towards the same beautiful wordless depth of Being.
Her personal gift is to share content of such import through artistry that will inspire, bother, open, and unavoidably touch you. The topic matter of her show is one of the areas I most want to see humanity awaken and shift.
----Daniel Schmachtenberger

♥ Our founder and director, Kamala Devi has created her one-woman show about sacred prostitution. There are so many levels of complexity in this idea. The first, create a show all by yourself. Now just stop and think about that for a moment. Imagine writing, creating, and producing your own show on your own dime. Okay that in itself is amazing. But no, we don't stop there, now throw the prickly subject of prostitution. That in itself is controversial, yet there is more, she's going to offer a show on sacred prostitution. Two words that don't always fit together in our normal society.
It's a piece of life that needs to be talked about... Yes, you will be triggered, maybe even to the point where every part of you is uncomfortable. She's going to self pleasure on stage for God sake. She's going to talk about prostitution in a very conversational way. But maybe that's exactly what needs to happen, maybe by allowing these topics and activities and placing them on center stage with the spotlight will melt inside of you, inside of our society and release the shame, fear or judgment. Please show up, be entertained in this extremely courageous leap of faith. Kamala is modeling what it's like to have a calling and listen. This might just grant you permission to do the same.
--Shawn Roop

Cliff Notes for the Sarced Slut Show.

2011-07-11T17:44:00.000-07:00

Photos by Julie Kondor.

We filled the house with our abundant San Diego Spiritual Community during the 3 night run of Kamala Devi's world premier of the Sacred Slut Show.

Kamala Devi opens the evening with an invocation to the Goddess.

San Diego Tantra Theater Improv Troupe lubricates the audience with 2 minute monologues, Audience awakenings and the Tantric oracle.

The first time I invoked the goddess...

Kamala Devi plays Veronica Monet in Whore's are Feminist too.

When I was a little girl, people used to ask me what I wanted to be when I grew up...

Kamala Devi plays Amara Charles in the White Tigress.

Kamala Devi plays Mare Simone in Nectar of the Goddess.

Kamala and Husband Michael sing "I'm Just a Girl who can't say no" by Rae NeWoman

Thunder Perfect Mind Nag Hammid Library, Egypt 340 BCE

Kamala Devi plays Mother Priestess Tracy Elise in Practicing in Temple.

Kamala Dei does excerpts from Post Porn Modernism by Annie Sprinkle.

Kamala Devi prepares for the "Legend of the Ancient Sacred Prostitute" by Annie Sprinkle.

My first Standing O.

Gratitude to my Cast and Crew. From Left to Right starting on top: Peter on Drums, James on lights, sound and slideshow, Michael lighting design and executive producer, Steve Bickell on Videography, Kali Das on Stage Management, Maha Lakshmi on Concessions, Catheleen on Registration, Janos is Set designer extrordinaire, Kamala Devi, Tracey Lontos on Registration, Neil on Sound, Eve Olution on acting coaching, Rita Mooney on Comedy, Adam Paulman on Slideshow, Rae NewWoman on Comedy & Voice coaching.

And ofcourse Julie Kondor is taking the photo. Thank you Julie for these fabulous memories! For details and videos go to www.TantraTheater.TV

Preview from Sacred Slut Show

2011-06-30T10:03:00.001-07:00

Come See the Show This week: July, 7,8,9 Get tickets and tell your friends!
http://sacredslutshow.eventbrite.com/

I'm ready for my close up...(Almost!)

2011-06-28T15:43:00.000-07:00

Janos Novak really gets into the spirit of Tantra Theater as he designs the set for my forthcoming Sacred Slut Show. Here he is preparing a 7 foot Japanese style scree with gold leaf. Sarah Murray Novak (who probably took the picture) will soon paint the screen with a large Japanese style cherry blossom tree. This artistic couple has helped with everything aesthetic from lighting to costumes. Here's another shot of the screens being primed for the Moxie stage. The show opens in just 10 days!

I am eagerly rehearsing, and preparing...infact here is a candid picture of me rehearsing at the Novak's downtown artist studio. So far in the process, the most ego confronting process has been in my interviews and consultations with the five amazing women that I've chosen to feature in this show. It's such an honor to represent these women who have all been mentors to me.

I am nervous about what they will say when the hear what I am saying about them. So far these conversations have been AMAZING and ENLIGHTENING. For example, in my recent performance for Mare Simone, she spontaneously said:

"I've come to think of My Amrita as a teacher, it has a wisdom consciousness, and without reverence for the nectar of the goddess, she will not flow."

These women's stories are bursting with wisdom, I can't wait to share them with you onstage soon, and I sincerely hope you'll join me for the show on July, 7,8,9. PLEASE Support me and get your tickets early!

http://sacredslutshow.eventbrite.com/
Get $5 if you buy tickets before Friday.

xoxo

Charles Muir Puja in San Diego

2011-06-26T01:29:00.000-07:00

Tantra Master Charles Muir offered a wonderful tantra talk and puja for an intimate group of friends an lovers this Saturday. The topics discussed ranged from sex magic to loving without attachment. We started off by stating our intentions, and then learned how to supercharge those intentions with sensual and orgasmic energy through a series of experiential exercises. Charles is available for private sessions for serious seekers. Please contact kalidas@blisscoach.com for details about his upcoming events in San Diego. Or go directly to his website: www.sourcetantra.com or the calendar on www.BlissCoach.com

Hot Summer Solstice Updates for The Tantra Sutras

2011-06-21T23:34:00.000-07:00

Here are my deep and dirty status updates for the hot summer season. With Love, Kamala Devi

ON SEX:
• Sexual wholeness starts when she stops trying to stuff a square peg into a round hole.

• Outwardly, I love lingams. Inwardly, I love yonis. And sometimes I get so impassioned I can't keep them apart.

• Where would you be if your wildest fantasy was was not in your head?

• When my chiropractor heard that my neck injury came from oral sex, he gave me a high five.

• If I don't feel like caressing my breasts, undressing slowly, and adoring my own blossoming body, how can I expect someone else to?

• One of the greatest obstacles to my sexual liberation is the fear that everyone will fall in love with me.

• There is no substitute for the succulence of the forbidden fruit.

• I confess, I'm shameless. But guilt free and blameless, because your sexual innocence is so pure, try as I might, not even I can corrupt it.

• If my eyes are the windows to my soul then my yoni is the doorway.

ON LOVE:
• My heart aches not from the loss or lack of your love, but from having held back my own.

• If I had to describe the way I feel about you on a multiple choice test I'd circle F. all of the above.

• It's natural for the yoni to get sore after a long night of sex, but how about the heart, have you ever felt bruised and achy from loving so much?

• You activate my wetness... and the tears that flow in your presence are so much sweeter than the tears stimulated by sorrow.

• My heart is ripping clear down the center. I come to you for help, and your most compassionate response is to brandish a meat cleaver.

• My heart aches so much, I'd rather talk about fashion, weather, sports -- anything but love.

• What are you clinging to? Attachments are sticky. Releasing the grasping is not enough, it isn't until we open fully to all the love around me that the fixation falls away.

ON SPIRIT:
• When spirit takes form as the beloved, it's only to serve as a doorway.

• I prayed for the goddess to speak through me, and then I lost my voice.

• They say it's rude to point, but every attempt to describe the divine is but an inadequate indicator. I'm sure by now, my constant pointing has pissed off the creator.

• God is boundless, yes, but she is also found within the boundaries and honored in the act of setting them.

• I ask to love as God loves. God laughs at the thought that there is any other way.

• There is a delicate art to seeing the Divine in the person before you. The amateur blindly projects their god concepts onto them while the adept simply sees the beloved as they are.

• I am possessed with the desire to see with your eyes, touch with your skin, even taste with you tongue. God, it's going to take an exorcism to untangle us.

• How can the atheist stand before a mirror and still disbelieve God?

ON LIFE:
• I don't believe in Miracles, I live one.

• Each moment is like a twist on the kaleidoscope, offering magnificent designs except without the symmetry (and squinting is optional.)

• I love waking up. It's more fun than dreaming, that's the real reason I keep going to sleep, not to dream, but for the love of waking.

• You may see my life and think that I'm chasing pleasure, but I assure you, this ecstasy became sustainable only when I stopped running away from pain.

• Though it sounds like circular logic, I've been attached to being detached and am finally feeling ready to let it all go.

• Being in my body is my favorite place to be, unless there is pain, and then I'm grateful for the awareness that I exist beyond this form.

• Somewhere along the path, I walked into a labyrinth. Today, without ceremony, the way in, simply turned into the way out.

ON NEO TANTRA:
• I'm writing the story of when Shakti meets Shiva, but this time it's in San Diego, 2011.

• Western Non-dual Tantra for idiots: God sucks and God blows (and sometimes bites.)

• Every guru at some point must step off the pedestal, but not every seeker will follow them to the toilet.

• Sometimes I daydream about a strong tantric dominatrix bending me over their knee and demanding: "Who's Your Deity?"

• Whenever I get a hangover from too much spiritual practice, my interpretation is that god is rearranging furniture and I am bumping into things in my own temple.

• The sacred simply will not be defiled.

ON ART:
• If all the worlds's a stage, who's the audience?

• Producing a play about the prostitute/priestess is a much richer experience when I practice playing her off stage, at home, around town, all the time.

• Artistically speaking, the wheel may have already been invented. But the world has never witnessed a bisexual, poly, tantra mamma 'get off' on reinventing it, onstage.

• I'm dancing the dangerous edge between inspiration and obsession. As a result, my art waxes poetic/pathetic.

• I may not consider myself an intellectual, but I can bullshit with the best of them.

• To those who want to minimize my love so your light appears brighter: Good Luck. Real radiance starts when you stop managing others, and be you.

‎• I've been kicked off Facebook three times. I learned my lesson. The moral of the story is don't post photos of men in ski masks playing with blow up dolls.

‎• This is my frustrated cry for help from the machine:
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Sorry, I don't speak technology, so, I hope it doesn't piss off the pope or anything.

ON POLY
• Just because I love everyone, doesn't mean I want to fuck them. (But as long as no one gets harmed in the process, I appreciate the freedom to do so if I chose!)

• Michael loves me through sex, through service, through our son, even through sharing me with other lovers. He loves me through and through.

• We've shared each others lovers, that kind of bond runs deeper than buying a blood diamond.

• Some people only have room in their heart for one. Mine is built like a sprawling Estate and there's a special suite by the garden, big enough for you and whomever you want to invite. If you don't want it, you'll be missed, but nothing stays vacant for long around here.

• Feeling that you are being loved warms my heart; I don't personally have to be doing the loving, to know I am always the one loving.

• I am burdened with the abundant gift of falling irresistibly in love with whomever my Lovers are loving.

• This craving to be met only becomes possible when I cease demanding it from one person and let the universe see, hear, feel and get me.

• To fall in love with me requires that you love my husband, son, a tribe of lovers that are constantly coming and going, for I am not separate from them. How about a whole community of touch-hungry tantrikas? And India, Japan...Can you love that big? ...How about the whole of mamma Earth?

ON RELATIONSHIP:
• I may adamantly insist that we do not belong to each other, but I'm equally certain that we must belong together.

• Beyond the boxes of friends, snuggle buddies, primary partners, married...we are in essence, lovers. The tantric Relationship is not a container, but an organic evolving synergistic co-creation.

• We humans have so much in common that relationships would be boring if it weren't for the constant game of denying our less desirable qualities, projecting them onto others, and judging each other for them. ;)

• I'm eternally grateful for the deep familiar recognition that I feel from strangers I've not yet met.

• Resentment in relationship is like the black stuff on toast. There's a point at which the toast is so burnt, it's not even worth scraping.

• If you weren't for my self righteous judgment and your unworkable personality quirks, we would be spectacular together. Alas, I'll settle for awkward strangers.

• I want a bumper sticker that reads: Sacred sex is the solution. There are precious few interpersonal issues that can't be resolved by conscious love making.

ON SELF INQUIRY:
• This has nothing to do with me, and it's ALL about me.

• Why is it easier for me to walk around physically naked, than it is to strip off another layer of who I thought I was?

• To dissolve Judgment I usually inquire: What is it about myself, in regards to another person, that upsets me? Today, the allegations are so manifold that the inquiry dissolves me.

• I am indulging in Self, and I feel naughty.

• I'm ashamed, I'm embarrassed, I'm afraid we'll be found out and crucified-- but I never let my ego stop me before.

• My medicine It is strong. I either cure or poison everyone I touch, but it appears I am immune to my own dose.

• There is something about me that I want you to know, as soon as I discover it myself, you'll be the first to find out.

• Self-inquiry leads to a richer experience of self realization when it involves dimensions of self-love, self-expression and self-pleasuring.

• I'm not who you think I am. Hell, I'm not even what I think I am. I don't claim to know who you are, either. Can we just be ourselves, without thought, together, tonight?

• To dissolve Judgment I usually inquire: What is it about myself, in regards to another person, that upsets me? Today, the allegations are so manifold that the inquiry is dissolving me.

• I have surrendered my seeking, when I inquire, who am I? I'm not looking, as much as listening for inspiration as to how to play the role of whomever I want to be.

ON ENLIGHTENMENT and DHARMA
• If every post you read seems to be about you, you're either egotistical or enlightened. Or both.

• Frequent misunderstandings surround you. Your perspective is so comprehensive that many are not capable of grasping your full meaning, yet, you appear content that they get what they got.

• It's not that I'm not ready for the Truth, I just don't know if I can handle all the bullshit that has to be cleared before the absolute reality of existence is revealed.

• You'r thoughts are incredible, your words cannot be relied on, and your actions are beyond reason. Yet, I believe in you.

• Behold that which activates your arousal and abandon it for nothing.

• I'm bidding farewell to all shameful spaces that deny the full flavor of my blossoming devotion.

• If your vocation doesn't turn you on, consider a change of vocation. The same could be said about relationship, home, hobbies and especially religion.

• Twilight only happens twice a day--until we expand our awareness and realize it's always happening, somewhere.

• When it seems there is a lot of work to do, nothing gets done, then I remember it is all play, and I become unstoppable.

OVERHEARD (in the Hot tub):

• Please don't set my pubic hair on fire.

• Your body is a temple. And now I'm going to desecrate it.

• If you can't say anything nice....say something naughty.

ON MOTHERHOOD
• Until you've had your womb quadruple in size and watched as an infant ripped through your yoni and your body split into two...No, you do not understand.

• On this full moon, I commune with all the women around the world who make it a practice to lock themselves in the bathroom just to feel.

• There's a small wounded girl inside that wants to punish you for knowing not what you do.-- And there's a huge divine mamma in me that has more than enough love to heal us both.

• My relationship to my mother is more complicated than all my other lovers combined. Infact, relating to her makes all other relationships a piece of cake. Thanks Mom.

• DEVIN (age 4)asks: Are you running out of love?
I have infinite love for you, Baby. I say
"But Mom, it's more fun if you pretend your running out, that way I can put love on my match stick and light you up again, and you can say thank you."
And then he proceeds to do exactly that. To which I say, Thank you.

• Devin: Lick your lips, mom.
Me: Why?
Devin: They're dry.
Me: I know, I need chapstick.
Devin: If we don't have any, I'll lick them for you.

• Devin (age 4): Mom I can't breath when there's no air.
Kamala: Me neither, honey.
Devin: That makes us special.
Kamala: Actually, nobody in the world can breath if there's no air.
Devin: Then everybody in the world is special.
...Kamala: Yes, dear. That's right.

FRIENDS AND LOVERS SAY:

• We are steadfast in our quest for truth -- we aren't seduced by pleasure, or products, or even the pursuit itself. --Eco Elf

• And then you come to the edge where your heart expands a little more, and it takes you by surprise that there's anything left to open. --Cheri Reeder

• A priestess does not get to chose who her seeker is. You never know who is going to be on the other side of your chamber door, but no matter who it is you're going to greet him like a long lost lover.-- Tracy Elise.

• Lovemaking and cuddling are the only two things that shouldn't be outsourced.-- James Schmachtenberger

• There is so much pain and suffering in the world. We have to consciously balance those scales with as much pleasure and ecstasy as we possibly can--Annie Sprinkle

Inspiration for Stage Dressing for Sacred Slut Show

2011-06-18T17:36:00.000-07:00

I'm excited to have several beautiful japanese style dressing screens onstage...Thanks to Janos and Sara Murray Novak... These images are to spark your inspiration.

Sweet Memories from Taste of Tantra Palooza!

2011-06-13T18:24:00.000-07:00

We kicked off the Taste of Tantra Palooza with Ecstatic Dancing. Enjoy these fun Photos by Julie Kondor.

We had approximately 70 friends and lovers gather on a warm summer day at a natural retreat and nature preserve in Poway.

We kicked off the event with ecstatic dancing.

Women and Men gathered in respective red and white tents to vision a conscious sisterhood and brotherhood.

We shared a radical massage puja to reprogram our nervous system to make way for more evolution!

Kamala Devi and Shawn Roop were our guides. The theme was evolutionary sexuality, and the intention was to raise the vibration for Tantra Palooza on 11-11-11.

In the evening, www.Tantratheater.tv created an audience interactive improvisational show. In this shot, Michael is the snake charmer for Silvia the Snake. This is inspired by a true story from Yum on his 63rd B-day!

We couldn't have done it without our cast and crew...thank you to all who pitched in to help out! Kali Das, Tracey Lontos, Julie Kondor, Maha Laxmi, Yum, Gi Gi, Eco Elf, Andy and Adam!

Birthday Boy and Tantra Teacher, WillYum VanVechten was our DJ. Thanks for the gift of groove!

Hope to see you at Tantra Palooza:

http://tantrapalooza11-11-11.eventbrite.com/

Mark your Calendar for these Juicy Events:

Tomorrow Tantra Talk: Self Pleasuring with Kamala Devi

NEW DATE Saturday, June 25th Charles Muir Heart Opening Puja & Tantra Talk

Tickets: http://junecharlesmuir.eventbrite.com/

July 7, 8, 9 Kamala's One Woman Show: Sacred Slut Series

Tuesday, Sept. 6 Tantra Theater Auditions 6:45 pm

11/11/11 Tantra Palooza!

WISH LIST for One Woman Show

2011-06-10T09:31:00.000-07:00

With less than a month to go before the opening of the Sacred Slut Show, my coach told me to put on my play glasses. They're like the blinders that horses wear in races so they don't get distracted (or spooked.) So now, all I see is the show. (Farewell to practicing presence and witnessing the beauty of truth as it miraculously unfolds before me.) All I see now is myself standing onstage at the MOXIE naked with about a hundred supportive friends and lovers in the audience. (Of course, imagining them naked also helps.) But to make this dream a reality I've got some work to do. So thought I'd post this blog as a request for help, or if you simply want to align your intentions with my highest vision.
My purpose in creating this show is to honor several magnificent women and the splendor of their sacred sexual work in the world. Using oral history, dance, song and poetry I want to illuminate the eternal and diverse gifts of the sacred prostitute.
In order to do so, I have an short list of what will support my storytelling:
1) Sound designer, someone who knows 'garage band' and can splice together a few simple instrumental songs.
2) A costume designer for an ancient Sumerian priestess/prostitute bodice that is fabulously sexy and Tailor made
3) Make up Table and Vanity Mirror
4) 4 post canopy Bed
5) A variety of quality wigs (Specifically a big red curly wig.)
6) Seven tall single candle holders, a cauldron and a fabulous goddess altar.
7) Most importantly:

Seeking professional Theater Director for Radical Goddess Play

San Diego Tantra Theater Company is looking to hire a skilled director to collaborate on new material with edgy sexual and spiritual content. We’re offering a modest compensation for a spiritually minded stage director to co-create a one-woman show. The company publicizes its productions well, will guarantee an audience, and has a volunteer crew and other resources. We hope to hire a director ASAP as the show is scheduled to run July 7,8,9 at the Moxie theater.

I’m an experienced writer/performer and the founder of San Diego Tantra Theater (www.tantratheater.tv) and. my latest work contains material that is often compared to the Vagina Monologues. I’ve written and produced over a dozen plays in Phoenix, Honolulu and LA.

I’m currently looking for someone to offer outside creative direction as well as manage all technical production aspects of a full length, one-woman show. Your commitment will require at least 2 to 3 rehearsals per week for the next 4 weeks, but the Director is not necessary to attend every show... just 2 tech rehearsals. The pay and rehearsal schedule are negotiable. This is also great showcase for your work and name in San Diego. If you are experienced and SERIOUSLY interested, please send your resume, photo and a short message why you'd like to direct this play. Kamala@blisscoach.com

Title: "The Sacred Slut Show"

SYNOPSIS: The show is an embodied exploration of sacred prostitution told through a tapestry of personal narrative, dance, prayer, poetry and interviews. The language and tone will span the full spectrum from sacred to the profane. It will juxtapose modern session-work with ancient myths and sufi poetry. I intend to represent a variety of faces of the Eternal Goddess as she was, will be and is now. The performance will be conducted in the context of interactive ritual with the audience, opening and closing with an invocation and benediction to the Goddess.

July 7th - 9th
Moxie Theater in La Mesa
Doors Open at 7pm
Admission: $20 presale Tickets: http://sacredslutseries.eventbrite.com/
$25 at the door.
www.Tantratheater.tv

3 days left...till Taste of Tantra Palooza!

2011-06-08T13:39:00.000-07:00

This Saturday, Kamala Devi and Shawn Roop are co-creating a spacious day of conscious connection on this glorious retreat and nature perserve. Come experience evolutionary sexuality!

Saturday, June 11th from 11am to 11pm We will will be raising our vibration for the 11-11-11 Tantra Palooza Fetsival. Gathering on a beautiful summer day out in nature on a healing land in Poway, we will meditate, dance, play, connect, snuggle with community, and luxuriate in each other's company.

Here is a picture of the beautiful community kitchen. Please bring a healthy vegitarian potluck dish for our community dinner. And please bring your own sack lunch because lunch will be on your own, on the land. This is a full day of Tantric connection!

Here is an updated schedule for the day:

11am Opening Circle
12pm- A psychodrama style forum
1:15pm Lunch on the Land (Bring your own lunch)
2:30pm Exploration of Sexual Evolution w/ initiation
4:30pm God and Goddess Circle
5:30pm Overhearing the Secrets
6pm Evolutionary Sexuality puja
7pm Community Feast (Bring a Vegetarian dish to share)
8pm TANTRA THEATER SHOW!
9pm Snuggle Party
11pm Closing Circle
For Tickets: http://tasteoftantrapalooza.eventbrite.com/

For more info about your guides go to:

Kamala Devi www.blisscoach.com

Shawn Roop www.TantraQuest.com

Tantra Theater www.TantraTheater.TV

We will be raising our vibration to launch into Tantra Palooza 11/11/11.

Come join in the day long celebration called: Taste of Tantra Palooza,

Hosted by Kamala Devi and the SD Tantra Group.

Special Taste of Tantra Palooza invitation: Apply your $50 ticket toward Tantra Palooza 11/11/11 and pay only $547!

Or~

Take advantage of this SPECIAL PRICE today:

$497 FOR FIRST 11 PEOPLE TO PAY IN FULL FOR 5 DAY 11/11/11 FESTIVAL!!!

Go to: http://tantrapalooza11-11-11.eventbrite.com/

Kali Das ॐ

Inspiration for the Sacred Slut Show

2011-06-01T23:23:00.000-07:00

The following collage is made up of pictures that inspire my asthetic concept for my new show. I post this series to coordinat my set and costume design. Photos 1, 6 and 10 are of various Annie Sprinkle performances, since I will be doing a tribute to her "Legend of the Ancient Sacred Prostitute." She is the greatest inspiration for this show.

Come Support the Show:
July 7th - 9th at the Moxie Theater
Doors Open at 7pm
Admission: $20 presale Tickets: http://sacredslutseries.eventbrite.com/
$25 at the door. Go to www.tantratheater.tv

Mark your Calendar for Sacred Slut Show at Moxie Theater

2011-06-01T18:06:00.000-07:00

San Diego Tantra Theater presents:
The Sacred Slut Show by Kamala Devi

This provocative show is an embodied exploration of the world's oldest profession. After over a year of hands on research and interviews with world-renown sexperts, Kamala Devi weaves a tapestry of personal narrative, dance, prayer, and poetry. The show spans the spectrum from sacred to the profane, juxtaposing modern session-work with ancient myths and Sufi poetry. In this audience-interactive performance, Kamala Devi represents a variety of faces of the Eternal whore as she was, will be and is now. The show features stories from: Annie Sprinkle, Veronica Monet, Akasha Rose, Mare Simone and Tracey Elise.

OPENING ACT The Tantra Theater Troupe will open with 30 minutes of Improvisational Comedy. We use audience suggestions and stories to spoof and teach about sacred sex onstage! Improv. Players may include: Michael McClure, Rita Mooney, Akasha Rose, Heidi Nielsen, Rae NeWoman and Shawn Roop.

July 7th - 9th
Moxie Theater in La Mesa
Doors Open at 7pm
Admission: $20 presale Tickets: http://sacredslutseries.eventbrite.com/
$25 at the door.
www.Tantratheater.tv

Dez does "Fully Integrated Spirituality" in SD

2011-06-01T09:10:00.000-07:00

THIS EVENT HAS BEEN CANCELLED--Details TBA
Go to www.babadez.com for more workshops by Dez

My Co-Author Baba Dez is coming to town!
He has been circling the globe with playshops and seminars For the last 2 years and he's making a brief stop over in San Diego

Baba Dez will share foundational information with energetic transmissions and exercises for presencing, activation, and integration of Spiritual Sexual Energy to deepen our ability to support ourselves, our people, and all humanity in conscious evolution.

BABA DEZ NICHOLS is a Internationally renowned speaker and teacher, Daka, author, singer-songwriter, and transformational guide, trained in the Sacred Temple Arts to share, inspire, and support others in their integration of the divine masculine and feminine (Shiva/Shakti) energies within. He is the founder of the Sedona Temple and School of Temple Arts and the Annual Daka-Dakini Conferences for sacred sexual healers, Tantra teachers and practitioners. He has studied, assisted, and been blessed with the presence and wisdom of many masters around the world for over 30 years. His path is to travel worldwide and help others deepen in their truth and power, find healing & enjoyment in transformation, and manifest grounded results. Baba Dez is the co-author of Sacred Sexual Healing-the Shaman Method of Sex Magic.
THIS EVENT HAS BEEN CANCELLED--Details TBA

New Vision 4 Taste of Tantra Palooza

2011-05-30T12:46:00.000-07:00

We're counting down...Only 6 months until Tantra-Palooza! A life-changing Sacred Sex Fest with 11 Tantra Teachers! To celebrate, we're inviting you to gather and intensify your energy at this single day event, or a taste, before 11-11-11. Imagine a beautiful summer day out in nature on a healing land in Poway where we can meditate, dance, play, connect and snuggle with community. The first vision was to host a bunch of teachers and have a big buffet of lots of mini-workshops...but the more I felt into it, the more I saw us luxuriating in each other's company.

NEW VISION: I invited Shawn Roop to co-create a spacious day of conscious connection. Shawn and I have designed a deep curriculum for you to awaken, and emmerse yourself in evolutionary sacred sexuality! Bring your own lunch and also dish for our vegetarian community dinner. This is a full day of Tantric connection!

Date: June 11, 2011
Time: 11a to 11p
Where: Poway, directions with confirmation
RSVP: kalidas@blisscoach.com
Tuition: Only $50 for the whole day.
(or FREE if you sign up for Tantra-Palooza!!

For Tickets: http://tasteoftantrapalooza.eventbrite.com/

Schedule:
11am Opening Circle
12pm- Exploration of Sexual Evolution w/ initiation
1:15pm Lunch on the Land (Bring your own lunch)
2:30pm A psychodrama style forum
4:30pm God and Goddess Circle
5:30pm Overhearing the Secrets
6pm Evolutionary Sexuality puja
7pm Community Feast (Bring a Vegetarian dish to share)
8pm TANTRA THEATER SHOW!
9pm Sacred Snuggle Party
11pm Closing Circle

For more info about your guides go to:
Kamala Devi www.blisscoach.com
Shawn Roop www.TantraQuest.com
Tantra Theater http://www.tantratheater.tv/

Special Taste of Tantra Palooza invitation: Apply your $50 ticket toward Tantra Palooza 11/11/11 and pay only $547! Go to: http://tantrapalooza11-11-11.eventbrite.com/

Not another self indulgent One-Woman-Show

2011-05-28T11:44:00.000-07:00

There is always a fine line between Art and Therapy, and when Tantra Theater is done right, that line dissolves. Generally we do this through 90 days of group psychodrama before inviting an audience into our process. Now, I am furiously preparing to showcase my first solo performance in about a month.
After about a year of research, development and procrastination, I've created a One-Woman-Show about the sacred prostitute. Because I believe in the power of deadlines, I booked a local theater in only FIVE WEEKS. That's hardly enough time to work through my self doubt, self consciousness and self judgment, let alone enough time to edit, MEMORIZE, rehearse and produce the hour long show.
As a creativity coach, I'm used to midwifing artists through said resistance. In fact part of my job description, as director of Tantra Theater, is to hold the artist by the hand and remind them to speak their truth. "Who cares what your mother, neighbor, rabbi would say, a true artist is willing to be misunderstood!" Now, when I visualize myself standing naked on the stage (figuratively as well as literally) my mouth goes dry, my knees start to shake and I wonder, who's going to hold my hand?
"What are you afraid of?" I ask myself, closing my eyes to inquire deeper. I allow feelings to focus beyond familiar fears of failure, not trying, looking like an ass, disappointing my fans, not living up to my own standards, sabotaging myself, or getting arrested and having child protective services take away my 4 year old son. To my surprise, my greatest block is ...drumroll please... fear of being self indulgent. I got into theater to help other people, my inner critic says, nobody wants to see me get onstage and watch me heal myself, especially if they're paying for tickets at the door.

I paid to sit through a whole litany of angry feminist rants in the name of self expression while studying performance art in college. When bored by what was happening onstage, I sat in the dark audience imagining a discursive spoof called: "Look at me, look at me, look at me!" The unbearable thought of contributing another self indulgent peice to the already embarrassing list of obscure post modern solo plays, is why it has taken me over 15 years to finally create my own show.
I confess I would rather die than re-tell the story of my dysfunctional upbringing in public-- And this is from a woman who is constantly preaching about the value of vulnerability! So, the only way I gathered the gumption to get up there, is by telling other people's stories. I admit it, I'm too chicken shit to share my own, so I built a show around interviews with five women, my mentors. Now, I am sincerely honored that these powerful pioneers in sacred sex have entrusted me to share their intimate details about being arrested, nearly raped, judged and ultimately liberated. As I refine their powerful stories, I realize the potential we have to affect social change, but the only way to do that, is to personally affect the audience, which requires me to be vulnerable.
This is the most ego confronting work I've ever encountered. I've spent 3 years supporting other people step up to the stage to heal rape, body image, sexual identity, STD and other taboo issues. After several months scrambling for other performers and/or a different director, I am finally ready to step up and share these stories. And then, the plot thickened. Annie Sprinkle, pioneer performance artist and one of my interview subjects, insists that I do a self pleasuring scene onstage. Hell, If you're going to be self indulgent, do it all the way!
Ha, ha, ha HA! (This is my awkward 'oh shit' laugh of disbelief.)
Then I remember what Ellen DeGenerous's says in her one woman show. She used to go to therapy and ramble on about her neurosis, (you know, all the dissatisfying details that come with being human.) Then she thought, why pay a stranger to listen to her talk, when she can get a whole room of strangers to pay her to listen to her talk! But she's Ellen DeGenerous.
And who am I? I wonder. Can I truly get naked and strip off my defenses along with my lingerie? Can I take off the title of author, director, self proclaimed goddess, and just connect with the audience? In the last scene of "The legend of the Sacred Prostitute," Annie Sprinkle plucks off her false eye lashe, still breathing heavy after a great orgasm, while looking into the audience. Could I do that? And be authentic? Annie promises that the sacred part of prostitution comes when we are authentic. She coaches me to perform her invocation in my own voice, my own style. Could I cum onstage and not be attached to whether it was good for them, or if they will tell their friends that they think I faked it?
I don't know yet how it's going to turn out, I haven't even finished the script, but now at least one thing is clear: I am willing to be self indulgent. And indulging in the self... feels damn good.

Tantra Theater presents The Sacred Slut Show opens July 7,8,9th $20 presale tickets $25 at the door. http://sacredslutseries.eventbrite.com/ The play is inspired by interviews with Annie Sprinkle, Mare Simone, Amara Charles, Veronica Monet, Tracy Elise and other anonymous sacred sex pioneers.

The BOHO SHOW in a Nutshell....

2011-05-23T21:49:00.000-07:00

Cliff Notes for BOHO SHOW!

Tantra Theater's director Kamala Devi opens the show with poetry from the Dead Sea Scrolls entltied Thunder, Perfect Mind. "I am Godless. And I am the one who's god is Great!"

The Bohemian troupe goes on to introduce themselves with wacky personal ads. In sum, we're a motly bunch of poly tantrikas in search of double jointed, adventurous, kinky nudists for tea, yoga and deep conversation...wink. wink.

Heidi Neilson (AKA Kali Das)- Performs an original poem entitled Bohemian Rhapsody wherein she describes the dawn of her sexual awakening at her first Sacred Snuggle party.

Michael does a hilarious new rendition of "Orgasm Man" originally written and posted on Youtube by Comedy Inc. In this picture we see his orgasm mudra and advanced acronym: O.

James Schmachtenberger tells us about his unconventional upbringing in Life in a Laboratory. Here we see his first memory of seeing a vagina was when he was 3 years old and his nanny sat on the edge of the bed giving me an anatomy lesson.

Kassia shares the magical tale of how she healed her Love addiction. In a dream-like encounter with her fairy godfather we see Esteban activating her sacral chakra.

In "Prince Charming", Esteban boldly breaks social taboos by humorously exposing his STD history. In this scene Michael freezes warts off his hands with liquid nitrogen.

Katie Holton received a standing ovation for her performance called "The Full Molly." Here she sings Chantilly Lace at a Karaoke club at the Dinah Shore weekend.

Mankx explores the wild world of sexual role play with a blow up doll. In this scene, Gigi asks Mankx if he's willing to do a prisoner guard and prisoner scene, where she gets to be the guard.

In "I Know Why The Caged Cock Cringes" by Katie Holton, the audience get to experience lesbian sex, from dick's perspective.

Kamala Devi undresses in the "White Tigress," a performance art piece inspired by Quodoshka teacher and author, Amara Charles. This piece is a preview from Kamala's forthcoming one-woman-show entitled: The Sacred Slut Series.

Aknowledgments: Photos by Julie Kondor, Electrick Rick, Crew: Shawn Roop, Vilma, Maha Laksmi, Sarah Murray Novak, Janos, Monique Darling,Nate Darling, SheilaJoy Keller, Steve Bickell, Peter

Thank you for making it such a fabulous show! For details go to: http://www.tantratheater.tv/. Videos will be posted soon.

Do we offend you?

2011-05-18T12:05:00.000-07:00

Sex Educators step up to the Stage, using 'Passion Plays' to Preach about Sacred Sexuality.

Article by Kamala Devi, as commissioned by http://www.wordsarenotenough.info

Before the weekend's big show, my husband and ran to a new salon for a last minute hairdo. The innocent beautician asked, "What kind of actors are you?"

Having established that she never heard of the Vagina Monologues, but watches Sex in the City, I tell her, "I'm the director of a local theater troupe called, SD Tantra Theater. We a band of about a dozen sex-positive teachers and healers who use performance art to educate and entertain.

Snip. Snip.

"In a sense it's political because we are stepping up and talking about sexual taboos in front of hundreds of people."

Blink. Blink. She stares at me blankly.

"It could also be seen as our ministry, because we do everything in the context of ritual and our work is infused with a spiritual message."

"But are you playing some kind of role?" She presses innocently.

"I'm playing the role of a prostitute from ancient Egypt. My husband Michael is a man who can't stop orgasm-ing, we've got other players who tell stories about healing STDs, coming out transgendered, and even practicing sacred sadomasochism."

"Wow." She continues, "Do you ever have to compromise your morals onstage? I mean, does your husband have to kiss other actresses--with tongue?"

"Sometimes there is deep kissing and petting onstage. But that doesn't necessarily compromise our morals." I suggest.

"Are you like swingers?"

"Sort of, some of our players prefer the term "Open" "Polyamorus" or "Free Love." Some of us are also, married, professionals, parents, activists and believe it or not a few of our players are practicing celibates. But nobody has to comprise their morals, because each performer is also an author, so the scripts are specifically designed to help the author heal the guilt and shame they carry around sex and spirituality."

"My dad still gives me a hard time about having sex before I'm married. Is that the kind of taboo you're talking about?"

"Exactly. Or that we're not supposed to masturbate in public, or tasting your own menstrual blood."

"Ew. Gross."She glances at me in the mirror.

"Sorry, did I take it too far? Our performances are designed to be personal growth experiences because we say. What everyone else is afraid of saying, and then if you get offended we ask you to look at why your triggered."

"Mmm. Interesting. You should write a book about it." She says, I think she's trying to change the subject. But I continue.

"Tantra can't be learned in a book. Even though I've written two books: Don't drink the Punch and Sacred Sexual Healing. Tantra is not just an abstract philosophy; it's a direct embodied experience. Historically Tantra is an oral tradition and it involved the 64 temple arts such as dance, music, song, art...

Live theater is a perfect outlet for these teachings. Coming to our show is like going to a church service. We bring the community together, turn down the lights, focus everyone's attention, as we entertain and educate in fellowship. Laughter and tears can be healing when shared in a group. Our motto is: you'll laugh, you'll cry, you'll come. Again and again."

"How long have you been at it?"

Three years ago I gathered a group of friends, they were mostly improv performers who had varying degrees of experience with Tantra and we started by playing theater games in my backyard. I immediately recognized the psycho dramatic therapeutic potential of our play. Storytelling on topics of shameful sexuality was highly ego confronting and potentially liberating. The safety of this small group dynamic led me to wonder what was possible if we wrestled with our personal growth for 3 months and then took it to a larger stage. The process is very organic, we just come together and tell stories every week, until eventually a show starts to take shape. This weekend is the graduation of about a dozen players who just finished 90 days of writing and rehearsing around the question: "what makes you sexually unique." It's called our bohemian show. It is our sixth show. We've since traveled to conferences, performed at festivals, and offer hours of streaming video on our website: www.Tantratheater.tv

I'm most excited about my forthcoming one-woman-show about sacred prostitution, entitled: the Slut Series. I'll be performing in North Park in July, 2011. I'm using dance, prayer and poetry to bring to life interviews of real life sacred whores. As with all our shows, there will be interactive ritual with the audience. In fact, one of our gifts is to ask audience to volunteer their stories and dramatize them onstage. We find this gives people permission to see their sex as sacred and their life as art.

By the end of my monologue, my hairdresser brushes hair off my shoulders and asks me what I think. The mirror reveals a stylish new cut that looks just like David Beckham's wife. The hairdresser is proud of herself, "It's sexy enough for your audience, but you can still pull off a soccer mom when you need to."

I thank her, and hand her a flyer that reads: "Sacred Sex is not just for the bedroom anymore." The boho show is May 20th &21^st. Doors open at 7:00pm TICKETS are only $20 pre-sale available online or and $25 at the door on the evening of the performance. For more information contact Kali Das TantrikaKaliDas@gmail.com or go to www.tantratheater.tv.
To purchase discount tickets go to: http://www.partnerplayshop.com/page/page/8090608.htm

Thanks for supporting the Arts. Hope to see you at the theater,

Kamala Devi

www.blisscoach.com

Nude, Lewd and Socially Unacceptable

2011-05-13T10:23:00.000-07:00

Warning: Content includes Lewd, Nude, and Socially Unacceptable Behavior. For those of you that can't read the fuzzy red print on the bottom of the poster, this show is strictly for age 18 and over.

We have only one week until the show. Buy your discount tickets here: http://tantratheater20th.eventbrite.com/

New Promo photos for the Bohemian Show

2011-05-06T16:04:00.000-07:00

We, the bohemian Tantra Theater Troupe, gathered on Kamala Devi's birthday for a colorful photo shoot and marathon rehearsal. We are vulnerably and nervously working on original poetry, song and personal narratives that explore issues of:
Polyamory,
Transexuality,
Love addiction,
Sacred prostitution,
Sexually transmitted Diseases
and even Sado-Masochism.

Tantra Theater Presents:
THE bo-he-mi-an SHOW!
Writer/performers are pictured above from Right to Left. Kamala Devi, James Schmachtenberger, Michael McClure, Mankx Wilson, Katie Holton, Kassia Young-Walker, Heidi Neilson, Esteban Cisnez, and Akasha Rose. Photo by Julie Kondor.

2 showings of bo-he-mia:
FRI May 20th
http://tantratheater20th.eventbrite.com/
AND Sat May 21st!
http://tantratheater21st.eventbrite.com/
Tower Room at the Handerly Hotel (Hotel Circle, San Diego)
Doors open at 7pm Show at 7:30pm
$25 tickets at door. $20 if you buy online or from a cast member.
Wear your most bohemian clothing.
Space is limited to 100 seats, and usually sells out!
www.tantratheater.tv

Tantra Theater Performs at 10th Annual Sexuality Conference

2011-05-02T19:52:00.000-07:00

In this unlikely scene, San Diego Tantra Theater players: Akasha Rose, Kamala Devi, Michael, and Shawn Roop dramatize a sexual awakening story volunteered by unsuspecting audience member. There were approx. 150 people in attendance at this year's gathering for sacred sexuality professionals. It was the 10th annual conference for ISTA: International School of Temple Arts and Master Mantak Chia was the Keynote speaker.

Tantra Theater offered all new material for main stage entertainment on Saturday Night before the evening Play party. Shawn Roop starts off with an orginal piece which explores the question: "What do you tell people when they ask you what do you do?"

Michael McClure AKA Eco-Elf, does a Hilarius reenactment of a popular tantra spoof by Comedy Inc.

Kamala Devi offers a dramatic interpretation of literature, a poem entitled "Thunder, Perfect Mind" from the Nag Hammid Library. 380 BC. And then we did Improv. Comedy based on a day in the life of Baba Dez Nichols.

After the scripted performance art, we did interactive performance art with the audience.

The highlight of the show was improvisational comedy created from an interview with Baba Dez Nichols. In this scene, Baba Dez tells about one of the first sessions he ever offered.

Audience member Trish graces us with the juicy story of her first Amrita, and allows us to reenact it on stage.

We closed the evening with a prayer and invitation to join us for more Tantra Theater at our upcoming show entitled "bohemian" in San Diego on Fri. May 20th and Sat. May 21st. At the Handlery Tower Room in San Diego. This event will sell out. For online tickets please go to: http://tantratheater20th.eventbrite.com/ For more details about Tantra Theater go to http://www.tantratheater.tv/

The End.

My Shocking Spring Break or How I Almost Died in Mexico

2011-04-27T16:46:00.000-07:00

Electricity and water don't mix. Or so I've been told, but I never had the bad fortune to find out for myself until a few days ago in Cabo San Lucas. I spent Easter week with my family on a relaxing vacation at an ocean front resort and spa.

To escape from the responsibility of parenthood, Michael and I enrolled our 4 year old son in a Spanish speaking day care to decorate Easter eggs while we indulged in traditional ayervedic massages.

The entrance to the posh health spa sports a sign which reads: "silence beyond this point." We were issued silk robes, reflexology shoes and heating pads before being ushered into a treatment room for Shirodhara:

"A soothing continuous stream of warm organic herbal oil is gently and slowly poured across the forehead and over the third eye, rolling gently through the hair and off the scalp into a catch-basin below the massage table."

The massage was not explicitly sexual, but when you believe your whole body is an erotic organ, every massage becomes a sensual one. During the scalp and feet treatment my intention was rebirth. To burn off old karma, especially having to do with post pardum depression. I was releasing the last threads of my "Tragedy generator." I trust that life will offer me enough entertainment, I don't need to add my own drama, (unless it's on the stage.) So I breathed in the essential oils and felt my heart being massaged by my expanding lungs with each breath.

Afterwards Michael and I separated to our gender specific spas for some soak time. My ecstasy expanded when I stepped into a shower with 15 shower heads; it was like a human car wash!!! After a meditative sauna I prepared for a naked and solo soak in a romantic Jacuzzi that had eerie blue mood lighting. (The actual spa is pictured above.) I slipped off my reflexology sandals and as soon as I stepped in, I felt intense shivers and saw a neon web of lights flash in the middle of my mind. It felt like a thrilling kundalini experience, until I stepped my second foot in, and nearly passed out. Immediately, I fell over and released my own waters. I felt nauseous as I stumbled to the toilet to relieve the rest of my bladder. I sat there wondering, what the hell just happened? and when I came to my senses, I understood that the spa must be broken.

I laid on a lounge chair to catch my breath and when the maid entered to refill my ice tea, I told her (in Spanish) that I thought a light was broken and that the spa is dangerous. She looked at me confused and dipped her hand in the water, but nothing happened. I self-consciously continued to explane that I nearly pissed myself. So she tried it again, this time she plunged deeper and grounded on the side of the basin and quickly pulled her hand back out with a loud yelp. "Aaaah! OK, wait here, I'll go get help."

I met up with Michael in the reception room as they put "out of service" signs up at the Jacuzzi. The manager offered to send a doctor up to my room, but I mostly just wanted to rest and told him I'd call him if I needed. In bed Michael and I played with the electric energy in my body, because I discovered I was too wired to sleep (this went on for about three days.) In the morning I looked in the mirror and discovered a new salt and pepper streak of grey hair behind my ear. Also the electricity actually increased my sex drive, (if that's possible.) And when I had breakfast with my father he said he recognized a familiar look of mania in my eyes. He was a UC professor of psychology and says it was standard practice to use electric shock on subjects suffering from depression.

Of course, the biggest benefit of this accident is gratitude for my life. My meditative plunge could have been fatal, but I'm thrilled to not only be alive, but fully so. Also, since the experience, the universe feels like such a gift, and those things I took for granted feel so precious. Especially my relationships. The greatest gift in this blessed life, is how much I'm loved.
Electrically,

Kamala Devi

New DATES for Tantra Theater SHOW

2011-04-25T17:33:00.000-07:00

Tantra Theater Presents 2 showings of bo-he-mia:
Mark your Calendar for FRI May 20th AND Sat May 21st!
at the Tower Room at the Handerly Hotel
(Hotel Circle, San Diego)

Doors open at 7pm Show at 7:30pm
$25 tickets at door. $20 if you buy from a cast member.
Wear your most bohemian clothing

and selected performances will repeat at: TASTE of TANTRA-PALOOZA on Sat May 28th in Poway

We modern bohemians are passionate contradictions. We are sensitive, yet we care not what others think. We are visionaries in art and culture, pissing people off as we push towards world peace. We believe in our various causes with such intensity that we either enroll or overwhelm those around us. We love music, have pets, light candles, read poetry and dress in a manner that makes you wonder if there is an old winnebago driving around South America without curtains. We are eccentric trend setters who are too individualistic to organize a real movement. But somehow we manage to dominate poetry readings and have put together this sexy performance art happening. We hope to see you at our show.

http://www.tantratheater.tv/

Featuring original work by:

Shawn Roop,

Michael McClure,

Akasha Rose,

Heidi Neilson,

Esteban Cisnez,

Katie Holton,

James Schmachtenberger

Kassia Young-Walker,

Mankx Wilson,

Directed by Kamala Devi

http://www.tantratheater.tv/

Happy Easter

2011-04-25T09:56:00.000-07:00

OK, I admit, Devin's Easter Basket might be seasonally inappropriate, but this holiday never made much sense to me anyway. Can someone please explane to our children why we celebrate Jesus's violent crucifiction with fables of little furry mammels laying chocoalte eggs??

Tantra Talk: Enlightenment Dyads with Amrita

2011-04-13T08:46:00.000-07:00

In addition to being an Enlightenment Master, Amrita Joy Ananda Ma calls herself a yogi/priestess/channel. She lead the tantra talk with 24 truth seeker at the Emerald Temple Last night. We practiced the Enlightenment Dyad Technique. For more details about Amrita and her channeling go to: http://www.amaritha.com/, she has been channeling for the past 20 years.
Or visit our teacher Yoah:
http://yoahyoah.blogspot.com/

Mark your Calendar for these upcoming events:
Sat. May 7th Sacred Snuggle Party 6:45-11pm
Tues. May 10th Tantra Talk 6:45pm
Sat. May 14th Tantra Theater Show: bo-he-me-ian
Sat. May 28th Taste of Tantra Palooza!
11am-11pm 11/11/11 Tantra Palooza!
To register write kalidas@blisscoach.com
http://www.blisscoach.com/ or call 858-272-2254 http://www.tantratheater.tv/

Inspiration for bo-he-mi-an (tantra theater show)

2011-04-10T17:31:00.000-07:00

San Diego Tantra Theater's presents:
bo-he-mi-an
We modern bohemians are passionate contradictions. We are sensitive, yet we care not what others think. We are visionaries in art and culture, pissing people off as we push towards world peace. We believe in our various causes with such intensity that we either enroll or overwhelm those around us. We love music, have pets, light candles, read poetry and dress in a manner that makes you wonder if there is an old winnebago driving around South America without curtains. We are eccentric trend setters who are too individualistic to organize a real movement. But somehow we manage to dominate poetry readings and have put together this sexy performance art happening. We hope to see you at our show.
http://www.tantratheater.tv/
Here's a collage of images to inspire the cast and crew for our upcoming Show:

Hope these inspire you as much as they inspire me!

Details:
7:30pm Saturday May 14th 2011.
(Possible show on Friday May 13th)
$25 per ticket. $20 early bird special if you buy from a cast member.
Location: TBA

Featuring original work by:
Shawn Roop,
Michael McClure,
Akasha Rose,
Heidi Neilson,
Esteban Cisnez,
Katie Holton,
James Schmachtenberger
Kassia Young-Walker,
Mankx Wilson,
Directed by Kamala Devi
http://www.tantratheater.tv/

"Poly" is more than Polyamorous.

2011-04-09T15:06:00.000-07:00

I recently made a public declaration of my relationship status on Facebook. I announced to the world I had (gulp) 9 "Poly" lovers. For most my devoted readers, that may not be news, yet it has filled my inbox with questions such as:

How does that work?
Do they know each other?
How do you manage your time?
Do you have sex with all of them?
And my personal favorite question: What's the application process?

These questions inspire me to share some valuable distinctions about my style of open relating. First, I want to explain why I prefer the prefix "Poly" to Polyamorous.
By it's most essential definition, Poly is a Greek term that means: Many, much or more than one. According to some definitions (and people, like my mom,) it can also indicate having an excessive or abnormal number or amount.

It's important to know that within the cultural context of the Poly community, Poly implies deep, meaningful, long term connections with friends and lovers with an explicit agreement that everyone is openly informed of all other parties involved.

When "Poly" is combined with a variety of suffixes, it can form the following words which indicate distinctly different intentions, so being "Poly" can include and transcend the following:

Polyamory: It's about Love
Poly Sensual: It's about pleasure
Poly Sexual: It's about sacred union
Poly fidelity: it's about commitment

In different relationships, at different times, I may define myself as any combination of the above. This short list makes it easy to see that someone who is polyamorous could even be celibate and is not necessarily polysexual. Personally, I tend to be polyamorus with everyone, but am very selective about who I move into sensuality or sexuality with. If you must know, I'm only having intercourse with several of my lovers, but enjoy cuddling, kissing, petting and sometimes even oral sex with the others. In my heart, I am open to the possibility of moving deeper into sexuality with any of my poly lovers if the desire arises.
My highest ideal of Poly is to show up in every moment open to the truth of the relationship and letting that unfold organically in consideration and consent of all parties involved. In this model, the relationship is authentic instead of an obligatory fulfillment of social expectations.

In practice, I am simultaneously engaged in emotional, sexual, intellectual, and/or spiritual relationships with people who also know and love each other. My style of relating tends to look like a cloud, a pod or a constellation. I especially enjoy being included when my lovers are sharing love and sensuality with each other.

However, not all of my lovers consider themselves as part of a pod. Each individual has unique and dynamic inter-relationships. Some of them have limiting restrictions and boundaries with the others (such as between the straight men.) Some of them have never even met (especially since I've got lovers in LA, San Francisco, Portland, New york, Sedona.) Conversely, my lovers may have other lovers I have never met, or (gasp) I don't like. At different times, my lovers may chose to practice polyfidelity (aka polyexclusivity) where they agree to be sexually active only with certain members of the group. This beautiful and sometimes necessary structure is a closed system that may help lovers build or restore trust and/or experience. Currently, I am practicing Poly inclusively and am open to expanding my deep authentic connections.

The running joke on Facebook is: So what's the application process? As a minimum requirement, my lovers have to be experienced at:

Transparent Communication,
No drama,
Safe sex,
Connection to Self and Spirit.

Beyond these basic pre-requisites, it's a matter of chemistry, timing and the grace of God.

For clarification:
There are a number of cultural misunderstandings about the Poly label.

     Perhaps the most hotly debated distinction is between Poly and swinging (aka the Lifestyle.) In swinging, primary partners agree to engage in recreational sex which is casual and not necessarily emotional. In my experience, there is a large overlap between communities. Swingers will often fall in love with each other, and  many poly people will often experiment at swing parties.
     Polyamory is also mistaken with Polygymy: one man married with multiple wives (which is an arrangement which unfortunately historically doesn't always involve consent of all parties involved.)
Even more confusion arises when the prefix Poly is confused with Pan, Omni or Bi. Pansexuality or Omnisexuality is when someone has the potential for sexual attraction towards all sexual identities, genders or orientations. Also referred to as gender blind or gender queer. Which is different still than Bisexuality because it transcends the attraction to two genders and includes people who fall outside the gender binary.
      It's also important to note that people can be Polyamorous and single, or in primary relationship with self or spirit.
     And finally, I want to celebrate the Poly-curious. If you are looking for alternative relationship paradigms, and thinking outside the box, it may take some experimenting to find out what really turns you on. It is OK to think you MIGHT be polyamous, and as long as your honest, I think everyone could benefit from trying it out for a month, a year or a lifetime. I hereby dedicate this blog post to the poly-curious. I look forward to hearing your comments and questions!
     Closing Disclaimer:
      Obviously, there are many variations on types of agreements used by different relationships and I have no intention to speak for all "poly" individuals and families. Ultimately each individual has to label and define themselves, and there are even disagreements about terms and labels amongst my lovers.

The One.

2011-04-04T16:50:00.000-07:00

One

Of all the numbers accounted for by man,

the most significant yet incalculable

is how many beings you touch.

Your love cannot be quantified,

for every candle you illuminate

seems to spark all others in their sphere.

You have set such a fire to my heart that

I transform every soul I embrace since,

Still your spark reaches farther than that.

For your dharma drives you into dark corners,

where you tirelessly stoke the smoldering embers

of those who's glow has long since been given up on.

Despite your gift of serving the many through the one,

containing your light, for the sole benefit of any

is as counterproductive as trying to possess the sun.

And so it is that you finally melted my attachments:

My trying, my wanting, my holding, even my accounting,

I release all, but the burning desire for you to to shine on.

Love,

Kamala Devi

The Whore and the Holy one...

2011-03-30T21:12:00.000-07:00

(Gnostic poetry found in Egypt dated 380 a.d.)

I was sent forth from the power,

and I have come to those who reflect upon me,
...and I have been found among those who seek after me.
Look upon me, you who reflect upon me,
and you hearers, hear me.
...Do not be ignorant of me anywhere or any time.
Be on your guard!
Do not be ignorant of me.

For I am the first and the last.
I am the honored one and the scorned one.
I am the whore and the holy one.
I am the wife and the virgin.
I am and the daughter.
I am the members of my mother.
I am the barren one
and many are her sons.
I am she whose wedding is great,
and I have not taken a husband.
I am the bride and the bridegroom,
and it was my husband who begot me.
...I am the mother of my father
and the sister of my husband
and he is my offspring...

I am the silence that is incomprehensible
and the idea whose remembrance is frequent.
I am the voice whose sound is manifold
and the word whose appearance is multiple.
I am the utterance of my name.

...You who deny me, confess me,
and you who confess me, deny me.
...You who know me, be ignorant of me,
and those who have not known me, let them know me.
For I am knowledge and ignorance.
I am shame and boldness.
I am shameless; I am ashamed.
...Give heed to me
...Give heed to my poverty and my wealth.
...and you will find me in the kingdoms.
And do not look upon me when I am cast out among those who
are disgraced and in the least places,
nor laugh at me.
...I, I am compassionate and I am cruel.

Be on your guard!
...I am she who exists in all fears
and strength in trembling.
...For I am the judgement of the Greeks and the barbarians.
....I am the one whose image is great in Egypt
and the one who has no image...
I am the one who has been hated everywhere
and who has been loved everywhere.
I am the one whom they call Life,
and you have called Death.
I am the one whom they call Law,
and you have called Lawlessness.
I am the one whom you have pursued,
and I am the one whom you have seized.
I am the one whom you have scattered,
and you have gathered me together.
I am the one before whom you have been ashamed,
and you have been shameless to me.
...I, I am godless,
and I am the one whose God is great.
...I am unlearned,
and they learn from me.
I am the knowledge of my inquiry,
...and of women who dwell within me.
I am peace,
and war has come because of me.
I am the substance and the one who has no substance.
...I am control and the uncontrollable.
...I am the one below,
and they come up to me.
I am the judgment and the acquittal.
I, I am sinless,
and the root of sin derives from me.
I am lust in (outward) appearance,
and interior self-control exists within me.
I am the hearing which is attainable to everyone
and the speech which cannot be grasped.
I am a mute who does not speak,
and great is my multitude of words.
Hear me in gentleness, and learn of me in roughness.
I am she who cries out, ...and I listen.
...I am the one who is called Truth
...For I am the one who alone exists,
and I have no one who will judge me.

For many are the pleasant forms which exist in numerous sins,
...and disgraceful passions,
and fleeting pleasures,
which (men) embrace until they become sober
and go up to their resting place.
And they will find me there,
and they will live,
and they will not die again.

...I was sent forth from the power.

Exerpts From"The Thunder, Perfect Mind." Part of the Nag Hammadi Library, a collection of mostly Gnostic writings from the third century CE, discovered in Egypt in 1945.Translated by George W. MacRae

I have made this special selection for a dance performance with spoken word in my Tantra Theater Production of Sacred Slut Series. For details go to http://www.tantratheater.tv/

Cuddle for the Cause!

2011-03-28T10:23:00.000-07:00

We threw a wild party, everyone got love drunk and fired prayer rockets into the midnight sky. Satuday's Monthly Sacred Snuggle Party was a Fundraiser for Japan. We did Naked Yoga, Cuddled for the cause, and even offered lap dances to raise almost $1K for EQ and Tsunami relief. To donate, we have selected Doctors without Borders and invite you to do the same by clicking: http://www.doctorswithoutborders.org/donate/overview.cfm?ref=main-menu

At the closing circle we held hands and sent our prayers oversees. We also acknowledged that human sexuality is one of the most powerful forces on the planet, we intend to raise this vibration and use it for the good of all. It is important that we continue to do our personal growth and on behalf of the entire Earth, for there is no spirituality that is separate from any other sentient being.

Here is a beautiful prayer posted by Pablo Cohelo (Ttranslated by Ken Crane below.)

PRAYER FOR JAPAN

日本の為に祈ります

主よ、我々の住むこの惑星を守りたまえ
私達は日々、悲劇と直面しながらこの星の上で生きています

私達が行う日々の復興活動が私達にとっての最善/最高の結果であります事を

破壊された生活を立て直す勇気を私達に与えてください
失った物を回復させる勇気を私達に与えてください
永遠に失われたものを受け入れられるように勇気を与えてください
決して後ろを振り返る事なく、前進する勇気を与えてください
私達の魂がこの苦難を乗り越えられますように
　
主よ、私達に熱意/情熱を与えてください
熱意/情熱は、それに真剣に取り組んでいるかぎりは
全ての事は可能だという事を私達に教えてくれます

主よ、この地球が種を小麦へと
小麦からパンへと変える力を与えてください
そして私達を決して一人きりにしないでください

主よ、私達に思いやりを

しばしば、私達は裸なのに服を着込んでいると思い込んでしまうのです

主よ
勇気、復興、連帯と情熱の意味を教えている日本の友人達の事を忘れないでください

アーメン

Lord, protect our planet, because we live here, and here we dwell with our daily tragedies.
May our daily reconstruction be the result of the very best that we carry within us.
Give us the courage
to be able to reconstruct what was destroyed
to be able to recover what was lost
to be able to accept what was gone forever.
May you give us courage to look ahead,
may we never look back nor allow our soul to be discouraged.
Lord, give us enthusiasm, because Enthusiasm reaffirms to us that everything is possible, as long as we are totally committed to what we are doing.
Lord, may the Earth continue to transform seeds into wheat, may we continue to transmute wheat into bread. Do not leave us in solitude.
Have compassion on us, Lord. For we often think we are dressed when we are naked.
Do not forget, in your mercy, our friends in Japan, who are now teaching us the meaning of Courage, Reconstruction, Solidarity and Enthusiasm.
Amen

Poly Potlulck and Zegg Forum

2011-03-25T14:51:00.000-07:00

**Let's raise funds for Earth Quake relief in Japan at tomorrow's Sacred Snuggle Party in Pacific Beach. All procedes go to charity! **

     The theme of our poly potluck this month was gathering of the tribe. It was a spontaneous decompression from the annual tantric trip to Canyon de Guadalupe. Adam, who started the community event over 13 years ago, assisted me in leading a Zegg stlye forum.
      The forum is a communication and personal growth process that can assist an intentional community in clearing issues. It is especially powerful to shed light on issues surrounding sex, power and money. I personally feel it is relevant to the poly lifestyle because rather than having redundant dyadic processes, it can be, easier and more profound to get all your lovers in one room and clear the air.
      Perhaps the two greatest side-effects of doing this work over time is 1) Authentic vulnerability 2) Transpersonal connection. As we deeply share and witness each others unique personal journeys it becomes impossible to ignore how at core we are all so similar and connected.
    When it was my turn to take the stage, My body wanted to express it's physical discomfort, as I've been wrestling with a painful urinary track infection. Then I felt deeper into my emotional body and found I had some ego tenderness around how I was being seen while camping with my new lover. During our trip to the Mexican hotsprings, I shared a tent with my husband, son, new lover, a friend, and even girlfriend.  These are all deep relationships that are special to me, each in their own way. Yet I admit to putting precedence and sometimes playing favorites with my new lover. I wonder how this felt to others in the community, especially after hearing a dear friend say that "the queen of poly becomes suddenly monogamous" when my new lover walks into the room. Another concern I have is that people are uncomfortable when I express my affection to a man that is not my husband. But after sharing, by and large the feedback was that my lovers loved seeing me in love. Janos even gave me the reflection: Who wants a fucking cake if you aren't going to eat it too? Thank you all for witnessing and supporting.
      I am so grateful to be co-creating a conscious community that supports my full expression. I look forward to playing more!
Love, KD
P.S. Here are some forum related events that Adam wants to invite you to:

The first Sunday of the month I have been hosting New Culture Awareness / community potluck gatherings at my house. The next is April 3. Please plan to attend if you can. We are building community and energy for our own camp weekend in the future.
The first weekend in May...we will be hosting a community building / forum weekend with Teryani. Please hold those dates and details will follow.
Don't forget Spring Camp with Kelly next month in Santa Cruz and smmer camp in Oregon in August. For details write

Our next Tantra talk is scheduled for April 12th and Poly Potluck is tentatively scheduled for Thurs. the 28th! Hope you can join us. contact kalidas@blisscoach.com to register.